Wen Yiduo once wrote: "I want to see a few new steles added to the tomb mountain, and there are still flowering bamboos in the back garden of my house."When I was a child, I often passed by the cemetery and often followed my parents to visit the grave. But for the stele, there is no feeling. It's like a stone, in front of you, the difference is that there are a few more words on it.
It wasn't until after my father passed away that I realized that every time I saw the name on the stele, I had an indescribable feeling.
It is said that father's love is like a mountain.
When the father is still alive, the father's love cannot be felt, perhaps the father is too busy to have time to talk about love; Maybe it's because my father is not good at expressing himself, and every time he speaks, he is very irritable and unsettling.
It wasn't until my father fell down and I needed to assume the role of "pillar" that I knew how difficult it was for my father.
It's another fatherless Father's Day. I think back to the stele at my father's grave, which is cold and clearly warm. I don't know what to do, which makes people cry.
Father didn't have an easy life, but he won't tell you.
My father was born in the forties of the last century, and his family lived in a ravine in Shonan, and there was a river that was neither wide nor narrow at the door.
The young father was unwilling to farm all his life and went to the county seat to find a "way out". After many attempts, my father became an employee of a machine factory. It's a pity that because my father didn't finish elementary school, he was dismissed and had to return to his hometown to farm.
Every day, turning over the three acres of paddy fields at home, planting in spring and harvesting in autumn, can also support the family, but it is only to support the family, and there is no hope of getting rich.
As the saying goes, "Opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared." ”
At the end of the seventies of the last century, the village bought a diesel generator. My father took the initiative to ask Ying to be an administrator. Of course, the people in the village agreed, because the father had experience working in a machine factory.
After doing farm work every day, my father went to the village committee and watched the roaring generator, enjoying it.
Whose lights are not lit or whose electrical circuits are faulty, it is logical to ask his father for help. My father was a warm-hearted man who only worked and didn't need money. If the villagers were polite, they would be served a bowl of wine.
Mother often nagged: "You know that if you drink alcohol and don't make money, the family drinks the northwest wind?" ”
There are three children in the family, what do they need to eat, how much does it cost to study, the mother crossed her fingers and talked for a long time.My father didn't reply, but since then I have worked harder, and the family's food, often not enough, can be picked up in the market, and can be sold for a few dollars; There are also a few more pigs in the family. Mother's nagging, a little less.
Later, my father served as the party secretary in the village, and there were more things, and the family situation was slightly better. After all, at the end of the year, my father was able to get some lost time pay.
Looking back now, my father has been tossing his fate, but due to his ability, family, and living environment, he is still an ordinary person. In order to make the family better, you can only "wear many hats".
After finishing the farm work, busy managing the generator, going to the village and township every other day to run errands, dropping the briefcase and picking up the hoe. Living like a spinning top, how can a father have time to hold his child, and how can he have the spirit to say things like "I love you"?
The middle-aged father is helpless, but he must let the family rely on him.
My father couldn't walk anymore, but he still didn't admit defeat and held on.
When my father was sixty or seventy years old, he was sick. The doctor said to quit smoking and drinking.
The father was dismissive and said, "Tobacco and alcohol are not separated." ”
When my father was 70 years old, he was still farming in his hometown. During the festival, when the family eats together, he habitually says, "As long as you can farm the land, you don't have to worry about life."
Until one day, my father drank wine and fell to the ground. Mother anxiously called ** to me.
By the time I rushed to my hometown, my father had already passed away. Before leaving, he didn't say a word of explanation.
I suddenly realized that my father had been strong all his life. It seems that only the appearance of "strong" is what he should be. In addition, he will feel ashamed. Therefore, he rarely "sighed" until the moment of his death.
** In "Alive", it is written: "People, no matter how much they suffer when they are alive, they will think of a way to comfort themselves when they are about to die." ”My father has suffered a lot, but he has not heard a word of comfort, or he himself has not thought about how to comfort himself.
Try your best to let your children read more books and no longer suffer from "reading too little", this is the father; In old age, make every effort not to drag down your children, this is the father; When leaving, don't be a mother-in-law, just a little bit, this is the father.
I remember that my father often told the stories in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", and every time he talked about Zhuge Liang, he cheered up and said"Child, in this mountain, it's bitter. You, just like Zhuge Liang, fly out. ”
After thinking about it for a long time, the love in my father's mouth is probably this sentence. But this sentence is enough.
As a rural father, how difficult is it to send his children to the big city? Tuition, travel expenses, living expenses, marriage expenses, and settling-in expenses. What doesn't worry about my father?
Often, after the father's love is understood, it is "the son wants to support but does not wait".
In the Internet era, any festival has overwhelming blessings, and there are also many articles, **The meaning of the festival, telling you what you should do.
However, after my father passed away, how can I celebrate Father's Day? Go to your father's grave and burn a stick of incense? Do you want to touch that cold stele stone?
No matter what you do, you can't repay your father. I could only cry silently, and then work hard to try to meet my father's expectations.
When your father passed away, you will know when you really take over your father's burden, why do you want to "suffer without saying anything".
Montaigne once said: "The greatest joy of being a father is to be able to inspire and educate his children according to the path he has traveled during his lifetime." ”A man's life is both a son and a father; It's a man, and it's a man. The world is very prosperous, but my father is very ordinary, a small worker on a construction site, a sanitation worker on the street, a migrant worker in a factory, and a farmer in the countryside. They did not let their children have the ability to fight for their fathers, but they did have the strength to lift up the greatness of their children.
The reality is really cruel - the father gave all his love to "us", we have nothing to repay, and gave all his love to "children".
On Father's Day, if you understand father's love, hug your father, and make people feel less regretful; If the father is gone, go and greet the mother—she is the father's lover; If both parents are gone, tell your child what fatherly love really is.
If there is an afterlife, he is still a father's son, but he must understand "father's love" earlier.