People only wake up to middle age: if you have a son at home, you can't just say love with your mouth, you must put it into action, and your mouth is just talking about empty tricks!
Prepare a wedding room and bride price for your son, so that your son can marry a wife and have children smoothly, this is the real love for your son, and this is the ultimate goal of ordinary people.
I am 51 years old this year, I have a son and a daughter, my son is in ordinary conditions, and we are all ordinary working families.
According to our marriage habits here, the family that gives birth to a son basically has to prepare a wedding house for the son, and there must not only be commercial housing in the city, but also self-built houses in the countryside! Even if there is a marriage room, if there is not enough bride price, the marriage will be shaky, and the woman will change his mind at any time.
In the past 28 years of marriage, my husband and I have been working hard to earn money to support our family, and we have been raising two children since we were young, and we have spent a lot of money.
My cousin's two daughters, our two sisters' children are about the same age, and their family is the same, they have spent a lot of money on their children since they were young, and they have done their best to raise their two children.
It wasn't until the children of both families graduated from college that the living conditions of my cousin's family and I changed drastically, especially the concept of money and life, and my cousin's concept was 108,000 miles apart.
My eldest is a daughter and my youngest is a son, and since the two children have joined the workforce, we are finally relieved that they can support themselves on their own, at least the children will not ask us for living expenses. But in less than a year, I felt more and more anxious, more and more that I had saved too little money, and I was more and more afraid to spend money indiscriminately, and I would pick and search everything I bought.
And my cousin's family has lived more and more nourishing since her daughter worked, and began to enjoy life, life has become more and more ritualistic, and life is full of surprises. Every holiday, I either buy myself a gift or go on a road trip, and my cousin has never been reluctant to eat and wear before, but now she buys clothes for herself every season.
On the other hand, I am getting poorer and poorer, since my son has grown up, I can save what I can, I will never buy non-necessities, and sometimes I can't wait to spend a penny as two cents. The clothes were bought a few years ago, and I was reluctant to buy the clothes I liked, even if I bought something cheaper, it would cost money!
The current cousin spends money like water, not how much money he has saved, how many assets, in terms of saving money and assets, I am a little better than my cousin, but I don't dare to spend money lavishly.
Because I have a son in my family, I need a lot of money to get married, and if I spend money lavishly, I may not even be able to marry my daughter-in-law.
When the two daughters get married, the man will give a little bride price, and if he has it, he will add some to the children, and the man also said that the mother-in-law understands the reason, and the banquet money is paid by the man, so the cousin's two daughters do not need to spend money to get married.
So my cousin is now a happy mother-in-law, their family is full of food and the whole family is not hungry, and their purpose now is to eat well, dress well, and take good care of themselves. During the Chinese New Year, my daughter and son-in-law also buy a lot of high-end gifts.
My family has now bought a wedding house for my son, and I have also prepared a bride price of 100,000 yuan, even if I have money in my hand, I don't dare to spend it indiscriminately, and I pick and search in life, because my son still needs to put wine and spend money. Only by working together as a family to save money can we accomplish this difficult task!
When people reach middle age, families with sons never dare to spend money indiscriminately, for fear of affecting their son's marriage.
No wonder some people often say that having a son still has the idea of saving money, and you must start planning from birth, and you will not be so anxious when you reach middle age. To give birth to a son is to be happy on the day of birth, happy on the day of marriage, and to have a daughter is only unhappy on the day of birth.
Money is only known when it is used, especially for families with sons, they must plan early, work hard to make money, grit their teeth and save money, so that when they reach middle age, it will be easier to buy a house for their son and marry a wife, and there will not be too much anxiety and anxiety.
It hurts when you give birth to yourself, it's useless to say it with your mouth, you have to put it into action, and giving money to your children to start a family is the biggest and most powerful support!