When people reach a certain age, they will inevitably feel tired, have no interest in doing anything, and feel redundant to associate with anyone.
Writer Sanmao once said: "Life is like three teas, the first is sweet like love, the second is bitter like life, and the third is as light as the breeze." ”If you think about it, maybe you've already entered the "third way" in advance. Tossing and turning, but I suffered myself, but I didn't see the signs of being rich and rich.
I don't want to go to work, I don't want to deal with people, the idea is understandable, but life goes on, and I have to go on my own in the future.
Plan for the future according to your own mentality and the reality of life, and be a more harmonious person, which can not only please yourself, but also spend the rest of your life in peace.
Have the ability to be alone, and not savagely "refuse to fit in".
Many people, as soon as they open their mouths, say, "I don't want to ask for help; It's useless to ask for someone; Rely on everyone to run, rely on the mountains to fall. ”
No one wants to beg someone, and when they speak in a low voice, they have to look at their faces.
Does life allow you to become "alone"?
You refuse all the entertainment in the unit, your colleagues ask you for help, you ignore it, and you never make suggestions when you have a meeting. Will you stay in the unit for a long time?
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Zi had a man named Gao Yi under his command.
Gao Yi shouted: "I have worked hard for three years, and I have not made mistakes, nor have I been disobedient, why did you treat me like this?" ”
Yan Zi said: "You have been with me for so long, you never make suggestions, you always have nothing to do with yourself, and you hang high. If you are not fired, who else will be fired? ”
You have to go to work, not because you are keen on socializing and like circles, but because you want to live and you have to make some money.
Smart people see the truth of mixed society - whoever has the ability is "popular", and whether they fit in or out is chosen by themselves.
Find a way, make some achievements, and then mix into technical positions to make yourself distinctive in a certain aspect. In this case, you will not participate in socializing, eat and drink, and you will also be favored by the boss. Going to work will become "fun", not a shackle.
If you have a lot of credit, there must be many units rushing you to work.
Before you "refuse to be gregarious", you have to become a lion and a tiger. You have always been ants and flies, and when you are separated from the group, you are "standing under the wall".
Have a decent family, and not blindly believe that "pension on your own".
Middle-aged men don't go to work, they don't socialize, their income is gone, what do their wives and children eat?
Women don't eat fireworks in the world, don't go to the vegetable market and talk to small vendors, what does the family eat? Families who eat takeout every day are difficult to get along, and when they order takeout, they also have to deal with the takeaway guy.
When you get older, you will find that without the backing of the family, it is difficult to grow old in life.
There are also many people who insist on "money first", believing that after having money, a person can go to any corner of the world and be prosperous.
If you are super rich, when you are seventy or eighty years old, there are still people who pursue it. Don't get carried away by money, without "love", no matter how much money there is, there is no point.
You can imagine yourself at the point where you're out of breath, lying in bed, unable to move, and without children, a wife, a nanny, or a caregiver.
Is it to starve all the time, or to ask for help from a neighbor, or to hire a babysitter? Spend money to let people help and serve you. It's not impossible, but the quality of pension will be worrying.
What if money is cheated out of you at your confused age?
There are thousands of possibilities for human life. Don't think of money as the "only one".
Perhaps, many people will say, "If there is no money, will the children be filial?" Will my wife look up to me? ”
is like a line in the documentary "Nobody Knows": "No one cares before death, and no one knows after death." ”Don't be fooled by the "money worship mentality". Understand that whether your family cares about you and whether they can contact you every once in a while depends on your own words and deeds.
There is a very vivid metaphor - "If the mountain does not come, I will pass". If the family can be happy in normal times, then you will not sit back and wait for others to care, but take the initiative to contact your family when there is something.
I don't go to work, but I have a family to help me, so I can have a time to tidy up; Don't deal with outsiders, but have family members to pass on the news of the outside world, so that you don't live alone.
After retirement, a decent family welcomes you, and you live a "single life" outside, still a winner in life.
Have a healthy body and mind, rather than being radical and "go your own way".
I often see some people wantonly spoiling some public things in order to find happiness; I think that when I leave the workplace, I should fully enjoy the care of society.
Most of the "taken for granted" is to undermine public order. When the social order becomes very chaotic, you will find that you should have access to services, but they are gone, and the living environment is very bad.
For example, there is a dance hall downstairs in your house, and there is often a bad singing voice. You can't wait for someone to smash down the dance hall.
Suddenly, one day, the song and dance hall was really **, and the people in the entire building had to be arraigned, and even some vicious people ran upstairs to hide, which was frightening.
Remember, the fire at the city gate affected the fish in the pond.
When you are pursuing freedom and independence, do not force others to have "three views, words and deeds".
In the era when everyone has something to eat, there are more and more people pursuing health, but health is not only about physical strength, but also about good cultivation and stable emotions - mental health.
Those who are vicious in their hearts and use their power indiscriminately will most likely be imprisoned. They want to go to work, they want to socialize with people, but they don't have the opportunity.
Keep a good body, a full inner world, and then you can make life decisions, and you will have freedom.
It is not a strange thing that a person does not want to go to work and who he does not want to socialize with, nor is it a bad thing. It's just a matter of thinking about the long term and realizing your ideals step by step.
A person can live in a humble house, eat and dress simply, not be favored by society, and refuse the disturbance of the outside world, but he cannot give up "being himself".
Sooner or later, you will understand that in the end, all that is left is "yourself", and it is still "yourself" who can redeem yourself.
You give up your job, you reject all circles, it's just a new beginning.