What is destined will eventually come as scheduled; If it is not given by fate, it should not be forced
Liang Xiaosheng mentioned in "The World":
From the moment you are born, what bowl you serve, what you eat, what you go through, and who you marry when you marry are all fixed numbers
Everything in life has its law of cause and effect, and this cause is fate, and the result is predestined.
For life, the Chinese have a succinct expression: self-reaping the consequences. There is an arrangement of fate and inevitable development.
Therefore, Confucius once said: ".Don't complain, don't worry about people
Life is like a drama, the appearance time and the ending time are already set, but the process in it varies from person to person, and the experience and feelings are also different.
It's like someone said: ".Porridge in the early morning warms the stomach, and wine burns the heart in the middle of the night. Sometimes I really want to walk Huangquan Road, cross the Nai He Bridge, drink a sip of forgetful water, and make a three-life stone
In that case, why do you still go forward, enjoy it, and immerse yourself in it?
Because, as Liang Xiaosheng said: ".You have read the script of life as early as in heaven, and the reason why you chose this script is because there is something in this life that you think is worthwhile
When you are young, you may not believe in fate and want to change it; And in old age, after experiencing it, you will truly understand, believe in fate, and conform to fate, and this may have inadvertently changed fate.
01. The fate of life is often guided by mysterious forces, and it can only be reached by conforming to the destiny of heaven.
A story in Strange Tales illustrates this truth.
In ancient times, there was a man surnamed Xue, whose family was poor, and he made a living by herding cattle for the eunuch's family.
Xue Gong often grazed cattle on a wasteland of the eunuch's house, and often witnessed snakes and rabbits fighting in the meadow, and was puzzled.
So, he humbly asked a passing Taoist priest for advice, and the Taoist priest smiled and said, "If the snake entangles the rabbit, there will be blessings." This is a treasure trove of feng shui. ”
As a result, Xue Gong worked harder to herd cattle for his master and help with farming. He was honest and kind, and begged his master to give him this wasteland.
The owner readily agreed, and Xue Gong reclaimed a vacant land here and built a thatched house.
A few years later, his wife was giving birth in the house, when suddenly it rained heavily in the sky, the thatched house leaked, and a flock of crows and magpies stopped on the roof, just to cover the leak.
It happened that two officials passed by, hiding from the rain in the house, the torrential rain stopped, and the baby was born, a white and chubby boy.
The official praised: "Xue Gong, our yamen protects the door, and the magpie shelters him from the rain, this child will be rich and noble in the future, congratulations." ”
Xue Gong was overjoyed when he heard this, but as the child grew up, he did not see the wealth.
He was rough in appearance and dull in manners, and he was still so at the age of eighteen, because he was too wooden, and no one wanted to marry his daughter to him.
In that year, the imperial court conducted a conscription, and he was not chosen, but a rich son was drafted.
The naïve young man found the rich man and said, "I am willing to go to the conscription in the place of your son, as long as you marry your son's maid to me." ”
The rich man was overjoyed, and immediately gave him the maid promise.
After getting married, he and his wife went to the border to report for duty. Who would have thought that they would encounter a torrential rain on the way, and the couple had to hide under the cliff to avoid the rain.
After the rain stopped, they continued on their way, but they did not expect the cliff to collapse. Some villagers saw that two white tigers came out of the cracked cliff, and the couple were attached to them.
Since then, the couple has become new, the innocent silly boy has become extremely brave, and the maid's wife has also shown extraordinary temperament and ability.
The young man was later named Marquis of Wuyang for his many military exploits, and his wife, who was born as a maid, was also named Lady of the Command, and their descendants enjoyed the title for generations.
Life is full of variables, how rich and rich, fate is impermanent. Everything is determined by Heaven's will.
As Professor Wang Defeng of Fudan University said, "It is foolish to believe in fate before the age of forty, and it is a lack of understanding to not believe in fate after the age of forty." ”
The well-being and destiny of life is not something we can fully control. Some things are destined to belong to you and cannot be taken away by others; There are things that don't belong to you and you can't get them with your efforts; There are also things that don't belong to you and can't be owned no matter how hard you try.
Just as many rich people can't buy life extension no matter how much wealth they have, many poor people pursue wealth all their lives, but in the end they can only work hard, and many people who pursue pleasure have just got a moment of comfort and their lives have already left.
02. No matter how much money an individual earns, his fate is doomed.
Historically, the business tycoon Hu Xueyan won the royal favor with his business talent, was awarded the second-grade official title, and was rewarded with a yellow jacket, which is unique in Chinese history. However, tragedy struck so quickly.
Hu Xueyan, a cattle herder from a poor background, struggled for many years to accumulate huge wealth, but could not resist the mercy of fate, and finally became a victim of political wrestling.
In fact, Hu Xueyan's rise is closely related to the collusion of political forces, and his relationship with Zuo Zongtang has made him grow step by step, but it is also destined to make him a victim in the political game.
He became a political enemy in Li Hongzhang's eyes, and became a victim of Li Hongzhang's strategy of "ranking left first and reversing left first".
With the decline of Zuo Zongtang's power and the rise of Li Hongzhang's power, Hu Xueyan's fate also changed, and his family property disappeared overnight.
The mansion he had built at great expense no longer existed in the hands of his descendants. Despite the stunning décor, future generations will not be able to enjoy it.
Today, Hangzhou Yuanbao Street still stands this Chinese and Western mansion, however, the owner is no longer the Hu family.
Confucius once said: "Things cannot be poor, so they are subject to "Weiji" and end." As the Book of Changes says, everything has an end.
No matter how much wealth you have, luxury cars and gorgeous homes will not last forever. Personnel are different, fortunes and misfortunes are impermanent, a generation has a generation's destiny, and the fate of wealth has long been doomed.
Wealth will eventually be empty, and only good thoughts can become immortals.
Everyone's life trajectory is different, some people may get rich, but they may not be able to keep it, everything is just a matter of fate.
03. Everyone's life is destined for how much he can eat。When he was young, Lao Wang was a pioneer in the family's business, and he was the first to get involved in the business, becoming the first person in the village to dare to eat crabs. While others were still farming, living on God-given food, he had already begun his own business explorations, traveling around by train, and even going to Russia to do a fur business, making a lot of money in one fell swoop. He was a bold and visionary who was willing to share his wealth with others. Whether it is a family member or an outsider, as long as he is willing to study steadily, he is willing to work together. Therefore, some smart and courageous people in the village also followed him to get rich. He not only led his brothers on the road to success, but also made his life richer and richer. His career also grew bigger and bigger, and he owned his own company, which made him famous and became a local tycoon. However, what he didn't expect was that at the age of 49, when he was having dinner with a client, he suddenly fell ill and almost died, and was rushed to the hospital for rescue. After three days and three nights of rescue, he was finally out of danger and woke up. This experience between life and death gave him a new realization: "We must live every day as if it were the last, be filial to our parents, accompany our families, be kind to ourselves, and eat in moderation, life is too precious." As Venerable Hongyi said, "After doing your best, let it be." Human mastery is limited and cannot grasp much. Everything in the world is illusory, nothing really belongs to you, you can be happy when you come, you can be empty when you go, the only thing that belongs to you is every moment of your life. "Everyone's life has its own destiny, all blessings and misfortunes lie in the moment, only live every day, enjoy every meal leisurely, and do not be greedy or robbed.
04. The happiness and well-being that everyone obtains are affected by fate. There is a relative who lost his parents when he was a child, was raised by his uncle, lived under the protection of others, and suffered a lot.
After getting married and having children, he welcomed two healthy and lovely sons, although life is still not easy, he is relieved that his wife is virtuous and capable, and his son is smart and diligent, he is in a difficult situation, but his heart is full of sweetness.
The eldest son was successfully admitted to a prestigious school, settled in Hangzhou, had an enviable high-paying job, and bought a house with his own efforts four years later, forming a happy family.
A few years later, the youngest son was also admitted to university and became a seafarer, although the work was different from ordinary people, but the income was considerable, and soon after, he also bought a house in the second-tier city of his hometown, got married and started a family.
Relatives can finally breathe a sigh of relief and live a relaxed and happy life. At the strong request of their sons, they left only a small greenhouse for part of the family's land**.
They feel content, their lives are stable, the couple takes care of the small greenhouse, they live a prosperous life, and their sons often take care of them, and a happy life is like a blooming flower.
However, only two years later, before they even welcomed their eldest grandson, they found out that he had terminal lung cancer and died half a year later.
It was once said, "Everyone is equal before birth, but different after birth." How can this difference be the same when someone comes from a rich background and someone comes from a poor background? ”
A person's life is full of good fortune and misfortune. Whether rich or poor, stable or toiling, they are all destined.
If a person works hard, he may be able to change his poverty, but the happiness he can enjoy depends on fate.
As the old saying goes, "What is destined will come as scheduled; If it is not given by fate, it should not be forced”
Professor Tsang Shiqiang once emphasized: "We need to be familiar with three things: exploring the mission of life, planning the path to realization, and constantly pursuing perfection. ”
To comprehend these three points is to reveal the true meaning of life and gain insight into its connotation.
In fact, life is a journey from speechless to nevertheless. Why?
At the beginning of life, there is no reason for words, only silence.
The end of life is impermanent, like the end of a candle extinguished, and everything returns to dust.
However, there are two ends to this: a happy life and regrets.
People are not afraid of death, and they are not afraid of death.
Therefore, as Zeng Shiqiang said: "Life lies in perfection, conciseness and clarity, and the pursuit of a good ending." ”
Therefore, the food of life, the accumulation of wealth, and the enjoyment of happiness are all fixed numbers, and we can only make unremitting self-cultivation in order to achieve perfection, which is what we can do.