During the Chinese New Year, my daughter's house drove me away, and my daughter's attitude was disappointing
Hello everyone, I'm Liu Min, a woman from Suzhou, who has recently entered a beautiful stage of retirement.
Last December, I received my first pension, which symbolized a new chapter in my retirement life for me and my husband. Although he retired two months earlier than me, his pension was more than a thousand less than mine, and I often teased him about this, joking that he was old and had to rely on me. Of course, I know that he is a gentle person and does not care about any of this.
On New Year's Day, our daughter's family originally planned to come to Suzhou to spend time with us, but then changed their minds because they were busy with work and did not come. This sudden notification rendered a lot of ingredients that the couple had prepared useless. Although we couldn't eat much, it took us half a month to digest the ingredients.
Maybe it's because my daughter feels indebted, she invited us to go to her for the New Year this year, hoping that everyone can celebrate the festival together. The son-in-law is from Hubei, and his daughter met him when she was studying in Wuhan, and at first they both developed in Wuhan, and then the son-in-law changed jobs and returned to his hometown in Jingzhou, and the daughter followed and opened a personal studio there.
My partner and I only have one daughter, and we have been educating her since she was a child, and we are reluctant to let her marry far away, we just want her to stay with us, and at worst in the same city. When I was a child, my daughter agreed well, but when she got to college, she didn't recognize our expectations, saying that now that transportation is so convenient, there is no such thing as marrying far away.
Later, she met her son-in-law, a young man from Jingzhou, Hubei, who was fair-skinned, not tall, looked very knowledgeable, and was very polite. Because they are free to love, we as parents can't interfere too much, so we can only bless them and watch them get married and have children.
After getting married, they just started renting a house in Wuhan, and the rent was more than 2,000 a month. We felt that we couldn't make it too hard for them, so we decided to help them buy a two-bedroom apartment of more than 100 square meters in Wuhan to give them a place to live.
Who knows, later they sold that house, moved to Jingzhou, and bought a big house of more than 140 square meters. At that time, when they were planning to sell the house, the daughter and son-in-law made a special trip back to Suzhou and explained to us face-to-face, hoping to get our understanding, after all, the house was bought with our money.
We were touched by their behavior and felt that the two young men were very sensible, so we immediately agreed. After all, it is their freedom to go and live, and our attitude is that the house is their property and they decide for themselves what to do with it.
It's been a while since my daughter and son-in-law moved to Jingzhou, and we went there once, but only stayed one night and came back. This time, my daughter specially invited us to spend the Spring Festival at her house, so we started to prepare half a month in advance.
My wife was very excited during this time, often going out for a walk, greeting neighbors, and looking very proud. He likes to brag about our neighbors that we're going to my daughter's house for the New Year, and I try to keep him low-key.
My son-in-law planned to drive to pick us up, but I saw that the weather forecast ** There would be freezing rain in Hubei, so I resolutely rejected his kindness and decided to take the high-speed train there. Luckily, we grabbed the ticket and arrived in Jingzhou without any problems, and then we heard that many highways in Hubei were closed due to ice and rain, and we were glad that we had chosen it.
Next, in Jingzhou, I spent the Spring Festival with my daughter and son-in-law, and my lovely grandson gathered together.
The daughter is filial to us, the son-in-law knows etiquette, and the grandson is sweet-tongued.
Three. 10. The first and second years of junior high school are full of joy. Because both of us are here, and my wife is good at cooking, our daughter, son-in-law and grandson basically just have to wait for the delicious food.
We learned that modern young people are under a lot of pressure at work, and the Spring Festival is the only time they can relax, so we don't let them do it when it comes to buying ingredients, cooking, or washing dishes and chopsticks. The son-in-law tried to wash the dishes several times, but we both insisted that he not clean the kitchen.
In fact, everything went very well and happily. We also prepared a rich red envelope for our grandson, carrying our good wishes.
According to the original plan, my wife and I planned to stay until the seventh day of junior high school and leave, because the eighth son-in-law will return to work and my daughter will have to reopen the store.
However, on the morning of the third year of junior high school, when my daughter and son-in-law were out, my little grandson asked me a chilling question. Although my grandson didn't spend much time with us, he was very kind to us. Whenever we call our grandparents, our old couple's hearts melt. The daughter tried to ask him to call grandma, but he firmly disagreed, believing that there was no distinction between inside and outside, and that they were all grandparents.
At that time, we felt very relieved that it was rare for such a young child to be so filial.
However, that morning, after seeing his parents leave, he paced back and forth beside us, and finally couldn't help but ask, "Grandpa, when are you going back?" ”
At first, my wife and I misunderstood what he meant, thinking that he was reluctant to let us stay for a few more days, so we asked when we would leave. So, we told him that we would stay a few more days and not leave until the seventh day of the new year.
However, unexpectedly, after hearing this, he muttered, "Oh, it will take a few days, can you leave early?" ”
When I heard this, I felt a thrill in my heart, and I couldn't understand why our beloved grandson would ask such a question. At that time, my wife's face also became unsightly, so I put on my shoes and went out for a walk.
I understand that children often say things that are unintentional, but I still feel quite uncomfortable to hear my grandson say things like that. So, when my daughter and son-in-law came home, I took my daughter into the bedroom and described it to her, trying to make sure I had misunderstood it and hoping to avoid any misunderstanding.
As a result, my daughter told me another thing that made me feel sad. She said that her grandson may have heard her son-in-law complain that he was too reserved in front of us and lacked a sense of relaxation, so it would be better to go back early.
When I heard my daughter's words, my mood hit rock bottom, and then I asked my daughter, do you mean the same thing? Let us raise our biological daughter for more than 20 years, and later help start a family, I even said that there is also a little bit that I feel not so comfortable.
Then, my mood started to rise, I called my wife home, and we were ready to pack up and leave, and return to Suzhou. The daughter and son-in-law were obviously also frightened and kept apologizing there, and the wife wanted to stay for a few days, but at my insistence, they ended up returning home with me.
After returning home, my daughter called ** every day to apologize, saying that children don't talk through their brains, and she and her son-in-law didn't mean that, in short, it was a misunderstanding, and I hope we don't care too much.
But I know they're actually tired of us. I've been struggling with this these days, and I don't know if I'm too sensitive. So I would like to take this opportunity to ask my friends, are we really wrong?
In fact, I regret it very much now, and when I left Jingzhou, I was in a state of anger and told my daughter and son-in-law that if they wanted to find me in the future, I would not go to their house.
Shouldn't I have said such a heavy thing? Alas, now I don't even know what to do with them and my grandson.
If it were you, would you be mad because of this?
Thank you for the platform of Erliang History, listen to me, an old lady, tell the trivial matters at home, and please don't laugh at friends. I dictated it, and someone else wrote it, and it is not easy for young people nowadays.