There is a famous sentence in the "Revised Interpretation of the New Collection": "Stay on a rainy day, stay a guest, and leave me on a rainy day." ”
Later generations used punctuation to make the meaning of the words very interesting.
The first is "stay on a rainy day, stay on a rainy day, I don't stay." ”It's raining, the guests are coming, do you want to stay for a few days, or go home in the rain? Come to think of it, it's all a problem. After all, it seems impolite for the host to drive the guests away; The guest took the initiative to leave, but "braving the rain" was not his intention.The second is "rainy days, stay guest days, stay without me?" Stay. ”
With the development of the times, more and more young people are not keen on visiting the door, that is, to visit the elders during the New Year, it is just "passing by", or through the Internet, chatting a few words.
Those who are really willing to visit the door and have time to visit the door are the elderly.
As the saying goes: "If you don't come to the door for three years, you won't be a kiss." ”If you don't visit the door for a long time, your relatives and friends are lost. Therefore, it is not possible to insist on opposing the occasional visit. It's just that the way to visit the door should be flexible, and it is better to "stay for a long time".
Today, I will talk to you about a topic: the elderly visit the door, and it is best not to stay overnight in the following families.
First, don't stay at a friend's house of the opposite sex to avoid ambiguity.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man in the country of Lu who was neighbors with a widow.
On a rainy day, the widow's house collapsed and she wanted to stay at the man's house for one night. The man refused, said"Yanagi Hui Guke, I can't. I will not be able to, learn from Yanagi Huizhi. ”
Not ordinary people can be like Megumi Yanashita - sitting still.
The man's approach is worth emulating. After all, being alone with friends of the opposite sex for a few days is difficult to get through the emotional hurdles.
To be a man, you must be clean and self-conscious, and don't make some ambiguous stories because of visiting the door. In this way, it hurts your own family and hurts each other.
Also, don't go alone; It's best if you don't have to go to the door. If you have something, just talk about it in a public place.
Second, do not stay overnight in crowded families, and there are not enough beds.
Some families, with three generations living together, are more crowded. Especially for people in big cities, the house is only a few dozen square meters, which can accommodate a family of three, which is good, how can others come to stay overnight?
If a large number of people suddenly come to a family with a few guests, they have to "lay on the floor and sleep on the sofa", or several people are crowded in one place, and they will rest.If you encounter a large number of families, you should take the initiative to leave. After all, the old man is uncomfortable with whomever he is huddled with. The owner will also frown, because the greeting is not good, and the heart is not happy.
Third, don't stay overnight at the homes of very busy middle-aged people to reduce trouble.
When people are old, go to see the younger generations, this is a kind of love. But the elderly also have to take into account that the younger generation is very busy and has no time to entertain guests.
Take my cousin Xiao Zhang, for example, who works as an assistant manager at a chemical plant in the provincial capital, leading a group of technicians every day. On the surface, it is very beautiful, but in fact, it is the person who works the most overtime in the factory, and the pressure is very high.
Xiao Zhang's wife works in a nursery school, and the time of going to and from work is irregular. Especially in the afternoon, if parents come late, the end of work will be pushed to seven o'clock at night.
Elderly, you are retired, you are free and have no concept of time, but middle-aged people can't do that.If the middle-aged are late or have to take leave because of the problem of the elderly staying overnight, it will definitely have a certain impact on income. And, inconsiderate greetings, inevitable.
Fourth, don't stay overnight in families who like to play mahjong, and make a lot of noise.
Playing mahjong is generally in a mahjong parlor. There are also some people who buy mahjong tables at home.
When the sound of mahjong keeps ringing, people who sleep will be particularly uncomfortable.
Many elderly people like to chat and join in the fun, but at night, they like to be quiet. After all, a quiet environment is what leads to a good night's sleep.
This can be seen, the elderly and mahjong sound mixed together, will reduce the quality of sleep; If the elderly participate in playing mahjong, they will hurt their bodies because they stay up late. How to do it is a difficult problem.
In addition, families who like to play cards, play games, stay up late to watch football games, and work night shifts should also leave in time, after all, their living habits are incompatible with ordinary people.
Fifth, don't stay overnight in money-hungry families, worrying about cheating and borrowing money.
The Ming Dynasty writer Ling Mengchu wrote a story.
During the Xuanhe period of the Song Dynasty, there was a man named Shen Jiangshi in Pingjiang Mansion who rode out of the city with a few friends.
Someone suggested that he go to the suburbs to spend the night at the house of an acquaintance named Wang Chaoyi.
Wang Chaoyi has more than ten concubines, who have nothing to do, and they all like to gamble.
After dinner, Shen Jiangshi joined the gambling team. In the beginning, he won a lot of money. But later, the concubines were coquettish and asked him to let go, putting on an attitude of pity and pity.
Shen Jiangshi didn't know what the plan was, and if he gave in a little, he would lose everything.
A few days later, he went to look for Wang Chaoyi again, only to find that people had gone to the empty building. "Overnight" is a trap.
We must not have the heart of harming others, and we must not have the heart of guarding against others." Whether it is a relative, a friend, or a friend of a friend, we must be vigilant. If you have a financial loss because of your overnight stay, or if you are borrowed a sum of money by the other party, it is a troublesome thing.
When you encounter a money-hungry family, avoid talking about money. If you can, try not to visit the door. After entering the door, the old man will inevitably be led by the nose.
As an elderly person, how to visit the door correctly?
Please do five points: first, if you can not visit the door, you will not visit the door, everyone will chat a few words in small hotels and parks, and reminisce about the past; Second, go to the homes of distant relatives and friends, preferably in hotels; Third, do not reveal your wealth and do not attract the attention of others; Fourth, before going to the door, you should tell the other party to avoid others being unprepared; Fifth, don't drink alcohol and don't get overtired.
Of course, as children, according to the changes of the times, we should always remind our parents how to visit the house, or tell our parents which families are not welcome to be disturbed. For parents who go out, it is necessary to follow up in time to avoid danger.
People are old and need some excitement, but the best excitement is to reunite with their own families, not to disturb other people's families.
Remember, the fish is left for three days and stinks; People stay for three days and beg for suspicion.