Zi said: "Etiquette is also to people, and wine is also tillered." ”
When interacting with people, politeness is like koji when making wine, and the quality of koji *** sake is good.
Generally speaking, the older a person gets, the more they can remember and respect social etiquette, and it is essential to usher in things to be sent to.
When people are old and have nothing to do, go to a visit, chat, and the time passes in the giggling.
Here, I would like to remind the elderly not to be too polite, especially the following three things.
First, wine: Drink as much as you can, don't listen to persuasion.
During the Eastern Jin Dynasty, Wang Xizhi's son Wang Huizhi lived in Shanyin, Zhejiang for a long time.
One winter day, one of Wang Hui woke up and saw the snow-capped earth, and suddenly "got drunk" and drank violently for a while.
Suddenly, he remembered his friend Dai Kui. So he took his subordinates and took a boat to see Dai Kui.
When the boat arrived at the dock in front of Dai Kui's house, Wang Huizhi's wine woke up and said: "Come here with excitement, now there is no excitement, let's go home." ”
At that time, people believed that Wang Huizhi was a very frank person.
After an in-depth analysis, you will find that many abnormal behaviors are due to the fact that after drinking, the mind does not care about things, and talks nonsense and behaves nonsense.In the eyes of outsiders, drunk people are quite funny. But a drunk person not only hurts his body, but also looks foreign. Elderly people must keep in mind the truth that "drinking alcohol hurts the body". It seems that it is indispensable to visit the homes of relatives and friends and have a glass of wine. But you must control the scale of drinking. And to see what kind of wine it is, whether your body can stand it.
On the "New News" platform, there is such a message.
In Xingtai, Hebei Province, a drunk old man went out on a bicycle and fell to the ground. The man who owned the shop rushed over and helped the old man up. Just as the man was about to leave, the old man said, "Do you want to leave when you help me up?" ”
Afterwards, the police arrived at the scene and watched the surveillance, only to prove the man's innocence. The family members of the old man also rushed to the scene and brought the old man back.
A glass of wine can cause a series of troubles. It's really more than worth the loss.
Whether it is for physical health, travel safety, or social considerations, you should drink less. Don't push your "alcohol consumption" to the extreme just because everyone is happy.
Pick up the wine glass and take the initiative to admit it, everyone can understand. Understand that the older you get, the smaller you drink, and you even need to quit drinking.
Second, rice: eat when you are hungry, don't be hungry, don't hold on.
As the saying goes: "Seven points of drunkenness when drinking, eight points of fullness for eating, nine points of love for love." ”When visiting the door, it is common to encounter such a situation: the host is busy preparing the meal, resulting in missing the time to eat. Or the guest walked in a hurry, did not eat all the way, and arrived at the destination, already hungry.
If you are already very hungry, then don't be polite, you should take the initiative to "eat" the idea, or even anti-customer, eat a snack.
I really don't have to, I was hungry, and I said vigorously: "I'm not hungry, I just came here after eating." ”
Ruan Ji, one of the Seven Sages of the Bamboo Forest, has been eating vegetarian food for a long time after his mother passed away, and his body has become very weak due to excessive grief.
King Wen of Jin set up a banquet, and Ruan Ji did not hesitate to sit at the table and eat meat.
There is a ** who said: "During the mourning period, how can you eat meat?" It's immoral. ”
King Wen of Jin said, "Don't you look at Ruan's physical condition? Eating meat is also in line with etiquette. ”
No matter how much etiquette there is, it is also to regulate everyone's behavior, not to consume everyone's body, nor to consume various social relationships.
If a person is hungry, tell everyone, "I just had my fill." "Isn't it self-deception?
"People are iron, rice is steel, and if you don't eat a meal, you will be hungry and panic", the elderly should eat well according to their physical condition. If there are taboos about certain dishes, you should take the initiative to say so.Although, most of the time, we have to "do as we please", but the elderly can't always be like that.
For example, if some people don't eat chili peppers, then they should be informed before the owner cooks. Instead of waiting for the food to be cooked, he showed an embarrassed expression.
Third, sleep: It is best to go back to your home to sleep, and do not stay at the house of relatives and friends.
In the seventies and eighties of the last century, many people went to visit relatives and had to stay overnight. Because of the inconvenient transportation, you have to walk for several hours from one township to another.
Also, everyone lives in the countryside, and the houses are very spacious, and most of them will prepare "guest beds".
When the farm is busy, it is not uncommon for relatives and friends to come to help cut rice and plant seedlings, and stay for several days in a row.
Now, most of the relatives and friends live in the city, the house is very expensive, but not spacious enough, and the problem of guest accommodation is not taken into account.
On Zhihu, someone asked: "How does it feel to have relatives come to live at home?" ”
Netizen "nicoleliu" said that there are relatives who come to live at home, but there are several people in the family, one person has a bedroom. Relatives can only huddle with their sister.
When the relatives are at home, everyone seems to be very restrained, and they speak carefully, as if they are afraid that others will see something, and they are worried that their relatives will be unhappy.
The relatives stayed for a few days, and the chat was more casual, but the relatives were picky about the meals cooked by the netizen's mother. It's uncomfortable.
Sleeping at night, relatives like to go to bed earlier, and my sister is used to watching movies and goes to bed late.
For some reason, everyone has a feeling of "exclusivity".
Obviously, if a relative or friend says, "Just sleep at my house." "You must not take it seriously, and don't turn "polite" behavior into real behavior.
There is no particular reason to go back to your own home to sleep, especially for the elderly who have bad sleeping habits. If you can't do it, you can choose a small hotel.
Goethe said, "A person's civility and politeness are a mirror that reflects his portrait." ”
Civility and politeness is a social attitude, but we must refuse to be overly polite and do not always get in the way of face.
When visiting the door, you must dare to put forward your own opinions and refuse some polite behaviors. You must learn to observe words and feelings, and once the master is very unhappy, you should know the difficulty and retreat.
If the elderly go to the door and cause the other party to be very troublesome, it is better not to go.
When people are old, they need to live freely, and they don't have to be bound by the sophistication of others.