When I read a very touching article, I was very emotional in my heart, and I couldn't help but share it:
A girl, born in the 00s, is the only daughter of the provincial capital Yuancheng District.
Her parents work in a private enterprise, and her family is not well-off, and she still has more than enough food and clothing.
When she was a child, her family also sent her to learn to dance or something, and after going to school, she has been attending various training classes.
In short, it can't be compared with the eldest ladies in the main city, but at least it's not bad, and it can probably be considered a medium level.
She herself thinks that her grades in primary school are still good. After I got to junior high school, I gradually couldn't keep up. The high school entrance examination did not pass the general high school line. The family cherished her and sent her to a private high school. A few years later, I was admitted to a private university and studied e-commerce.
After graduating, I couldn't find a job.
She just wants to be a clerk, but there aren't many clerk jobs on the market right now. And she doesn't know anything, including the use of some office software, and can't get started right away. Businesses are reluctant to train new people.
Moreover, the salary of a clerk is only 2,500 a month, and renting a shared room with others costs 1,000, which is not enough to live at all.
Other jobs are generally sales.
She is an honest girl, belonging to the type of "relatives don't want to call people", and she is very resistant to sales.
She also looked at some cases of "counterattack on the postgraduate entrance examination" on the Internet and decided to take the postgraduate examination.
Studying full-time at home for a year and not getting in.
The family said, "Go to work." I can't pass the exam.
She wanted to take the public examination again, but her family said: Don't take the test. Who do you see, who is with whom, who is who, and what university did everyone graduate from? It's all 985Have you passed them? Don't say that the country will recruit ten for this position, even if you recruit a hundred, you will be after a thousand.
She also admitted that what her family said was right, because she really didn't like to study, especially English, and she only scored more than a dozen points in English for the graduate school entrance examination.
But work, what to do?
She asked me at the time.
I asked her: Are you thinking about getting married? Marriage is also a way out.
She said: She doesn't want to get married and have children. Looking at the news, it seems that women are wronged when they get married. She didn't want to be wronged.
"Hot and Hot" was shown during the Spring Festival, and the family said: Look at Jia Ling (the character played in the film), she also graduated from college, didn't she just go to work as a waiter? Why can't you go.
Gritting her teeth, she decided to "put down her body" and become a waitress.
I interviewed a tea room first, and I was in front of the desk, with a monthly salary of 4,000 bags, five insurances and one housing fund, and no sales pressure.
When she made an appointment to go to work, the proprietress said to her: We have clothes here, and you can wear shoes with heels.
She didn't wear leather shoes, and went to buy a pair.
After standing for a day, I couldn't stand still.
You can only resign. It took a few days to rest at home.
The point is, she said to me: the hostess herself wears slippers.
I said, "Is it the bathing kind?"
She said, "No, it's embroidery."
I can roughly imagine what the boss lady looks like, but I can't explain this to her.
I asked: Is the heel too high?
She said: People say it's commuter shoes.
I took a picture and showed it to me, just four or five centimeters.
I was speechless for a moment.
I tried a foot massage shop again and worked as a waiter, with a monthly salary of 5,000 bags, five insurances and one housing fund.
I said, "You can learn how to do a pedicure."
The boss also told her: During the apprenticeship, she will open 200 a day, but she will not get a commission.
She felt that when she came out of college, she couldn't accept washing people's feet.
The pedicure shop opens at 10 a.m. and theoretically stays open until 8 p.m., but in fact there are customers who come at 9 a.m. and will do it.
It doesn't close until 10 p.m., and I have to sweep and mop the floor and push the bins to the garbage station.
She pushed the garbage bin all the way, with little strength, pushing a pile and stopping, and before she knew it, she had tears in her eyes.
That night, I didn't return to my residence until after 11 o'clock, and my calves were already hard.
The next morning, she said she "couldn't stand up on her own", suspected a muscle strain, and resigned again.
The foot massage boss was not as talkative as the tea room hostess, and refused to pay her for her salary, saying that she had not done anything for a day.
She cried and left.
Because I felt uncomfortable, I had to go to another foot massage shop for a massage, and I happened to spend all the day's salary given by the tea room.
Both jobs were only done for one day.
I was silent, and I didn't even recommend the option of "getting married" to her.
To be honest, I suspect that childbirth is not a very heavy and very difficult labor for her, enough to make her cry from morning to night, and from night to morning every day.
I've also seen the kind of posts that get turned around, such as "the collapse of the mother of the second child" and so on.
There was one I clicked in, and the girls in it were just like her: they had gone to a messy college and had never worked.
It's very brainless, I don't have the idea and ability to plan at all, and I'm washing the dishes while the water is boiling, and I don't know which one to do first.
I was very weak, and I couldn't hold the child for half an hour, so I had to stay in bed.
Emotions are extremely fragile, and they collapse at every turn, crying and crying.
I was stunned, how could this be?
But now I know: if you've never worked and don't have the habit of exercising, you're going to be so bad.
"Hot and Hot" Jia Ling has been at home for ten years, and when she went to serve the plate, she immediately got started, it was a movie.
In real life, you have to quit your job after one day of work, and you have to stay in bed for half an hour with your child in your arms.
To put it mildly:
Some parents, the idea of cultivating their children is similar to that of the era of foot binding, and they are satisfied if their children are not diligent and do not divide the grains.
When I went to school, I thought: as long as I study well, no matter how stupid or weak I am, I can do it.
What about bad learning?
Find a rich man to marry?
First, there are not so many rich people to marry; Second, if you marry a rich man, do you have to go with him to meet guests? You don't want to shout, you can't wear low-heeled shoes for half a day, and the two wives can't do it.
Not everyone has a high level of intelligence and can reach the pinnacle of life.
Not everyone has good physical strength and can do heavy physical labor - once, a girl in my comment area said: Housework is heavy physical labor. There are also many girls who like her.
But ordinary people who are not too smart and not very capable should indeed have a little ability to do ordinary work.
You can be a clerk, you can be a front desk, you can be a waiter.
Being a housewife is already the last retreat for women.
If you are so bad that you think that "doing housework is heavy physical labor", then what else can you do in this world?
There must be someone who says, "You don't need physical strength to sit in an office."
That is, lying flat and eating empty salary, you don't need anything.
Reincarnated as a good father, he can lie flat for a lifetime.
Having said that, you have to think that you may not have the ability to let the baby lie down for a lifetime, and you can still think about how to educate your children.
Even, if you feel that you are capable, you can think about it.
There are unpredictable circumstances in the sky", have you heard of these six words?
Statement: The article ** from Mr. Ye Chengcheng. Happy Girls' Day