The old article is reissued:
Grow and beyond
- Three gifts from my family of origin
During the National Day holiday, I returned to my hometown after a year's absence, and once again had the opportunity to see my hometown where I was born and raised, and to accompany my aging parents. Once again, I thought about what to write for my parents and for this family. After thinking about it, it is better to record your own growth process to express your gratitude to your parents.
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I was born in a remote and backward mountain village in southwest Henan, and my parents were authentic farmers.
Due to the lack of land and the large number of people, the family of four has less than one acre of land, which is not enough to support the family, so the parents raise cattle, sheep, pigs and other livestock to subsidize the family.
My parents in my memory are always the busiest in the village, getting up before dawn to work, still working in the fields when it is completely dark, seemingly completely forgetting to go home and resting, and never distinguishing between the busy farming season and the leisure season - when I was a child, I often waited for my parents at the neighbor's house at night because I was afraid of the dark.
Even if my parents worked so hard, they were often unable to take care of the food, so they had to go to the neighbor's house to borrow food.
Looking back now, I still feel that my nose is sour, what kind of poverty was there! Later, after the 90s, the countryside gradually used chemical fertilizers, and the grain production increased significantly, and my family was able to be completely self-sufficient in grain.
The children of poor families are in charge of the family at an early age.
Under the supervision of my parents, I also did a lot of farm work since I was a child.
Before going to school, he herded sheep and cattle, and later he collected ears of wheat and threw fertilizer. Later, when he grew up, he also followed his parents in farm work such as cutting wheat and breaking corn.
Of course, after going to school, there is less and less time to do farm work, usually after school or on holidays to help in the fields; After I went to junior high school, I started to live on campus, and my studies became busier and busier, and I became farther and farther away from farm work.
Then, when I went to high school and college, the frequency of going home became once a month or once every six months, and every time I came home, my mother would only care about preparing food for me, and even if I wanted to do farm work, they would not let me work on the grounds that I wanted to study hard. Now that I think about it, the older I get, the less I share for my parents, which is really ashamed.
After all these years of work, the time to go home is even smaller, and doing farm work has become a kind of childhood experience in my memory.
But whenever I encounter difficulties or great pressure at work or in life, I always think of these childhood experiences, and then ask myself how this small setback is compared to my childhood experience and the suffering of my parents.
As long as you persevere, bravely push through, and work hard, you will definitely come out, and the road will definitely get better and better in the future.
I thinkThe hard-working, hard-working part of my character is the words and deeds of my parents, which should be the most precious gift I have received from my original family life.
My second gift from my family was my father's interest in reading.
My parents were both born in the early fifties of the last century, and due to the influence of the Cultural Revolution, their education was not high, and my father, who received the most education, only graduated from junior high school (called high school at that time).
Seriously, my father was not a man who loved to read, because the pressure of supporting his family and endless work in the fields filled his entire life. But my father has a little hobby, when he is not particularly busy with farm work, he will take the time to read some books such as *** historical stories.
One of the most heartwarming scenes I remember is my father telling me stories.
At that time, I had not yet gone to school, and after a long day in the fields, my parents came home to cook together, my mother was in charge of the pot, and my father was lighting the fire, and I sat next to my father and listened to him tell me the story of Yang Jiajiang.
My father spoke eloquently, and I listened to it with great relish. It's just that my father only tells a short story every day, so I look forward to listening to my father's stories in the evening.
In this way, in about half a year, my father told me the story of Yang Jiajiang and Hu Jiajiang.
Later, for some reason, my father stopped telling me stories. But this experience filled me with interest and curiosity about historical stories, so much so that after I became literate, I searched through all the history books I could find at home (all of them were textbooks left over from my sister's school days, and there were no stories).
Then, I read books such as "How Steel is Made", "Ordinary World", "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", "The Legend of the Heroes of the Sui and Tang Dynasties" and "Chronicles of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty".
As I read more and more books, I learned more and more about the world, and at the same time, I gradually developed the habit of reading.
If you read a lot of books, you will naturally have a lot of feelings.
So I began to put some of my feelings and thoughts into the tip of my pen, and gradually I also developed the habit of keeping a diary, not only recording what I saw and felt, but also writing about my own reflections and experiences.
This habit I developed since I was in junior high school and has accompanied me into college and society, and to this day, I still write a lot, but I put what I used to write on paper into my computer. Thanks to the reflection and reflection while writing, I can always make a better choice for myself when I am struggling or facing a turning point.
Since graduating from university and entering the workplace, I have maintained the habit of reading regularly, and have read a lot of books of different types and fields based on my work situation at different stages and personal interests.
Hotspot Engine Project These reading experiences have helped me better integrate into this society, and at the same time, I have cultivated some new good habits. For example, I have adhered to the bookkeeping habit for more than 7 years, which is inspired by financial books, which is also the habit I have developed the most after graduating from university. Whether it is writing or bookkeeping, it is my reading habit, and the reading habit benefits from my father's guidance in preschool, I think this is the greatness of my father, and it is also the most precious gift my father gave me!
My third gift from my family was that my parents nurtured me to be independent.
During the National Day at home, I listened to relatives and friends talk about a relative's experience, he was still a "mom treasure" after the early years, and his mother was worried about big and small things, and he was like an "unweaned" baby.
I am secretly glad that my parents have not doted on me since I was a child, so that I can grow up independently and healthily.
Looking back now, I have always consciously or unconsciously followed the growth path of "taking care of my own business".
When I was a child, my parents did not spoil me but let me do farm work together, which made me understand the hard work of my parents, so I was quite diligent when I was in school, and I did not need to be supervised by teachers and parents in my studies.
All the way from elementary school, junior high school, and high school to relatively smooth, although the results are not outstanding, they are basically in the forefront.
I remember when I graduated from high school, I was also worried about applying for the school, after all, at that time, the college entrance examination in Henan Province relied on the evaluation score to fill in the volunteers, and as a fresh graduate, I had no experience at all.
I also tried to ask for the opinions of teachers and parents, but later found that the opinions given by teachers were ambiguous, and parents did not have as much information as they had, so they had to follow their own wishes.
In the end, with the mentality of "I'd rather be a chicken head than a phoenix tail", I tried to fill in Chongqing University, which belongs to the western region. Luckily, I was lucky enough to be admitted when the first batch of results came out.
This time, I really tried to rely on my own sweetness, and since then I have begun to warn myself: to be independent in everything I do, to make my own decisions, to enjoy the joy of success when I choose the right one, and to bear the consequences when I choose to be wrong instead of complaining.
So much so that when I went to university, including finding a job after graduation, and then buying a house, getting married, and other major life events, I came completely according to my own wishes, and I didn't ask my parents for advice in advance, but I just told my parents about the results after the things were done.
Of course, because I have been relatively independent for many years, adhering to the principle of "worrying about my own affairs and making my own decisions", I have cultivated a certain ability to make decisions, and my choices in the above life events are still relatively reliable, and I can make the most suitable choice for myself at the moment.
Even when I bought a house in Shenzhen and faced greater economic pressure, I still adhered to the consistent principle: worry about it, raise money by myself, and do it by myself.
Perhaps in the eyes of relatives, friends or neighbors, my parents are lucky, and their children are very "worry-free" in starting a family.
But only I understand that it is in my upbringing that my parents gave me a good family education and cultivated my independent character, which will enable me to benefit immensely today and in the years to come.
I was born into a peasant family, and my parents did not give me a good economic environment, but my parents gave me three of the most precious gifts
Their deeds, words and deeds have cultivated my hard-working, hard-working character;
My father used interesting stories to guide me to develop the habit of reading;
My parents did not spoil me, but let go appropriately, and cultivated my independent character.
These three precious gifts have enabled me to better adapt and integrate into society; At the same time, these three gifts will also accompany me for the rest of my life, always giving me enough wisdom at different stages of my life to make me a better and better person.
This is something that no amount of material wealth can match, and I think this is what makes my parents respectable and great.