The two became husband and wife together at the beginning of love, and slowly turned into family affection and even friendship. There are three things that need to be paid attention to when getting along as a couple.
1. The words between husband and wife are supposed to be sweet exchanges, but sometimes they turn into sharp blades that hurt people. In the whirlpool of quarrels, some couples will inadvertently touch each other's sore spots, revealing those long-hidden secrets and shortcomings. These sharp words, like sharp blades, pierced deep into the other party's heart, and even if they apologized afterwards, it was difficult to make up for the trauma that had been caused.
Such a quarrel is not a simple exchange, but a war of hearts. Both sides are trying to gain the upper hand and stab each other with sharp words, but in the end it is the deep affection between the husband and wife that is hurt. Even if these words are out of anger and emotional catharsis, in the long run, these scars will gradually accumulate and eventually become wounds that are difficult to heal. To make matters worse, some couples choose cold wars when arguing, replacing verbal aggression with silence. This kind of cold violence is often more hurtful than a direct quarrel. Because in silence, the other party cannot feel your emotions and understand your true thoughts, and this sense of estrangement and distance will gradually erode the trust and understanding between the couple. 
Once a rift appears between a husband and wife, it is like a broken mirror, and even if it can be glued, it is difficult to restore its original integrity. Every quarrel, every cold war, adds new damage to this rift. Therefore, the communication between husband and wife should be full of love and understanding, avoid hurting each other with words, and should use tolerance and tolerance to maintain that deep relationship. Therefore, we need to learn to be tolerant and understanding of each other. Everyone is unique in their own way, which is why we are attracted to each other. We should respect the other person's personality and preferences and not try to change her. When we learn to accept and appreciate each other's uniqueness, our relationship will also become more harmonious and solid.
The second point is about the cultivation of independence and mystery between husband and wife. Couples, as the most intimate partners, will inevitably have moments of friction and boredom in their daily lives. This is because, no matter how much two people love each other, getting along for a long time will always reveal each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. To avoid this, couples should maintain a certain degree of independence from each other.
This doesn't mean distancing yourself from each other, but giving each other some space and time to develop their own hobbies. Doing so will not only enrich your life, but also inject new energy and topics into the communication between couples. For example, one party can participate in social events, meet new people, and share new experiences; The other party can devote themselves to their work and pursue personal growth and progress. While maintaining independence, couples also learn to maintain a sense of mystery between themselves. This doesn't mean hiding something on purpose, but rather going through some tricks and ways to increase each other's attraction and curiosity. For example, you can arrange some surprise activities once in a while, such as a sudden excursion or a romantic dinner, to make the other person feel cared for and cared for. Or, you can keep some small secrets in your daily life, such as a sudden change of hairstyle or dressing style, so that the other person can discover a new self in surprise. In short, the sense of independence and mystery between husband and wife is an important factor in maintaining a long-term happiness in a marriage. By cultivating their own hobbies and maintaining a certain sense of mystery, couples can constantly create new surprises and romances in their ordinary lives, making each other's feelings deeper and more lasting. 
Third, we must recognize that each person has their own unique temperament and personality, and these traits are deeply ingrained from childhood to adulthood and cannot be easily changed. We can't just try to reinvent each other because of our own preferences and expectations. Just like the food you like, others may not like it; If you like it, others may find it harsh. If we only think about changing each other, then such a relationship is no longer a harmonious life, but an endless war. What's worse is that over time, the other person may start to doubt your sincerity. He will begin to question whether you love him for the way he is, or just for the process of changing him. Such doubts can cause rifts in your relationship and may even lead to a breakdown in the relationship. Therefore, we need to learn to be tolerant and understanding of each other. Tolerance does not mean that we have to accept all the shortcomings and shortcomings of the other person, but we must learn to accept the uniqueness of the other person on the basis of respecting him. Understanding means trying to put ourselves in the other person's shoes, feel what they are feeling, and understand the reasons behind their actions. Only in this way can we build a truly healthy and harmonious relationship. 