In the early days of marriage, two people are like glue, and the sweetness between each other seems to be able to dye the world with a layer of warm color. In those days, their eyes met with love, and whether it was big or small, they were always able to solve it hand in hand, without fear. However, as time passes, the details of life gradually reveal their edges, and the tacit understanding and patience between the two begin to be tested. 
1. You may find that as you get older, the original inconspicuous minor problems have now become intolerable pain points for both parties. The trivial affairs of firewood, rice, oil and salt, the education of children, and the ups and downs of their careers may make this once talkative couple begin to feel that the distance between them is gradually widening. Some people are confused, puzzled, and even begin to wonder if this once firm relationship can really withstand the baptism of time. But in my opinion, all this experienced by middle-aged couples is actually a deeper emotional accumulation. The ups and downs they have gone through together have long been closely woven into each other's lives. This experience makes their relationship more tenacious and precious. They may know better how to find reconciliation in quarrels and how to find consensus in differences. They understand better that true love is not always without contradictions, but still chooses to stick to and tolerate in contradictions. 
Second, for middle-aged couples, how to get along with their other half may no longer be a difficult problem. What they need is to cherish each other more, understand each other better, and face every challenge in life more courageously. Only in this way can their relationship become deeper and stronger in the long river of years. At this age, communication between husband and wife is particularly important. However, as the years go by, the tacit understanding and understanding between the two seems to be quietly eroding. When faced with problems and conflicts, many couples often choose to solve them by arguing, which undoubtedly exacerbates the tension between the two parties. Keep in mind that arguing is not the best way to solve a problem, but can make it more complicated. In a quarrel, both parties tend to fall into an emotional state, which leads to heated rhetoric and tough attitudes, and such communication only exacerbates the conflict and does not lead to a real solution. 
3. Therefore, we should encourage more in-depth communication between husband and wife. This does not mean avoiding problems, but learning to face them with a calm and rational attitude. When communicating, both parties should listen to each other's points of view and understand each other's feelings, rather than blindly sticking to their own positions. Of course, it will not be easy to do this, and it will take the joint efforts of both sides. First of all, it is important for couples to build a foundation of mutual trust and respect. Only by trusting the other person can you express your thoughts and feelings with confidence; Only by respecting each other can we accept each other's views and suggestions. Secondly, husband and wife should learn to empathize. Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand their situation and feelings. In this way, you can look at the problem more objectively and avoid emotional arguments. 
Fourth, finally, couples can also use some communication skills to improve the effectiveness of communication. For example, use "I" language to express your feelings and needs, and avoid accusations and criticism; Actively listen to the other person's point of view, give the other person enough attention and understanding; Find common ground in communication and seek solutions that are acceptable to both parties. In the palace of marriage, giving and gaining are a pair of interdependent twin brothers. Just like a marriage that is hard to support alone, a marriage that is supported by only one person will eventually lead to exhaustion and breakdown. We often hear people complain about their partner's shortcomings when they are chatting at the poker table, as if all the blame is on the other person. However, this is not the true way of marriage. In the world of love, no one should give unilaterally, and no one should blindly take. Every long and happy marriage is the result of the joint efforts and mutual support of both parties. Just like the blooming flowers, they need the joint nourishment of sunshine and rain to bloom the most beautiful brilliance. In the same way, both parties in a marriage are to be like flowers, giving and cherishing each other. 
5. Some people say that marriage is a business run by two people together. Then, in this career, both parties should play their roles well and pay hard in order to reap the fruits of happiness. When we learn to appreciate the strengths of our partners, tolerate each other's shortcomings, resolve conflicts with love, and face challenges with patience, we will find that marriage can be so beautiful and so warm. Although the quarrel between husband and wife seems to be a small episode in daily life, it actually hides a huge wave of emotional exchange. In quarrels, both parties are often prone to heated rhetoric and even loss of reason due to emotional fluctuations. But quarrels are not the goal, but the expression of dissatisfaction and the search for a solution to the problem. However, there is one behavior that can freeze this emotional storm in an instant, and that is the Cold War.
Sixth, the Cold War is like a war without gunpowder, which makes the relationship between husband and wife drop to freezing point in an instant. It is different from a heated quarrel because it is silent, but it can invisibly tear the hearts of both parties. During the Cold War, couples often choose to remain silent and respond to each other with indifference, trying to get the other person to submit or feel guilty in this way. However, instead of solving the problem, this approach complicates the problem. The Cold War hurts people because it deprives both sides of the opportunity to communicate and exchange. In the Cold War, both husband and wife will be immersed in their own emotions and will not take the initiative to reconcile with each other. This stalemate will make the relationship more and more strained, until it finally becomes unbearable and breaks down. Therefore, when couples quarrel, they must avoid the occurrence of a cold war. When there is a disagreement, you should be honest about your feelings and needs, listen to each other's opinions, and work together to find a solution to the problem. Only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife be more harmonious and avoid the harm caused by the Cold War. 
7. At this stage of life, some people may think that romance is no longer a necessity because the trivialities and responsibilities of life have made everything practical and practical. In reality, however, it is at this age that romance becomes even more important. Because, when the daily life becomes monotonous and boring, when the wheels of time run over mercilessly, romance is like an oasis in the desert, bringing endless vitality and vitality to our lives.
Romance isn't just about giving flowers, writing love letters, or having a candlelit dinner. It is also a love of life, a cherishing of a partner, and a cherishing of every ordinary moment. It could be an early morning smile, a kiss before bedtime, or a simple "I love you." These seemingly insignificant small actions can leave a deep imprint on the long river of time.
Giving each other a little surprise can not only add color to life, but also consolidate the relationship between two people. These surprises could be a handwritten love letter, a song to sing for each other, or a sudden excursion. These surprises don't take much money or time, but they can bring deep emotion and joy to the other person.
So, don't ignore the power of romance. At this age, let us cherish each other more, use romance to color our lives, and make every day full of love and warmth. Because, only in this way, our lives will be more colorful, and our feelings will be deeper.