Why didn't anyone contact you during the Chinese New Year? 7 aspects of human nature, very realistic
During the festive season, especially the Spring Festival, people always look forward to gathering with family and friends to share the joy of family. However, with the changes of the times and the development of society, more and more people find that they seem to become "uncaring" during the Chinese New Year, and few people take the initiative to contact them. Behind this phenomenon lies a complex human nature and social reality. The following is an analysis of this phenomenon from seven aspects: personality, connections, money, means of communication, and use value.
1. Personality factors.
Character determines destiny and also affects interpersonal relationships. Introverts tend to be less proactive with people, and they tend to be silent in social situations, so few people take the initiative to contact them during the Chinese New Year. Extroverts, on the other hand, are enthusiastic and like to communicate with others, making it naturally easier to attract the attention of others. But even extroverts can be discouraged by others if they have an overly self-centered or aggressive personality.
2. Networking resources.
Networking is an intangible resource that influences an individual's status and influence in society. People with extensive connections will naturally receive more greetings and invitations during the Chinese New Year. And for those with limited connections, they may feel neglected or isolated. To a certain extent, this reflects the unequal distribution of social resources and people's desire for resources.
3. Money status.
Money plays an important role in modern society, it is not only a necessity of life, but also one of the important indicators of a person's success. People with higher economic status are more likely to be the center of attention during the Chinese New Year. Their success and wealth tend to attract the envy and pursuit of others. Conversely, people who are financially disadvantaged may actively reduce their contact with others because of low self-esteem or fear of being looked down upon.
Fourth, the means of communication.
Communicative means refer to the ways and methods that people take in social activities. With the development of technology, the way people communicate is constantly changing. Some people are good at using modern communication tools such as social networking to maintain and develop interpersonal relationships, and they can send blessings and greetings through platforms such as WeChat and Weibo during the Chinese New Year to keep in touch with people. Those who are not good or accustomed to using these tools may feel alienated.
Fifth, the use value.
The establishment of interpersonal relationships is often based on some degree of exchange of interests. The higher the value of a person's use in society, the more interpersonal relationships he can attract. This use value can be both material and spiritual. For example, a person with specialized knowledge or skills may be welcomed for being able to help others; A person with a sense of humor may be loved for bringing joy to others. During the Chinese New Year, those with high use value often become the object of competition with others.
Sixth, the time factor.
Modern society is fast-paced, people's lives are stressful, and time has become a valuable resource. During the Chinese New Year, everyone has their own arrangements and plans, and may not be able to reach out to others due to time conflicts. In addition, people's social circles are constantly changing as they age and their roles change, such as from students to professionals. Some old relationships may fade over time, while new relationships require time and effort to build and maintain.
7. Psychological defense mechanisms.
When people face interpersonal relationships, they often unconsciously activate psychological defense mechanisms. These mechanisms may be to protect yourself from harm, or they may be to avoid causing trouble to others. For example, some people may choose not to reach out to others for fear of rejection or not being valued; Others may be hesitant for fear of disturbing others. These psychological defense mechanisms hinder the establishment and development of interpersonal relationships to a certain extent.
To sum up, why didn't anyone take the initiative to contact you during the Chinese New Year? This question touches on many aspects of human nature and social reality. To improve this phenomenon, we need to start from ourselves, and strive to improve our personality charm, network resources, economic status, communication means and utilization value; At the same time, we must also learn to let go of our psychological baggage, bravely step out of our own small circle, and embrace the wider world.