Introduction: Students often ask in the background: Teacher, why am I so good, but I can't find a suitable partner for me? Why do I revolve around him all day and he doesn't know what to do? Why did my wonderful love at the beginning lose so badly?
The truth may be that you don't know the truth about love.
The first truth: it is never love that can be calculated
Zhang Ailing said: The happiest thing in the world is that you find that the person you love happens to love you.
Uncle Dong said: The unhappy thing in the world is that the love you think is nine out of ten is a chicken feather in the end.
Good love never needs to be calculated and painstaking, because it is a two-way love, otherwise even if it is forced, you will not get real love.
The second truth: people who are not suitable from the beginning are useless no matter how much they run in
Influenced by the original family and acquired growth experience, everyone's personality, ideas, and concepts are different, if you have a lot of conflicts when you first get along, then the other party is not suitable for you.
Many students always think that they will move a man, he doesn't love me now, I am so good to him, one day he will be moved.
The girl who thinks like this doesn't understand men, men never wronged themselves emotionally, he didn't like you at first, it's because you have something that makes him feel very dissatisfied, and this dissatisfaction is generally something that cannot be reconciled in principle, and it will not get better because of the passage of time.
So he will never fall in love with you, the reason why he is reluctant to be with you now is 100% out of practical considerations, such as sexual needs, you can help him financially, parental pressure, etc., even if this kind of man marries you, because he is not satisfied, he will cheat in the future without even a little psychological barrier, if he meets a girl who meets his dreams, he immediately falls into true love, at this time you can't get it back anyway.
After all, twisted melons are not sweet.
The third truth: people who blindly give in love often have nothing
Many people give without regrets in love, without any requirements for the other party, and they also say "I don't want anything" and "I just love him".
But people who don't want to just give often end up getting nothing, and the other party will feel that your love is cheap and easy to get, so naturally you don't have to cherish it.
Fourth truth: Don't care about the other person's past, or you will lose badly
In the world of feelings, everyone has a past, and some people can't help but inquire about each other's past exes, and they really know that they will add blockages to their hearts in the future, and even destroy the feelings that have been managed so hard.
Remember: don't probe into the other person's past, you will lose in the end anyway.
The fifth truth: no matter how good a relationship is, it is not static
When you fall in love, you want to love each other for the rest of your life. Three or five years have passed, passion has long been defeated by the trivialities of reality, and there is no longer the heart-pounding feeling at the beginning, love has a shelf life!
If you want to extend the shelf life of love, you must think of growing up with each other, exploring the unknown together, and constantly creating surprises and romance together.
The sixth truth: Feelings that are always divided and united will eventually separate
Two people who have been together for a long time will always have contradictions, and when the contradictions accumulate to a certain extent, they will break up, and if they are reluctant to each other, they will get back together.
However, if the problems that led to the breakup are not solved after getting back together, they will still repeat the old path of splitting and merging(If you don't know how to solve the problem, you can private me in the background).In the end, the two parties were exhausted and never wanted to recover, so they broke up completely.
The beauty of love doesn't come naturally. If you want to get a good love, you must first understand the truth of love, and only then do you know how to do it, and managing a good love is to manage your life well!
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