At this stage, if parents cannot give the child correct guidance, then the child is very simply out of the track of learning. Facing children in the rebellious period of junior high school, parents must hurry up to solve the problem and communicate with their children in the right way.
How can I communicate with my children if I don't go to school during the rebellious period?
1. It is necessary to find out the cause and prescribe the right medicine.
There are many reasons for the rebellious period to be disgusted with school. For example, some children do not communicate well with their classmates at school, or are bulliedSome are influenced by other children, have bad behaviors, and skip school en masse;Some are addicted to games and can't extricate themselves.
2. Lower expectations and don't put too much pressure on your child.
Every child's learning ability is different, and each child's strengths are different. Not all children can become top students, and their potential may not be explored in other aspects. Therefore, parents should comment on their children correctly, and do not give their children too high a waiting value, otherwise it will constitute too much mental pressure on the child, and this unattainable pressure will make the child desperate and dissolved.
3. Let children understand the joy of success.
The child cares a lot about what others say about him, and he knows himself according to what others say. A child who always loses can't grasp the joy of success, so he doesn't try. For a child who has never finished his homework, parents ask him to do a few brief exercises so that he can finish them easily, and then adjust the difficulty of the homework. Assuming that the child's learning is not good, do not attribute the reason for the failure to the child's lack of intelligence, parents can find the reason for the confusion from the aspects of learning attitude and willpower.
4. Teach children to handle and deal with interpersonal contacts correctly.
When dealing with conflicts between children, teachers, and classmates, you can first stand on the child's attitude and communicate, so that it is easier to obtain the child's recognition and acceptance. Be less blaming, not partial, listen patiently to your child's outing, and then put yourself in the shoes of a bystander to guide you. If necessary, you can talk to the teacher and get help from the teacher.
The child is rebellious and likes to play the influence of games:
1. Children are addicted to games during the rebellious period, the most obvious thing for children is that it is difficult for children's attention to meet in addition to games in addition to work, parents usually find that children seem to be so convergent and focused as long as they are addicted to games, but as long as they are allowed to do other work, it is very perfunctory and sloppy.
2. In terms of children's characteristics, some people will say that games are demons and will make people lose energy. This is actually talking about the impact on temperament, a positive and sunny teenager, once the mind is disturbed, he will become introverted and withdrawn, low and pessimistic, which is also the psychological behavior of the hindrance said, the behavior of the game to affect the mind, and gradually develop into the moral hindrance of the adolescent.
3. People who are addicted to games rarely have a positive state of mind, and more are negative, impetuous, and excited negative moods, because these children can get all kinds of good comprehension and pleasure in the game to meet their energy needs, which are not available in real life, the family environment is poor, and the family does not give enough attention, care, and accompaniment, and the mental nutrition is very lacking, and it is very painful to be under a little pressure.