With the continuous expansion of urbanization, there is now such a special group of people, who do not work or live in the city, but are obligated to take care of their children in the city.
It stands to reason that it is normal for parents to see their children. However, now it is not as comfortable as it was in the countryside to see children in the city. Some of the people who came over were angry, some were still in tears, and even swore that they would never go to the city for the rest of their lives, and never go to their children's homes again.
For the sake of their children's marriage, some parents also let go of their hometown, sold their hometown houses, and put all the pension money on them, just for their children to live better in the city, and live a very simple and simple life at home, and some are sixty or seventy years old, and they still have to work and farm.
Of course, life is not easy for some young people in the city now, especially after marriage, especially after having children, some days are also quite tight, on the one hand, they are reluctant to lose their jobs, on the other hand, they can't afford to hire nannies, and they have to beat their parents' ideas in taking care of their children. Everything for the children, everything for the children. After receiving the ** of their children, some parents would rather not have it at home, but also hurried to the city to help take care of their children.
It would have been a good thing to have parents (parents-in-law) to help take care of the children, and it can relieve the pressure of the small family. Not to mention, the old people of this generation are good enough, they don't have any complaints when they go to the city to bring their children, not only to watch the children, but also to do housework and buy groceries, cleaning, cooking, washing clothes, etc., and some have to take the children to sleep at night, change the children's diapers, feed them milk powder or something, do it in no black and white, and it is completely a free nanny.
In such a happy life, some young people don't appreciate it at all, don't understand the hard work of their parents, don't leave their mobile phones after getting home from work, go to their rooms to enjoy the joy of the two-person world after eating, and don't even let their parents go on weekends, and don't know how to let their elders rest for a day. Although sometimes I am tired and my back and legs hurt, I endure it for the sake of my children.
It should be said that some parents (parents-in-law) not only have to contribute to their children's small families, but also have to pay for daily expenses, daily necessities, including grocery shopping, etc., and their children never give a penny. Taking a step back, for the sake of the younger generations, some of these old people still compromised.
Despite this, many families are not as beautiful as imagined, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, and there are many, many people who can't get out of the father-in-law. Especially in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some young daughters-in-law don't look down on their mother-in-law at all, they pick their noses and eyes, they don't say anything about eating and drinking their mother-in-law, and their mother-in-law makes a big fuss if she doesn't have a point. As some people say, watching children live a life that is not as good as cattle and horses in the children's house, it is not okay to be cautious everywhere, and the daughter-in-law will give the face if she says that she will give her face, and she will put her face on the face, or she will be unhappy. Therefore, some people go home because they are unhappy, some are forced to go home, and some are helpless to go home.
What I want to say here is that it is not an obligation for the elderly to show their children children, nor is it legal, it is purely a sentiment, and they can bring it to you or not, as a child, you must know this. Secondly, we must know that it is not easy to be grateful and understand parents, don't think that taking care of children is an easy thing, it is not easy at all. Some old people said bluntly that they would rather go to the construction site to move bricks than take their children. The most important thing as a child is to give the elderly some respect, don't take advantage of the old people who don't know how to count, they can show you that the children are already quite good, so don't squeeze the elderly financially and emotionally.
Look at how pitiful it is for some elderly people to go home, even if they have no home, and they have to pick up rags to make a living. Some.
It is not even more appropriate to threaten the elderly with the elderly at every turn, but it is a legal obligation to support the elderly. In a word, it is difficult for a Qing official to decide family affairs, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. It is still necessary to communicate more, communicate more, talk openly, seek harmony, do not compromise, blindly compromise will not solve the problem.
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