Marriage is the grave of love, and this sentence has been on the lips of countless people. However, can marriage really only be the end of love? Perhaps, this is just a one-sided understanding of marriage. Marriage is actually a process of two people living and growing together. In this process, both parties need to put in the effort and both need to learn to compromise and be tolerant. However, when the marriage is selfish, it all seems to be different.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she is likely to do something unusual. These actions may seem incomprehensible to others, but in her own opinion, they may be to protect her own interests. Today, we will reveal these actions and see how selfish women will behave.
1. Being too attached to money and material things.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she is likely to become more and more materialistic. She may value money and material things more than marriage, and even sacrifice the happiness of her marriage in order to pursue better living conditions.
Such a woman may constantly demand money and material things from her husband, and even treat her husband's money as her own private property. She will take her husband's contribution for granted, and her own contribution will be very important. In the heart of such a woman, money and material things have taken the place of love and marriage and have become the whole of her life.
2. Indifference to the education and growth of children.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she may show indifference to the education and upbringing of her children. She may devote more energy to her career or hobbies to the needs of her family and children.
Such a woman may shift the responsibility for the education of her children to her husband or other family members, believing that she is only responsible for earning money to support the family. She may be indifferent to her child's academic performance and upbringing, and even absent-minded when dealing with her child. In the hearts of such women, the relationship between herself and her children is no longer the most intimate, but has become an exchange of interests.
3. Indifference to her husband and family.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she may show a cold attitude towards her husband and family. She may focus more on her career or hobbies than on the needs of her family and husband.
This type of woman may show impatience with her husband's care and pampering, and even create contradictions and conflicts in the home. She will treat her husband and family as a burden to herself, believing that she needs to put in more effort to break free from this bondage. In the heart of such a woman, the family is no longer her warm harbor, but has become a shackle that restricts her freedom.
Fourth, be considerate of relatives and friends.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she may show a calculating attitude towards her relatives and friends. She may see the words and actions of her friends and relatives as a threat to her own interests, and thus become wary of them.
This kind of woman may create conflicts and strife between relatives and friends, and even betray relatives and friends for her own interests. She will see relationships as a game of interests, and put her own emotions secondary. In this kind of woman's heart, relatives and friends are no longer people she can trust and rely on, but have become objects that she needs to use and guard.
5. Infidelity to marriage.
In marriage, if a woman is selfish, then she is likely to have unfaithful thoughts about the marriage. She may feel that marriage is no longer able to meet her needs, so she looks for other emotional sustenance.
This kind of woman may look for an affair outside and even develop an extramarital affair. She will treat marriage as a bondage and pin her happiness on others. In the heart of this kind of woman, marriage is no longer her stable dependence, but has become a shackle that she longs to get rid of.
In marriage, a selfish woman may exhibit the above five actions. These actions will not only hurt the hearts of the husband and family, but also cause the marriage to gradually break down. However, selfishness in marriage is not inevitable. As long as both parties can always think about each other, and can learn to compromise and tolerate, then selfishness in marriage can be effectively curbed.
Marriage requires two people to run it together. Only when both parties can put each other in the most important position in their hearts and can pay sincere and hard work for the marriage, then the marriage can be happy and long-lasting. I hope that every woman can cherish her marriage and resist selfishness, so as to make marriage her best destination.