Recently, a friend got married, and I heard him say that the glorious gift cost 200,000 yuan, and even the gift or something is almost 250,000 yuan. We were amazed at how the gifts could be spent so much money and what were bought. He said that the wine is 1,000 yuan a box, the cigarette is soft, the pork and mutton, fruit oil, etc. add up to a burden, and uncles and uncles have to count 5-6 burdens, and each burden is about 4,000. I jokingly said, big brother, you are really rich, only to know that you are the **rich and big, you are true love for your daughter-in-law. He said that you don't come, I borrowed the money for changing my mouth from Huabei, and I poured it back and then returned it. I said that my partner is fine, this has helped me a lot, according to their custom, uncle, aunt, and aunt have to be delivered, how can they get a small truck. I said to bring back so much bride price or bring back a part of it, he said that it depends on the old man and mother-in-law, if there is a younger brother in the family, the family conditions are generally estimated to be hanging, my father-in-law is better, although there is a son, the money is not a part of her girl brought back, the girl married so far, we will not deliver, these should be given to the girl to get a dowry. Listening to his description, he was very satisfied with his wife and his wife's family, and I couldn't say anything anymore.
After the matter of friends, for him, his family is quite solid, and there may be no problem for his parents to help, but for ordinary families, this is not a small amount of money, and parents may borrow money to let their children get married, which is the rich children and poor parents.
In my opinion, the bride price has both its positive side and some questions worth pondering. As a traditional custom, the bride price reflects the importance that the family attaches to marriage and the blessing of the newlyweds. The bride price not only represents the man's respect and love for the woman, but also symbolizes the connection and integration of the two families. This custom enhances the sense of ritual of marriage to a certain extent, making people cherish and respect marriage more. With the development and change of society, the bride price has gradually exposed some problems. On the one hand, the amount of the bride price is rising, which puts a heavy financial burden on many families. Some families even go so far as to borrow money or save other necessary expenses in order to pay a high bride price, which undoubtedly puts pressure on the family's financial situation. On the other hand, the excessive emphasis on the bride price can also easily lead to some people's distortion of the values of marriage. Some people may see the bride price as the sole purpose of marriage and ignore the true meaning and value of marriage.
I think we should be rational about the traditional custom of bride price. It is necessary to respect traditions and reflect the importance and blessing of marriage, and to avoid overemphasizing the bride price, so as not to bring economic burdens and distorted values to the family. At the same time, we should also strengthen the popularization of marriage education, so that people can view marriage and bride price more rationally, so that marriage can truly become the starting point for two people to support each other and grow together.