In working life, we are often faced with choices and difficulties. Today, we're going to talk about a girl programmer's problem. She is a girl born in 93 and currently works in Shenzhen, with good savings, provident fund and annual salary. The problem she faced was that her family wanted her and her sister to pay for her brother's house, but she also had her own plans to buy a house. This question concerns family emotions and personal financial planning. 
This girl is 93 years old, unmarried, and currently has plans to buy a house in Shenzhen, buying a house alone or a joint venture with her sister, or buying a house with her future husband. But now they are facing a family problem, their parents ask the two sisters to pay 200,000 yuan each to buy a house for their younger brother to get married, which is more difficult for him to accept. In fact, as a young person, we should all prioritize our own interests and future. Buying a home is an important financial decision that should be based on your own interests and those of your future partner. For this programmer girl, she plans to buy a small apartment in Shenzhen on her own, which is a wise decision. After all, we are responsible for our own lives, and only by owning our own house can we truly stabilize our lives. And to buy a joint venture with my sister, netizens don't recommend it, and it is even more unclear if there is a conflict of interest in the future, and with the existing funds, don't consider buying a house, store it in your own hands, and use it to build your own small home in the future is the right choice. As for taking out 200,000 yuan to help his younger brother, most netizens do not approve of this approach, this is what people call "Voldemort". Of course, if you have money, you should support your family, but it is difficult for many people to accept directly taking out half of the money they have saved after working hard for several years.
Although, family responsibilities are also part of what we need to focus on. The girl's younger brother didn't have enough savings for the down payment, and the family wanted her and her sister to each contribute a portion of the money to support the younger brother. Although this is an expectation, we need to be clear that we have our own lives and plans.
We cannot sacrifice all our wealth to support our relatives and be irresponsible for our own future. In this case, the girl can work with her brother to discuss a solution, for example, to help him repay part of the loan. This can not only support the purchase of the younger brother's marriage house, but also ensure that the girl has enough funds to realize her own plan to buy a house.
In traditional Cantonese families, it is believed that girls should not buy a house, because the traditional belief is that after a girl gets married, she will have a home of her own, and the man will provide a house. However, modern society has changed a lot, and it is very important for women to own their own careers and wealth.
Although the girl's family has a tendency to favor her younger brother on this issue, they are usually very good to the two sisters, and the relationship between the sister and brother is also very good. Therefore, when dealing with this issue, we need to maintain family harmony and not ask our parents to support our own home purchase plans, while also respecting our own choices.
Before making a decision, we need to consider our inner feelings and responsibilities. This girl is very kind and cares about the needs of her family, but she also has her own plans to buy a house. She worries that even if she gives some money to support her brother's house, her family may still feel that she is not doing her best. In the face of such a situation, we need to think rationally, be clear about the responsibilities we can bear, and not sacrifice ourselves too much because of the expectations of others.
Finally, I would like to give this girl some advice. First and foremost, we need to prioritize our own interests and future. Second, we need to balance personal interests with family responsibilities and negotiate solutions with relatives to support their needs and ensure that we have sufficient funds to achieve our goals. Finally, we need to respect traditional values, but also uphold modern values, stick to our choices, and maintain a harmonious relationship with our families.