As the old saying goes: the water flows more when the water is broken, and the sorrow is more sorrowful when you raise a glass.
In life, the hardest thing to do is to get what you want.
When people reach middle age, they must especially learn to face these kinds of separation. Even if it is a last resort and backfires, it is no longer possible to turn the tide by one's own strength, and learning to let go and parting is the respect for one's own life.
The Tao is different, do not conspire with each other, and learn to separate from people and things that deviate from their own ideals.
At the end of the Warring States period, the heroes competed for hegemony. The Qin State in the west gradually became dominant, and the momentum of destroying the Six Kingdoms became increasingly apparent.
Qu Yuan, a poet and politician of the Chu State. In his early years, he was trusted by King Chu Huai, and served as a leftist disciple and a doctor in Sanlu, and was also in charge of domestic and foreign affairs. He advocated American politics, advocated the promotion of talents and abilities internally, cultivated the law, and externally advocated joining forces to resist Qin.
However, because he was excluded and slandered by the nobles, King Chu Huai credulously believed Zhang Yi's lie that "if Chu breaks off diplomatic relations with Qi State, it will return 600 miles of land for business", and no longer reused Qu Yuan.
Soon, the State of Qin attacked the State of Chu, and Qu Yuan put his family and country first, and sent an envoy to the State of Qi, making the State of Qi reconciled with the State of Chu, and sent troops to rescue.
However, the advantage of Chu has gone. In the later period of his reign, King Huai of Chu and King Zhaoxiang of Qin allied themselves at Wuguan, and King Zhaoxiang of Qin detained him and coerced him to cede his land.
During the three years that King Chu Huai was detained, his son did not think about saving his father and set himself up as king, and the princes thought that they were harmless to themselves and did not crusade. For the interests of the country, King Chu Huai refused to cede land.
In the end, the king of Chu Huai died in the Qin state. The general of the Qin state, Bai Qi, led the army to break through the Yingdu, and the state of Chu was destroyed.
Qu Yuan was like-minded with King Chu Huai when he was young, assisted each other, and had a deep and righteous relationship, but in the end, King Chu Huai betrayed this friendship and buried the country, so he died for the country and died for his will.
Qu Yuan devoted his life to serving the country. However, such an ideal was excluded by the best people and was not tolerated by that era, but he never compromised or gave up.
As a result, Qu Yuan left a monument for future generations to look up to forever.
It's just that in real life, we often encounter Qu Yuan's dilemma of "disillusionment", at this time, is it like Qu Yuan, unswerving, or choose to take a detour and find another way?
Perhaps, after experiencing the ups and downs of life, we have been able to "understand current affairs", or learn to "get up from falling down".
Learn to part with those who "are different from the Tao and do not seek it". Firmly "love what I love, do what I do", life can truly leave no regrets!
The past that can't be returned, those who miss, learn to part, in order to better cherish the present.
I don't know, have you ever had such an experience, want to go back to your hometown once, find the taste of your childhood, take a look at the scenery in your memory, and meet the old people for a while?
Just like the baby returning to its mother's arms, that emotional return seems to have finally been settled.
It's just that, in addition to the joy, we are not as satisfied as we imagined.
The beautiful pictures, beautiful tastes, and beautiful emotions that remain in the memory have gradually become blurred like yellowed **.
Can people and things that have gradually "changed" still comfort our impetuous and tired hearts at the moment?
Perhaps, yes! Perhaps, that's all.
Learning to make a parting with the past is a must to live better in the present.
If you miss your lover, you don't have time to say "I love you", or you don't have time to say "goodbye", you might as well meet and talk about it. From then on, one parted and two wide, each rejoiced.
The dilapidated old house can no longer find out what it once was, so don't work hard to maintain it, tear it down and rebuild, it is the inheritance that the ancestors are more eager to see.
The "rare things" that were rare in the past are now "ordinary things", and the great abundance of material life and the happiness brought to people have gradually faded.
The current days may be what we yearn for when we were children. When life reaches a new level, we will not stay where we are, but will yearn for a better life than we have today.
Or, in the present days, perhaps our lives are far from what we imagined as children. But nothing can be done again, instead of holding on to the past, it is better to change the current dilemma.
Learning to separate from the people and things of the past is to encourage yourself, face everything in the present, and use all your efforts to make yourself better and make life more beautiful.
Only by parting from your former self can you achieve a better self.
Today's me is no longer yesterday's me, tomorrow's I won't be today's me. "People who really have ideals and ambitions know how to make today's self better than yesterday's self, and improve a little bit every day to become a better self.
is like the heroine Le Ying in the movie "Hot and Hot", in the face of the blame of her family, the contempt of her sweetheart, and the frustration in the workplace, she is determined to create a new self.
The process of insisting on exercising, in addition to soaking yourself in sweat, is actually to gradually develop the habit of self-discipline.
The change in body shape is external and visible to the naked eye. The inner tenacity, a little bit stronger, is intangible, but it can radiate from the inside out, showing a confident and steady temperament.
The process of change has the "pain" of rebirth, as well as the joy of "nirvana rebirth".
Parting with the former self, at the beginning, was not an "earth-shattering" event. Instead, start with the most ordinary day, no longer indulge yourself in eating, drinking, and indulging in your comfort zone, but let yourself do the things that seem challenging, the things that require more hard work and sweat, and do the things that you are not good at.
Perhaps, every day from now on is a new beginning, in the face of one problem after another, suffering, stuck, and even retreating.
But fortunately, the desire to become a better version of ourselves has not changed, and it is in this persistence again and again that we have gradually taken on a new look from the self we were born from yesterday.
Conclusion. Li Bai has a poem that says: "The flying tents are far away, and they are all in the cup." ”
Life is a happy reunion again and again, and a sudden parting again and again. Whether you want it or not, when life enters the next stage, those who have accompanied us on a journey will be separated.
It's better to silently say "thanks" in your heart, and then leave in style.
Everyone has their own longing for the distance, but also has a destination in this life, as long as we take the past beauty, with a grateful heart on the road, we have never really broken off the friendship.
They are like the wind and rain beside them, accompanying each other all the way, accompanying them all the way, and blessing them all the way.
Author: The wind is as light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
*Originated from the Internet.