In the world of counseling, sometimes "failure" is not really a failure, but a deep awakening. Last Friday, I witnessed a seemingly "failed" counseling walkthrough in which the client's questions didn't seem to be resolved and she didn't act on it. However, the supervisor's assessment was surprising - the consultation was "natural", "wonderful" and "successful".
The supervisor's words were like a breath of fresh air, and I realized that the client's self-awareness is the key in the counseling process. She suddenly realized that she had no control over her children's lifestyles, and that was the beginning of her progress. We often struggle with life's "unsolvable" problems, trying to change, forgetting that true wisdom lies in discerning: what we can and cannot control.
Last Friday's case is the epitome of family conflict. The old man wants her children to follow what she thinks is healthy habits, while the children have their own lifestyles. This pain often stems from our attempts to control things that we can't control. The counselor's question made the old man suddenly realize that she could not impose her will on others.
This story teaches us that sometimes, the best solution is not to change others, but to accept and understand. When we learn to let go of the desire to control, our minds can truly be free. This is not only the wisdom of psychological counseling, but also the wisdom of life. Let us learn to find the "solution" in the "unsolved" in every corner of life, and keep moving forward on the road of self-awareness.
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