It is better to be cautious than to say a thousand things and ten thousand
--- Aladdin 956
After working for a long time, there will always be some unthinkable events, which are not your will and are not what you are happy to see. However, the event itself has its own laws of development, but you and I don't know much about it.
If you are aware of it and reflect on it, the bad things may become good things. There are two sides to the so-called everything, and the matching is quite strong when applied to specific cases.
The premise is that you can't make preconceived subjective judgments, secondly, you can't judge from the high ground of morality, and thirdly, you don't resist and reject it in your heart, but accept it and accept this fact with sincerity.
Knowing that it's easier said than done. But, even if it's not easy to do, you have to push yourself to work in that direction. If you only meditate hard in your own mind and can't escape, you will be depressed, depressed, emotionally disturbed, depressed and even hysterical.
After all, every incident happens for a reason. Your thinking only determines the direction in which you think about the event itself, but it does not represent others, and it will never represent others. If you stand on the moral high ground to judge, it is even more wrong again and again, it is better to calm down and sue yourself - "How can you be virtuous? Who gave you the right to give you advice? And so on and so forth.
If you feel that you have enough experience to play the role of an expert, which is just your own personal appreciation, how do you know what others think? The most useless thing in the world is preaching, especially when you stand on a high place and have a pleasant face that is actually a little proud.
Your audience is always a reality that you can't avoid. No matter how good your starting point is, no matter how good your intentions are, you may not be able to reach the same consensus as you, there are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, and there are no two people with a high degree of consistent thinking.
Say a thousand things and ten thousand, it is better to be cautious, or less subjective, or less preconceived, otherwise, your kindness releases the other party without any feedback, the loss of energy is just a small matter, the key is the ups and downs of emotions, why bother?
Some truths really took decades to understand, and if you want to talk about it, you don't know when you have to wait for it. If you keep this cognition in your pocket and brain all the time, and take it out from time to time to shake it to stimulate it, your behavior will most likely improve.
Don't believe it, you try!