Students have to live alone away from their parents after entering the university, and they cannot adapt smoothly to the small social groups on campus.Before entering the university, students were inseparable from the management of their parents in their previous lives, and they are truly independent students after entering the university. When they first enter the university campus, they are still in the adaptation stage, and many students are at a loss, so they have more contact with their parents, and parents are not worried about students living alone.
As students adapt to their new life and develop over time, they become more and more busy with their social and academic lives, and have less and less contact with their parents.
It is undeniable that students who enter school from primary and secondary school, complete their residential or day classmates, spend 2 3 a day dedicating time to school and spending more time with teachers than their parents, and students rarely be able to spend alone with their parents when they grow up.
Parents feel very uncomfortable with the fact that students are gradually less in touch with each other after going to schoolThe child grows up, and his wings are stiff".In fact, the reasons behind this are not one or two, parents and students have to think about some practical problems.
The whole life in college is more relaxed and enjoyable in the learning process, away from the nagging of parents and class teachers, which can make students more and more relaxed. Compared with the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, the students' learning pressure is much easier, and they can allocate a lot of free time and personal time, and gradually break away from the original boring life and enter the new group, thus reducing the contact with parents.
The first biggest reason is that students are busy with studies and social activities
In order to find an ideal job, students must work hard during college, college life is far from being as easy and simple as imagined, and it also takes a lot of time to learn new knowledge, improve their comprehensive practical ability and subject knowledge reserves, otherwise it is very likely that students will face an unemployment crisis after graduation.
In addition, the university life of students also includes many new roommates, new students come into contact with students from other regions, in order to lay the foundation for future employment, students should continue to contact different people, classmates communication issues become the main social network, will also participate in other social practice activities and campus activities, to the greatest extent to their extracurricular life arrangements full, reduce contact with parents.
The second reason is the lack of common ground between parents and students
As the people and things that students come into contact with on college campuses have changed, parents do not understand the age gap, and communication will be formed**, so the common language has become less and less common, and it has gradually become a daily work.
With the growth of students, parents cannot solve some new things or learning problems in school, so students have gradually reduced their complaints to their parents, and even have nothing to talk about. This is a real factor in the generation gap between college students and their parents.
The third reason is that I have become more independent indirectly with the students, and my thoughts have begun to change, and my thoughts and behaviors have changed
During the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, students are under the supervision of their parents and have no other opportunities to participate in their studies and live independently. However, after entering the university, the sense of autonomy becomes stronger, and the students are not only independent in life, but also become more independent in thought, so they have a sense of privacy and communicate with their parents, and pay more attention to their privacy.
Whether it is a student or a parent, in the face of such a problem are a little uncomfortable, whether it is a child or a parent, must be prepared to communicate, students should also contact their parents in time after entering the university, after all, they are in other places to study, parents are often worried.