Title: Extraordinary Love: A 48-Year-Old Farmer Marries a College Student In 1971, an exciting love story circulated in Guancun, Wugong County, Shaanxi Province, starring Wei Zhaoqing, a 48-year-old farmer, and a college bride who was 10 years younger than him.
The villagers talked about the extraordinary background of the bride: "I heard that the bride is a college student! "She's so much younger than Zhaoqing! But the village cadres expressed concern about this and reminded Wei Zhaoqing: "Zhaoqing, marrying a wife is nothing, but if you marry an intellectual, this is a big deal."
You can't read a word, how can you compare with her? However, Wei Zhaoqing smiled innocently and retorted: "But she doesn't want a bride price!" This woman doesn't want me to pay, and this is a rare opportunity. ”
This story makes people wonder, why did this female college student marry this simple peasant instead of material things? What is her eye? How will their love story develop?
Let's look forward to it together!
After graduating from college in 1954, she was assigned to the Agricultural Science Institute of Shijiazhuang, Hebei Province, and married her college classmate Wu Furong, and had a bumper career and love.
However, due to the changes of the times and her straightforward character, Xu Yanji was expelled and hatted for her words, lost the fetus in her womb, and was imprisoned for 6 years.
One day, she received a notice that Wu Furong was going to divorce her, she couldn't believe it, but in order to save this marriage, she decided to express her feelings to Wu Furong. She wrote in a letter to Wu Furong: "For the sake of never blushing since we got married, you have waited for me for 6 years.
When I come out, I will repay you with my life. "Xu Yanji is like a drowning man, clinging to every life-saving straw, hoping to return to his old life with strength.
However, after Wu Furong saw Xu Yanji, he cried and said that he wanted to divorce Xu Yanji, and told her that he had wanted to divorce for a long time, but she was pregnant at the time, and he couldn't mention it.
Hearing the news, Xu Yanji felt deceived and insulted, she stared at Wu Furong, broke down and shouted: "You can't wait six years, you are in a hurry to find someone else to marry, why don't you dare to say it clearly?"
The days are still long, and who will be in the future is not certain! ”
After six years in captivity, Xu Yanji finally regains her freedom, but she finds herself with nowhere else to go in this world. So, the director suggested that she go to her mother, but Xu Yanji rejected this suggestion, and she was unwilling to add more burdens to her mother.
She decided to go to a place called Jianjian Village in Hebei Province to participate in the labor of the agricultural society. Although she worked very hard, she could only get 300 catties of food every year, and her physical strength gradually declined.
One day, she sees someone around her who is seriously ill, which makes her realize that the village is not a place where she can support herself. So, during the Spring Festival in 1971, she went to Shaanxi to discuss countermeasures with her brother.
The elder brother also had a hard time, but hearing about his sister's situation, he decided to help her. However, they found that no village was willing to accept an outsider to settle down. So, my brother made a bold suggestion: Xu Yanji could marry a poor middle peasant, so that he could settle down.
Xu Yanji thought about it for a while and decided to accept this suggestion. Although she was a little scared about marrying a stranger, she knew that this was her only chance to survive in this world.
The next morning, he told his sister about his decision and helped her find a village that would accept her. Although Xu Yanji is full of uncertainty and fear about her new life, she knows that she must face it bravely.
In order to get her brother closer to her, Xu Yanji decided not to pay a bride price and became a sought-after woman in the local area. She is in good health, easy-going, and has no children to drag down, which makes people feel that this is a profitable deal.
In the end, she married Wei Zhaoqing from Guancun, although his family was not well-off, he had a house and good planting conditions, and he was only more than 30 miles away from her brother's horse farm. On the day of the blind date, Wei Zhaoqing's uncle questioned her on the grounds that Xu Yanji couldn't do housework, but Wei Zhaoqing chose to marry her for the sake of his children, Xu Yanji was moved by his kindness and love, so the two decided to be married.
Xu Yanji is both happy and a little heavy about her upcoming marriage, and she is looking forward to a better life in the Guanzhong area, but at the same time, she is full of uncertainty about the future married life.
After Xu Yanji and Wei Zhaoqing registered their marriage, Xu Yanji offered to keep their daily habits, and neither party should force the other party to obey him. Although Wei Zhaoqing was a little confused at first, he later agreed.
After marriage, Xu Yanji was very positive and quickly adapted to housework and farm work, although she was not very good at some trivial things, but Wei Zhaoqing was always willing to help. Xu Yanji found that Wei Zhaoqing was a smart and capable person, and he was also very kind, and the people in the village respected him very much.
Although Xu Yanji did not fall in love with Wei Zhaoqing, she was very willing to live peacefully with him, and she was never bullied since marrying him. Wei Zhaoqing once said that he would make others respect Xu Yanji, which made Xu Yanji feel deeply reassured.
During the Spring Festival in 1972, Xu Yanji's mother sent a huge sum of 1,000 yuan. Xu Yanji generously gave the money to her husband, Wei Zhaoqing, to buy a 200 yuan tree and renovate the old house.
Wei Zhaoqing then called the villagers to help, and it only took 10 days to make the original dilapidated old house look new. The blackened walls were repainted, and two rear glass windows were opened, making the whole house appear bright and large.
The rest of the money Wei Zhaoqing used to buy a large amount of furniture, including a cabinet with multiple drawers, two chairs with backrests, and a small table and small bench for eating. Xu Yanji's mother also sent a small cupboard, a sewing machine, and a container for the electric light from the passenger.
Therefore, Wei Zhaoqing's poor yard was upgraded all of a sudden, with new houses, new furniture, and newly installed electric lights, everything seemed so bright and comfortable. The people in the village are very envious: "Zhaoqing is really capable, and he married a wife who can make money!" ”
Under Xu Yanji's careful care, the family also raised pigs, sheep and chickens, and Wei Zhaoqing was responsible for feeding the poultry. Since then, the family has not only improved their nutrition, but also eaten eggs and goat's milk, and become healthier and stronger.
Xu Yanji treats his stepson Koko like his own son, teaching him to write, tutoring him with homework, taking him to the town to watch movies, going to the city to watch trains, and even taking him to visit relatives.
The first time Koko ate potatoes, oranges, and bananas, and the first time he saw a singing and dancing show, it was also at Xu Yanji's brother. This experience allowed him to see the outside world for the first time, and also inspired his desire to get out of the mountains, he became more obedient, studied well, did not fight, and even became a class president.
Wei Zhaoqing was both surprised and happy about this, and often asked Xu Yanji: "You are from **, aren't you a fairy?" Xu Yanji listened and smiled from ear to ear.
Home and everything is prosperous, and Xu Yanji's work has also gone a lot smoother. She was sent by the brigade to work at the veterinary station, filling the livestock with medicine and giving injections every day, and she was very handy. Xu Yanji is a particularly warm-hearted person, who cherishes the old and loves the young the most.
Once, she helped a lonely old man in his 70s wash his feet, and even used a board brush to brush off the dead skin on his feet, which moved him to tears. Slowly, everyone in the village knew that Xu Yanji had a good character and liked to come to chat with her.
The child asked her for a small cardboard box filled with injections as a toy, and the woman came to tell her about her illness, about her thoughts, and even cried. In addition to having a good relationship with the people in Guancun, Xu Yanji also has a good relationship with Wei Zhaoqing Shili Eight Villages.
Every New Year's holiday, or relatives marrying daughters-in-law or daughters, she will go as a representative. Every time, Xu Yanji would dress up a little older and try to dress like an elder to participate in these activities.
Carrying a basket of white steamed buns and walking on a country road, it feels quite amazing. She was content to live her own little life, living a life of farming and running a family.
After graduating from Keke Primary School, Xu Yanji was once misunderstood because of her identity as a peasant woman. However, one day, she suddenly got the good news that she had been restored to the salary of the twelfth grade of the technical staff and the number of years of service since 1954.
It turned out that this was due to the help of a physics teacher who graduated from Northwest University in the final stage of implementing the policy. Xu Yanji is grateful, but she knows that the future of her son Koko is more important, and she hopes that Koko can leave the countryside and go to the big city to get a better education.
At Xu Yanji's insistence, Keke's household registration was also transferred with his mother. Not long after, people learned that Xu Yanji was the "daughter of falling peanuts", and her extraordinary identity amazed the people of Guancun.
Xu Yanji was born in a scholarly family and was the daughter of the famous professor and writer Xu Dishan. Xu Dishan's representative works include "Spiritual Rain in the Empty Mountain", "Spider in the Web", "History of Taoism", "Research on Superstition in Fuji" and "Indian Literature".
However, his most well-known work is "Falling Peanuts", in which the classic quote "People should be useful, not people who only talk about decency and do not benefit others" is even more deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Xu Yanji's father, Xu Dishan, was a famous writer and a teacher who taught and educated people. He taught at Yenching University in Beijing and later served as head of the Department of Chinese at the University of Hong Kong.
Therefore, Hui Yanji spent her childhood in Hong Kong and was deeply influenced and nurtured by her father.
The bungalow next to the University of Hong Kong is Hui Yanji's home. There is a spacious space of 7 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, 1 kitchen, 1 living room and 1 balcony, as well as an Austin 4-door car, and his mother Zhou Qiansong often takes the family on trips and activities.
The living room of the Xu family is often full of friends and lively. Chen Yinke and Xu Dishan are world friends, Liang Qichao's daughter Liang Sizhuang is Zhou Qiansong's best friend, Liang Shuming lives in Xu's house, and they eat together.
And Cai Yuanpei, Xu Beihong, Hu Shi, Xie Bingxin, Liang Shiqiu, Mei Lanfang, Qi Baishi, Ye Qianyu, etc. are their frequent customers.
Xu Yanji's childhood experience was colorful, not only learning piano from an early age, but also receiving a high-quality education in an aristocratic school. Every day after school, she plays with the British children in the neighborhood, which has allowed her to become proficient in English from an early age.
It can be said that her childhood life was full of joy and success, without encountering any difficulties and setbacks.
The beauty of the world is often as fleeting as a dream. On the afternoon of August 4, 1941, Xu Dishan died suddenly at home at the age of 49. When he was dying, he was attached to his wife and young children.
He stared into his wife's eyes and said repeatedly, "You are responsible, you are responsible!" Zhou Qian shook his hand tightly and tearfully agreed: "I'm responsible, I'm responsible." ”
Hearing this, Xu Dishan was relieved, closed his eyes, and seemed to be asleep. Xu Dishan's death was a huge blow to the family, and they were forced to leave Hong Kong and start a life of wandering.
With his indomitable spirit and selfless dedication, Zhou Qiansong became the vice principal of Nanjing No. 5 Middle School, Zhou Lingzhong was admitted to Tsinghua University, and Xu Yanji was admitted to Beijing Agricultural University.
However, fate was not merciful to Xu Yanji, she was like the spring peach in her father's ** "Spring Peach", because of the war and life, she was forced to become a woman who picked rags, and even had to marry a "peer".
Xu Yanji has no children and needs to rely on his children to support his old age in the future; She is not young and will not want to remarry; She is no longer in the spotlight. Although these are factors that Xu Yanji did not emphasize, Wei Zhaoqing still firmly believes that she is a trustworthy and moral person.
After Xu Yanji became an animal husbandry expert, he still chose to take Wei Zhaoqing to Nanjing and live with him. Although they have no love, she believes that marriage is a contract, Wei Zhaoqing has not hurt her, and they have been living together peacefully for more than ten years.
She believes that people's personalities are equal, and the degree of incompatibility and the environment in which they come from should be respected. Although Wei Zhaoqing is old, his talent is not low, he has rich social experience, and their moral concepts are basically the same, so there is no pressure on each other to live together.
Xu Yanji's son Koko was later admitted to the Normal School, and after graduation, he stayed in Nanjing to marry and have a daughter. Four generations live together, and they live happily ever after. Wei Zhaoqing also took care of her granddaughter and Xu Yanji's mother, who eventually lived to be 95 years old.
At the class reunion, Xu Yanji reunited with her ex-husband Wu Furong, and the classmates blamed Wu Furong for his ruthlessness back then, which made Wu Furong cry. Xu Yanji untied Wu Furong's heart knot, said that he did not hold a grudge against him, and apologized to him.
She sent him back a blanket from Wu Furong, hoping that the return of the object to its original owner would make him feel a little warm. Ten years later, they met again at the 50th anniversary reunion.
Wu Furong gave everyone a book of his poems, and wrote on the one given to Xu Yanji: "Xu Yanji's old classmate corrects." Xu Yanji happily took it and wrote a poem to give it back to him, expressing his relief for the past and his expectations for the future.
Be willing to be an unknown peanut and contribute to society. Xu Yanji's life experience is full of twists and turns and challenges, but she always adheres to the "peanut spirit", does not envy the glamorous appearance, and is willing to contribute to the society in obscurity.
Although she has suffered hardships and setbacks, she has always faced life with optimism and positivity.
I Am the Daughter of a Peanut was released in October 2013 to critical acclaim, with an initial print run of 50,000 copies. People spread the word of mouth"I promise you won't be able to put it down once you pick up this book, it's a personal 100-year history that will bring tears to your eyes. "
Xu Yanji was also interviewed by many reporters because of this, when asked"You're back in Nanjing, why do you have to take Wei Laohan with you? "When she heard this, she didn't care, and replied with a smile:"When others stepped on me, now I can't bear to step on him again. "
On January 13, 2014, we were shocked to learn that Mr. Xu Yanji died suddenly at the age of 81 a few months after the publication of the book. He quietly walked through his wonderful life.
At Xu Yanji's funeral, his brother Zhou Lingzhong wrote a couplet: After all the hardships, live a peaceful life. Horizontal batch: open-minded gentleman. Zhou Lingzhong is 83 years old, but he still has an open-minded gentleman's style, which is admirable.
Xu Yanji, after the celebrity, she spent her life interpreting the spirit of her father's famous story "Falling Peanuts" - to be a person who is beneficial to society and helpful to others. Yan Ji's achievements in life may not be comparable to her father's, but her kindness, strength, optimism, and grateful character make her worthy of the daughter who will always be proud of "Falling Peanut"!