There is a saying on the Internet: "To be a man, turn your face when you should turn your face, don't be afraid of offending people." ”
When people are young, they don't dare to turn their faces at will, because there are many times to ask for help. Moreover, the world is really small, and those who have a grudge against you will become colleagues, customers, etc. if you are not careful.
When people are old and leave the workplace, they can rely on their pension and live a worry-free life. It seems that from now on, we all have to be ourselves again, and it doesn't matter if we offend people.
In fact, the past achievements can only represent the past, and the happy life in the future is still to be fought for.
Therefore, no matter how capable you are, don't offend these kinds of people, and learn to leave a way back.
First, don't offend old colleagues: people go to tea and cool, but the love is still there.
During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a military general named Zhuge Dan in the Wei State. His daughter married Sima Yan, but he couldn't get used to seeing the Sima family grasp the power of Wei little by little. In the second year of Ganlu, he began to strongly oppose the Sima family, but eventually failed. His son Zhuge Liang left Wei and went to Wu on an errand day.
After the establishment of the Jin Dynasty, Sima Yan was proclaimed emperor.
One day, Sima Yan's wife, Princess Langya, and his younger brother Zhuge Liang had dinner together, and Sima Yan rushed to join in the fun. Zhuge Liang was speechless and hid in the toilet.
There is a saying, this time, that time.
No one knows what the people you have ever befriended will become and who they will meet. If you think about the long term, you will understand that you don't want to turn your face with your colleagues at all, even if there are many intrigues, you will suffer from them.
We can imagine a scene where your sons and daughters or juniors walk into the workplace where you used to work.
You can break ties with colleagues in your previous organization, but you can't offend them. After all, sometimes, you have to "rebuild the old good", and you don't just say it.
Second, don't offend your neighbors: look down and don't look up, so as not to feel uncomfortable.
The ancients said, "When the city gate is on fire, the fish in the pond are affected." ”Why do ponds become victims? Not because the pond made a mistake, but because it was close to the city gate, it became a "water point".
The relationship between you and your neighbor is the relationship between the city gate and the fishpond. Everyone watches over each other, and peace is happiness. Even if you have a feud with your neighbor, once there is a scourge, you still can't escape.
It is best to shake hands with your neighbors and find ways to avoid disasters and get through them together.
When people are old, they will see their neighbors as soon as they go out every day. If you don't have what it takes to buy a new house, you're going to have to see your neighbors for years. Every day with a sad face, no one will benefit, it is better to smile, it can also bring a good mood all day.
When you can't walk, it's a good thing to be able to get the care of your neighbors, even if it's to push your wheelchair and help you with a **.
"Caigen Tan" has a saying: "When you are proud, you will be disappointed." ”After retirement, you have nothing to do, but you don't want to be complacent, otherwise it will bring tragedy because of excessive words and deeds. Being a "good person" in front of your neighbors can avoid tragedy, and conversely, suffering losses is a blessing.
Third, do not offend your children: empathy, kissing or not, flesh and blood.
Song Kun, the first Chinese women's sailing person to sail around the world, had the idea of sailing when she graduated from college, and she cautiously tested her parents' attitude.
For parents, their daughter is a little padded jacket, how can they be willing to let her take risks? What's more, the sea is stormy, and if you are not careful, you will lose your life.
What's even harder is that my mother has cancer and her life is counting down.
After some consideration, the mother said, "Go ahead, I will heal well, and wait for you to come back, and we will have no regrets." ”
Song Kun and her sailboat circled the earth, and a few days after returning home, her mother passed away.
Each generation has different opportunities and challenges", no matter what decision their children make, parents need to support them. Adults are responsible for their own lives, and their parents can only make suggestions, not kidnap them with love.
It's all for your good", this sentence does not have to be a mantra.
Children who are bound can easily turn against each other; A spoiled child will become a loser. Keep your distance and be okay with each other, although it is a little cruel, but this is the best way to love.
In any case, you must think from the perspective of your children, and then you can really be of one mind with your children and move towards the future together.
When people are old and cannot help their children materially and intellectually, then spiritual encouragement is the best help.
Fourth, don't offend the poor: help if you can, and burn incense in cold temples.
Generally speaking, people who retire have better living conditions and richer life experiences than those who do not retire.
When enjoying one's own happiness, it should be taken into account that there are still many people who live in dire straits. Although you are not obliged to pull others along, you cannot offend the weak and do things that fall into the trap.
When very poor relatives and friends ask you for help, you should not refuse directly, but look at the specific situation. For the poor with backbone, your help is a kindness.
We often say, be kind to others. You don't even look at the poor people in front of you, where does kindness come from?
Instead of doing a good deed, it is better to help someone by the way, and do it with your hands, the most sincere.
In "Caigen Tan", it is said: "The grace behind you should be kept for a long time, so that people will have grace that is not scarce." ”A person's favor can be left to children and grandchildren, and your horizons should be broadened, so that the pattern will become bigger and the family will become more and more prosperous.
As you grow older, you must live more and more transparently, don't take human feelings too lightly, and don't deliberately try to please anyone.
A good fate is a gathering and scattering, which can withstand loneliness and prosperity.
The ancients said: "Those who are virtuous have a peaceful heart, and they can see everyone, so there are many people who are allowed in their mouths." ”You know, offending a person is easy, and pleasing a person is extremely difficult.
An old man who can be a man is very cultivated, looks at people with an appreciative eye, and speaks with a praising attitude.
All in all, it is useless to be strong, it is useless to be weak, it is useful to follow the trend.