Good fences make good neighbors. ”
This famous quote from the Analects depicts an ideal interpersonal relationship that is indifferent and persistent.
In modern society, the maintenance of interpersonal relationships often requires a kind of energy reciprocity, which is not only reflected in the material level, but also in the spiritual level of mutual attraction and support.
In the journey of life, we will meet all kinds of people.
Some people pass by in a hurry, while others can accompany us for a long time.
The connection between these people is often based on energy equivalence.
1.Like-minded
Those who are like-minded do not take mountains and seas as far. ”
If two people have similar interests, even if they are thousands of miles apart, they will not feel far away from each other.
Shared interests and pursuits are an important foundation for building deep relationships between people.
In ancient times, Li Bai and Du Fu, although they lived in different eras, both had a high love and pursuit of poetry.
Their poetry is full of yearning for freedom and ideals, and this shared artistic pursuit resonates strongly with their hearts.
In real life, I have this experience.
A friend and I both love hiking, and when we plan our routes together and share interesting stories about our trips, the sense of understanding and joy is indescribable.
Although we live in different cities, our common interests allow our friendships to transcend the boundaries of space.
The ancients also had a saying: "The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratory." ”
Only when we find resonance in our pursuits and interests can we support each other on the road of life and move forward together.
So, let's cherish those friends who share our interests, because it is these commonalities that make our relationships stronger and our lives more colorful.
2.Cognitive similarity
Those who know me say that I am worried; Those who do not know me say what I want. ”
This quote comes from the Book of Songs, and it expresses a deep understanding: only those who truly understand you can empathize with your worries and pursuits.
People who recognize similar people are more likely to relate to each other and form deep connections.
In ancient times, Wang Yangming and Xu Jie, they were both representatives of psychology.
Wang Yangming proposed the "unity of knowledge and action", emphasizing the unity of knowledge and action; Xu Jie, on the other hand, put this idea into practice politically and implemented reforms.
Although they are in different fields, they are all committed to putting the concept of mind into practice.
This cognitive alignment has made them like-minded friends.
In modern life, I have had this experience as well.
A colleague of mine and I both agree on the importance of continuous learning and often discuss new knowledge and share learning ideas together.
This cognitive similarity makes us more tacit in our work and deepens our friendship.
The ancients also had a saying: "A gentleman is harmonious but different." ”
True friends who can stay in harmony even if they differ in some points of view.
But similar cognition is undoubtedly the cornerstone of long-term friendship.
It allows us to find empathy in communication, tacit understanding in cooperation, and support in challenges.
Therefore, let us cherish those who are close to our knowledge, because they are our precious treasures in the journey of life.
3.Mental complementarity
Threesome, there must be my teacher. ”
This is what Confucius said in the Analects, which means that among any three people, there is always something we can learn.
Everyone has their own strengths, and if we can find those who complement us, we can grow together with each other's help.
Take the ancient Liu Bei, Guan Yu and Zhang Fei as examples, the three of them have their own strengths, Liu Bei is good at employing people, Guan Yu is brave, and Zhang Fei is infinitely powerful.
In the story of Taoyuan Righteousness, they have achieved a career together through complementary efforts.
Liu Bei's resourcefulness, Guan Yu's martial arts, and Zhang Fei's courage complemented each other, allowing them to gain a foothold in troubled times.
In real life, I have this experience.
I started a studio with a friend, and I'm good at planning and designing, and he's good at technology and marketing.
Our complementary skills make it possible for the studio to run very smoothly and to reach our full potential in our respective fields.
The ancients also had a saying: "A forest cannot be made by a single tree." ”
There is a limit to one's strength, but when we find those who can complement our hearts, we can gather into great strength.
So, let's look for those in our lives who can complement us, grow together and create a better future together through cooperation and learning.
Remember, complementing each other is not only a shortcut to personal growth, but also a recipe for team and organizational success.
As "the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water", the longest relationship between people is based on energy equality.
Like-mindedness allows us to find fun in common hobbies, similar cognition allows us to find resonance in mutual understanding, and complementary hearts and minds allow us to find growth in each other's strengths.
Let's seek reciprocity of this energy in our relationships so that we can build stronger and lasting connections.
True friendship and cooperation are not simply the exchange of interests, but mutual growth in mutual respect and support.