Parent's letter.
Hello teacher, I would like to ask you one thing.
My child is 11 years old, but I am getting more and more tired from his teachings.
For example, I often engage in ideological struggles with him in order to get him to wake up on time, finish his homework on time, and so on.
Sometimes, my voice is hoarse, and my little children don't pay attention to me.
Let him do some chores, but he seems very weak.
There is no motivation for anything, only being pushed forward by adults.
It's really hard, I don't know what to do with my baby?
Dear parents, thank you for your trust.
Judging from your feedback on the problem, I think this kid may be lacking in motivation.
A child without motivation is like a car without fuel and needs the help of parents to move forward.
This situation is a lot of pressure for parents.
Now let's talk about motivation.
What is the motivation?
Intrinsic drive is an intrinsic awakening or tension that arises based on a need, embodied as the intrinsic drive that motivates an organism to behave in order to fulfill its own needs.
Internal motivation refers to physiological signals that are formed through external conditions or communication with oneself and have a positive impact on an individual.
Its essence is an unconscious motive force that originates from the most primitive spiritual experience of human beings and is the sum total of all human experiences.
Strongly motivated children tend to have the following characteristics:
1.Strongly motivated: Children who are strongly motivated are actively engaged in activities without too much guidance or supervision from outside.
2.Challenging: They are up for challenges, they don't give up when they encounter a problem, and they approach it in a variety of ways.
3.Strong motivation: Children with strong motivation are able to concentrate on everything they do and are less affected by external factors.
4.Cheerful: Such children generally have a positive heart and can face various challenges and difficulties in life with a positive attitude.
5.Strong motivation: Children with strong motivation will have sustained passion and motivation when chasing their own goals, and will not be easily frustrated.
6.Autonomy: Children are autonomous, they can work autonomously and be self-disciplined without too much external reward or punishment.
Overall, children with strong motivation are generally characterized by being proactive, challenging, focused, optimistic, persistent, and autonomous.
This characteristic is conducive to students' good achievement and development in academics and life.
If a child lacks intrinsic motivation, parents can promote the development of intrinsic motivation in the child by:
1. Define a clear purpose.
Set clear, measurable goals with your child.
Let him understand what they have to do and why.
This can help motivate children and motivate them.
2. Facilitate independent decision-making.
Let children have their own choices.
Let students do something according to their hobbies and strengths.
In this way, children can develop a sense of control and responsibility, which in turn increases their intrinsic motivation.
3. Create various challenges and opportunities.
Provide children with the right challenges and opportunities to solve their problems.
In this way, children's curiosity and curiosity about knowledge can be aroused, and they can actively think and solve problems.
4. Provide positive feedback and incentives.
Give your child positive feedback and encouragement at the right time, so that your child can feel that he has grown and succeeded.
This improves children's self-confidence and self-esteem, which in turn stimulates their inner motivation.
5. Develop good reading habits and be good at arranging your own time.
Help children develop good study habits and time management skills, and cultivate children's ability to plan and control themselves.
In this way, children can have more autonomy over their own learning and life, thereby improving their intrinsic motivation.
It is important to know that children are highly different, and parents should formulate targeted counseling programs according to the children's personality and requirements.
Parents need to be patient, confident, and have plenty of time and space to nurture them.
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