Taiwan** reported that singer Ella admitted at the new ** press conference that she has a special habit - liking**. Her youngest son, Jinbao, once couldn't accept it and begged his mother to "don't ** when exercising".
Ella apologized for this and assured her son that she would only be in her room** in the future and would not expose her body in public.
Ella's move sparked a wide discussion.
As a public figure, Ella is often expected to be a good example in her words and deeds to avoid having a bad impact on society. For example, she once exposed her body in front of her 7-year-old son, which may have a negative impact on the child and violate social order and good customs.
However, in the entertainment industry, many celebrities lack a sense of boundary with their children. For example, Li Jiaxin once posted on social networks that she bathed with her son**, although she was not naked, but she was only wearing underwear.
The young boy showed the ability to think independently, and Li Jiaxin's behavior sparked public discussion. Many people believe that after the age of 5, boys are not suitable to bathe with their mothers, especially in today's society, where children are precocious, curious, and in the embryonic stage of sexual awareness, and such behavior can be detrimental to their development.
Although the suggestions of netizens were not adopted by Li Jiaxin, she still insisted on her own style, and recently posted a kissing photo with her son on social platforms, which made people feel a little incomprehensible.
Although she loves her son very much, this behavior still needs to take into account the issue of boundaries.
Parental love should be selfless and boundary, and excessive pampering can have a negative impact on children. is like actress Di Ying, she dotes on her son to an excessive degree, and even shares a bed with her son for a long time, until she finds out that her son has a physiological reaction, and she realizes the seriousness of the problem.
What's even more shocking is that she actually took her son to participate in a kissing contest and kissed for several hours, even making her son fall asleep tired. This kind of bottomless love is not the best way for children, and parents should give their children moderate love and independent space.
Di Ying's son grew up in excessive doting, and after leaving his mother, his personality became extremely flamboyant, and he even participated in the ** case while studying abroad, and was arrested and imprisoned by the American police.
Di Ying was puzzled by the result, why did she love her son so much, but it turned out to be like this? The answer is clear: her love is abnormal, it is a deformed love that has a negative impact on the mental health of the child.
This is especially important when it comes to sexual awareness. According to psychologists, children begin to form sexual consciousness when they are more than 3 years old. There is an old Chinese saying that says it very well: "Men avoid their mothers, and women avoid their fathers." ”
Zhang Liang did a very good job of this. In an interview, he said that his daughter was very close to him and often hugged him. However, when it comes to kissing, Zhang Liang resolutely said that he must not kiss his mouth.
It is important to cultivate a sense of self-protection in your daughter, whether it is kissing the forehead or the back of the hand, it is safer than kissing the mouth. While fathers don't usually hurt their daughters, what about others?
As Ella's example shows that she was once abused by her father's son, it is a warning that our daughters must be taught from an early age to protect themselves from unnecessary harm.
While it is important for Ella to educate her son on the protection of body parts and not to let others touch her, she misses a key point: boys and girls have different perceptions and responsibilities.
Parents should teach boys the right values and a sense of responsibility, and not just emphasize the protection of body parts. In addition, it is not advisable for Ella to act naked in front of her 7-year-old son, and as a parent, you should give your children the right guidance so that they can avoid harming themselves and others in the future.
Therefore, educating a boy should not simply tell him not to touch others, but should cultivate in them the correct cognition and sense of responsibility.