In our lives, we will always meet all kinds of people, some of whom make us feel happy and others that make us feel disgusted. However, Mo Yan once said: "When you see a person clearly and do not expose it, you understand the meaning of the pattern." When you hate someone and don't turn your face, you understand the importance of relief. This sentence speaks to the importance of pattern and relief in interpersonal relationships. So, what exactly is the pattern? What is Relief? How do we grasp both in our relationships?
The so-called pattern is the scope of a person's cognition of the world and the attitude towards things. A person's pattern determines his height and also determines his life path. A person with a big picture can look at problems from a higher perspective, not be bothered by small things, and know how to tolerate and understand others. As Mo Yan said, when we see the essence of a person clearly, but choose not to expose it, this is the embodiment of a pattern. Because we know that getting along with others is not only about opposition and conflict, but also about mutual understanding and tolerance. In the process, we have learned to respect others and improve our own structure.
Relief refers to being able to maintain a normal heart in the face of setbacks, pain, and unsatisfactoryness, and to accept and let go calmly. In life, we will always encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory things, and if we can't learn to let go, we will fall into endless pain. And when we hate someone, but choose not to turn the other cheek, this is a sign of relief. Because we understand that turning the other cheek will not solve the problem, but will escalate the conflict. Through relief, we learn to be tolerant and our hearts are liberated.
So, in interpersonal relationships, how to grasp the pattern and relief?
First of all, we need to learn to empathize. When we encounter problems, we should not blindly look at them from our own perspective, but put ourselves in the shoes of others. In this way, we can better understand others and thus have a bigger picture.
Second, we need to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance does not mean that we turn a blind eye to our mistakes, but that we are able to be understanding and tolerant in the face of the shortcomings of others. Tolerance not only makes our relationships more harmonious, but it also improves our structure.
Finally, we need to learn to be relieved. Life cannot be smooth sailing, and there will always be setbacks and difficulties. When we learn to be relieved, we will be better able to face all kinds of unsatisfactory things in life, so as to maintain a calm heart.
Pattern and relief are two important qualities that we must learn in relationships. Having a big picture allows us to look at problems from a higher perspective and not be bothered by small things; Learning to be relieved allows us to maintain a normal heart in the face of setbacks and unsatisfactory situations. When we grasp the pattern and relief, our life path will be broader and our interpersonal relationships will be more harmonious.