Those who have watched the TV series "Journey to the West" know that Sun Wukong was pressed under the Five Fingers Mountain by the Buddha, and he didn't understand it when he was a child, and he felt that the Buddha was to fulfill Sun Wukong, and after becoming a parent, he understood that the Buddha was the most professional parent, and she handled Sun Wukong very well, and she was the originator of the rules.
When it comes to making rules, many parents scoff, why? Because the quality of life of the family is very high now, parents are more spoiled children, not to mention the rules, the child may be unhappy, parents will give up the principle and coax the child to be happy.
In fact, this is inappropriate. The broken window effect says: if the windows of a house are broken and no one repairs them, other windows will be broken inexplicably every now and then; One wall, if there is some graffiti that is not cleaned off, soon, the wall is covered with messy and unsightly things.
Establish rules
Professor Li Meijin said: Educating children should take different ways according to different age groups, and children must establish rules before the age of 6. When you enter puberty, you have to learn to let go.
This means:If you don't set rules when you're a child, you won't be able to stand up when you grow up。Therefore, it is important to set rules for your child before the age of 6.
Many times, in the process of educating our children, we have a feeling that the harder we work, the more powerless we become. We set rules for our children, but no matter what we say or teach, they just don't follow them. We are frustrated to think that the child is hopeless. In fact, it's not that the child is dead, it's that we use the wrong force.
There's a saying that makes a lot of sense:Educating children requires a kind of strength, to conform to the child's feelings and rhythm, the wrong direction and way of education, the child will knock you away.
Therefore, there are principles for making rules, the first is to be less and fine, and the second is to beTo be clear, the direct consequences of violating the rules. The third is longevityDon't let the child cry twice, and the adult will compromise and soften.
Three-year-olds look big, seven-year-olds look old. "Seize the critical period of children's growth, and children will never grow crooked. What confusion do you have about making rules? You can leave a message in the comment area