The 3-year-old daughter's sentence "There are dirty things on my clothes" made the teacher worry and made the mother blame herself?
Last week, I left work early and waited early at the kindergarten gate, waiting for my daughter's dismissal. I eagerly pulled out the cheese sticks I had prepared, expecting to see her cheering as usual. Today, however, she just calmly took the cheese stick without even tasting a bite. As a mother, I could tell at a glance that she had something hidden in her heart.
Mom, I don't want to wear this dress in the future. Before I could ask, my daughter spoke first.
I looked at my daughter suspiciously, usually she likes skirts the most, almost no pants, I asked with concern, "What's wrong baby?" Is it because the teacher won't let you wear it? ”
My daughter shook her head, and I had to ask, "Don't you like this dress?" ”
My daughter continued to shake her head, only telling me that there were dirty things on my clothes, and for a while I only felt that there were five thunders, my head was blank, and all kinds of possible situations kept appearing in my mind, I pulled my daughter to check it carefully, and I didn't find anything abnormal in the appearance of my clothes.
On the way home, I thought about what might happen, and also thought about how to comfort my daughter, and when I got home, I helped her change clothes according to my daughter's wishes, and when I changed my clothes, I couldn't help frowning together, and after taking off my clothes and looking at them carefully, I was puzzled, so I asked my daughter, "The clothes look clean, can you tell your mother that it is ** dirty?" ”
My daughter reached out and pointed to the hem of her skirt and told me the truth.
It turned out that when I was playing a game this afternoon, there was a little boy who kept spitting on his daughter for no reason, and the daughter did not bully him, and after his daughter's repeated warnings failed, the boy became more and more rampant, and even began to push his daughter.
After listening to my daughter's words, my hanging heart finally relaxed, but new problems also came, my daughter was bullied and did not tell the teacher, I was worried that this would cause a psychological shadow to my daughter.
After the husband came back from work in the evening, he asked his daughter how he warned the boy, and the daughter demonstrated it to us, and as expected, the daughter just told the boy in a small voice not to bully her, there was no deterrent, and then the husband instructed the daughter how to become a little stronger, so that the other party was afraid and did not dare to bully herself.
When my daughter was finally able to say "don't bully me" with a strong attitude, my husband and I felt very relieved, and in order to let our daughter better protect herself, I accompanied my daughter to review the "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" that night.
In fact, she read this set of picture books a long time ago, but children, it is inevitable that they will forget, which is also blamed on me for being too busy and spending less time with my daughter, so I didn't help her consolidate the knowledge in the picture books in time, resulting in a situation where she was bullied and didn't know what to do.
Sure enough, reading picture books still has an effect, and when I went to pick up my daughter the next day, my daughter was bouncing around eating cheese sticks along the way, and telling me how she used the method she taught her yesterday to tell the boy out loud not to bully her, and how she ran to tell the teacher, looking at my daughter's happy expression, I suddenly felt that it was worth doing all this.
That night, the teacher called ** again, apologized to us, and praised my daughter for being able to protect herself, and I also asked the teacher out of curiosity what kind of child would not be bullied.
The teacher told me. In fact, not everyone dares to bully children at this age, and children with these three characteristics are often unlikely to be bullied.
First of all, they will not be bullied, as long as others do something that makes them uncomfortable or unhappy, he will tell the teacher or parents loudly, unlike some children, even if they are uncomfortable and unhappy, they just whisper and refuse to tell the teacher.
Secondly, this kind of child has good social skills, this kind of child is often alone, and can not play with others, over time it will cause low self-esteem, loneliness, and it is easy to be bullied.
In addition, this type of child knows how to use the power of teachers and parents to protect themselves, and when others bully them, they immediately tell each other that they want to tell the teacher about it.
After listening to the teacher's words, I felt from the bottom of my heart that if I want my child not to be bullied, parents must pay attention to it, and I can't think that the kindergarten teaches everything, after all, the child is our own.
After that, I put this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books" in the most conspicuous place at home to remind me to read this set of books with my daughter often.
This set of picture books has a total of ten volumes, covering "I don't like to be teased", "I don't like to be excluded", "I don't like to be touched" and other content, with ** stories, to help children understand what bullying is, learn how to deal with and protect themselves.
For example, this book "I Don't Like Being Bullied" is narrated from the perspective of children, enhancing the child's sense of substitution and telling the child how to identify whether he is not bullied and how to ask for help if he is bullied.
At the end of the story, there are tips for parents to remind them of what kind of knowledge they should give their children after reading the story, so that they can better protect themselves.
Each word in the book is marked with pinyin, which is in line with children's reading habits, and can also allow children to consolidate and learn pinyin.
It is recommended that parents take half an hour every day to read this set of picture books with their children to help them have a happy childhood. It is really important to have the awareness of "anti-bullying" and not to be bullied from an early age, and when you grow up, you will become more independent, more self-reliant, and more powerful.