His name is Huang Yibo, and he is famous"Five-bar boy"., served as:Deputy Captain of Wuhan Young Pioneers, not to mention the excellent grades, but also because"An official face".It was reported by major ** first.
But in an interview, there was such an intriguing scene.
*, Huang Yibo was asked by ** like the moon in the stars, and Huang Yibo also accepted the interview calmly.
However, a little boy behind him seemed to be very disdainful of Huang Yibo's words and deeds, and "quietly" rolled his eyes at him behind his back, and even couldn't help pouting.
**After it was issued, it was nicknamed "Five-Bar Boy" and "Disdain Brother" by the majority of netizens.
At that time, everyone felt that this was a manifestation of the "disdainful brother" instinctive jealousy of Huang Yibo, after all, as a classmate, Huang Yibo could be interviewed all day long and appear in major news, but he was unknown to everyone.
Unexpectedly, after the two children grew up, they found earth-shaking changes: Huang Yibo, a "five-bar boy" who was once expected by everyone, didn't even pass the three score lines in the college entrance examination. And that "disdainful brother" was admitted to a well-known college and has a bright future.
Why is there such a big contrast in the lives of the two children? Why does Huang Yibo's life "open high and go low"?
I hope today's story can be a wake-up call for all parents with children.
Huang Yibo's starting point is very high.
He was born on February 12, 1998 in Wuhan, Hubei Province, to civil servants to parents.
As the only child in the family, Huang Yibo has been wrapped in the ardent expectations of his parents since he was born, and the educational resources he has enjoyed since he was a child are better than others.
When he was learning Chinese, his parents gave him all kinds of early education. According to ** report,When Huang Yibo was 2 years old, he could honestly sit in front of the TV and watch "News Network", as long as "News Network" began, he would not cry or make trouble at a young age.
Such a move surprised the parents, they thought that the child would definitely be a character when he grew up, so he raised Huang Yibo more carefully.
By the age of 7, Huang Yibo was able to read "People**" independently and write simple compositions.
In this way, the smart and clever Huang Yibo first became "popular" at home, and every time there was a New Year's festival and a gathering of relatives, his parents would let him read aloud with the composition he wrote in public.
Huang Yibo is not stage frightened, and he reads it every time, which is very exciting.
Maybe it's because his parents are public officials, most of the essays written by Huang Yibo are related to current politics, patriotism and serving the people, once when he read the article in front of everyone, a colleague of his parents seemed to have discovered a new continent, and said excitedly: "Look at the child, he has been an 'official' since he was a child, and he must be a character when he grows up!" ”
As soon as this colleague said, everyone looked at Huang Yibo, and then praised one after another
"Don't say it, look at the child who is a little ghost now, and he will definitely make a big difference when he grows up! ”
"Yes! You see that he has good facial features and a crisp face, and at first glance, he has the demeanor of a big leader! ”
The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, Huang Yibo's parents are lost in the praise of their children, and since then, they have increasingly cultivated their children in "officialdom".
Huang Yibo, who was young, really lived up to his parents' expectations, and after entering primary school, not only did his grades rank among the bestHe also served as a class leaderbecame the teacher's right-hand man.
In addition to that,Huang Yibo also submitted articles to youth magazines and received a manuscript fee.
Because of his outstanding performance, Huang Yibo was recommended by the teacherHe served as the deputy chief of the Wuhan Young Pioneers.
Suddenly, Huang Yibo became a "star" in the Wuhan primary school student circle, whether it was the school or any student-related activities, Huang Yibo became a guest.
And next, Huang Yibo's move made him famous and popular all over the country.
Since Huang Yibo submitted his articles to youth magazines, he has received more than 100 articles one after another, but he did not save the manuscript fee, but donated it.
This move won high praise from the school leaders and teachers, and after a unanimous vote by everyone, Huang Yibo was named the school's outstanding three good students.
Due to all kinds of positive energy behavior,Huang Yibo wears a five-bar badge** and is on the cover of China Youth magazine.
Recognized by the official newspaper, Huang Yibo became completely popular.
After the fire, Huang Yibo began to visit around and participate in activities like a real leader.
Every holiday, his parents will take him to the local nursing home as a volunteer, and after many times, Huang Yibo went to the nursing home to be on the major ** again.
"This child is really sensible, knows how to respect the old and love the young, and has a good upbringing, and the future is limitless! ”
"Three-year-old looks young, seven-year-old looks old, this child will not grow up badly. ”
Looking at the comments of the majority of netizens, Huang Yibo's parents are more sure that their education direction is not wrong, in addition to daily learning, they still insist on letting Huang Yibo watch the news and read the official newspaper.
One day, Huang Yibo, who had just finished watching the news broadcast, made a request to his parentsHe hoped to write a letter and send it to the mayor of Wuhan's mailbox.
Perhaps because he has been watching the news for a long time, Huang Yibo also has his own views on politics. In the letter, he put forward some views and opinions on the urban development and construction of Wuhan City.
After the mayor saw Huang Yibo's letter, he first praised him for his good handwriting, and then praised him for having such ideas about urban construction at a young age, and he was a pillar of the country.
You must know that not everyone can be praised by the mayor, and Huang Yibo did it.
Since then, Huang Yibo has become a household name in Wuhan, with schools interviewing him, ** interviewing him, and newspapers full of articles promoting him.
In this way, Huang Yibo grew up from praise one after another!
When I entered junior high school, my schoolwork suddenly became heavy, and the focus of all my students' lives was on their studies.
But Huang Yibo has not changed in the slightest, he is still wearing dignified clothes, a bright red scarf, and wearing a five-bar badge to appear in public and participate in various activities.
There have been many times, and some attentive netizens have questioned:Now that your child is in junior high school, he should reduce this activity and focus on his studies.
However, netizens kindly reminded that Huang Yibo's parents didn't take it seriously, and Huang Yibo himself seems to be more accustomed to living in praise.
In the first monthly exam of junior high school, Huang Yibo's results were mediocre, and since then, Huang Yibo has been even more reluctant to spend his mind on studying.
Slowly, the homeroom teacher also began to talk to Huang Yibo's parents, hoping that they would shift their focus, but Huang Yibo's parents had long been lost in everyone's praise for their son, and they didn't take the homeroom teacher's words to heart at all, and even self-hypnotized: academic performance does not mean everything, even if Huang Yibo's grades are not satisfactory, he will definitely make great achievements in the future, after all, he is already famous.
Under the influence of his parents, although Huang Yibo's appearance has become more stable and mature, his psychology is becoming more and more like a child.
During the high school entrance examination, Huang Yibo was not admitted to a key high school, but only attended an ordinary high school.
Until this time, Huang Yibo's parents did not realize the problem, but instilled it in their children againFame is more important than learning, and popularity is better than grades.
In this way, in the three years of high school, Huang Yibo didn't take his studies seriously, because he couldn't stand the blow of failure, he didn't want to delve into those problems, and his grades got worse and worse every time, during the college entrance examinationHis grades didn't even cross the cut-off score of the three books.
Two extremely ironic things happened next.
Because of the fame that Huang Yibo has accumulated since he was a child, a family of three colleges and universities took the initiative to contact him, saying that as long as he was willing to attend, the school could admit him exceptionally.
Huang Yibo and his parents were still complacent until this time, believing that this was the benefit of cultivating fame over the years.
As everyone knows, Huang Yibo couldn't help but sneer at him when he was interviewed as a "disdainful brother", but now he has been admitted to a prestigious university.
At that time, when Huang Yibo's parents saw this **, they didn't take the disdain of "disdainful brother" in their eyes at all, and it was from here that the gears of the two destinies began to be exchanged.
Now the "disdainful brother" went to a prestigious school openly, but Huang Yibo, who was once high, was unknown to the public and quietly went to three colleges.
went to college, Huang Yibo was no longer too disciplined by his parentsBut over the years, the concept of his parents has been engraved in Huang Yibo's bones like a brand, and he still did not focus on his studies, but chose the student union that could increase his popularity.
In the student union, Huang Yibo has played the "official tone" that he has cultivated for many years, he has a good relationship with everyone, and he does all the affairs of the student union himself.
Soon it was time to graduate from college, and the students who had gathered together to imagine the future were all going their separate ways, only Huang Yibo, because of insufficient professional knowledge, could only find a job that did not require a high diploma.
Someone persuaded him to take the civil service exam, after all, he has always had a "** dream" for so many yearsThe funny thing is that Huang Yibo finally chose to give up because the content of the public examination was too difficult.
He finally grew into an ordinary adult.
The doctor of psychology of Peking University once gave a very shocking speechA child's true skill progress is not in a straight line, but in a spiral.
In the process of children's growth, there will definitely be bottleneck periods, stagnation periods, and decline periods.
We often find that for the texts taught by the teacher, the child will memorize them once, the games on the mobile phone can be played without being taught by adults, and the learning to swim can quickly learn to ......
At this time, many parents will praise their children for being very smart, having a good memory, and responding quickly, and the more times they do, they will make their children feel confident that "he is very smart".
But in fact, for example: memorizing texts, playing games, learning to swim, these are only shallow skills, if the child continues to do it, it will definitely hit a difficult bottleneck, because it has been praised for being smart, the child is unwilling to accept failure, and is unwilling to admit that he is not smart.
In order to maintain the illusion of being smart, slowly, as soon as the child encounters a bottleneck, he will retreat, just like Huang Yibo in the article.
There was a topic like this on a certain **:wants to ruin a child, so that he has been enjoying shallow skills, Huang Yibo's parents held this concept, and finally turned the child into the modern "Hurt Zhongyong".
If you don't want your child to become the next Huang Yibo, don't praise him for being smart, praise him for his hard work, praise him for being serious, and praise him for having the courage to move forward when he encounters difficulties!
After all, everyone's life cannot be smooth everywhere.
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