Chinese parents generally adhere to the educational philosophy of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". However, the fate of a mathematical genius at Peking University has made people begin to reflect on this way of education. Liu Zhiyu was once a bright star in the field of mathematics, but because of the excessive expectations of his parents, he finally chose to give up his brilliant future and devote himself to the life of a monk. The story behind this decision is embarrassing and worth pondering.
Liu Zhiyu has shown extraordinary talent in mathematics since he was a child, and has become a "mathematical genius" in the eyes of many people. For the sake of his future, his parents did whatever it took to send him to various Olympiad training courses. As early as elementary and junior high school, he repeatedly achieved excellent results in the Olympiad and became a mathematical genius who attracted national attention.
Premature Honors: Parents' Expectations and Yoo Ji-woo's Confusion.
However, in high school, Yoo Ji-woo's life began to diverge. In his senior year of high school, his parents asked him to participate in the International Mathematical Olympiad, even though he had already excelled. This bothered Yoo Ji-woo, and he began to wonder if he was just trying to meet his parents' expectations.
Liu Zhiyu recalled: "I just want to be an ordinary student, and I don't want to participate in any mathematical Olympiads at all. But my parents have always made decisions for me, and I don't have much say. This forced Xi caused him to miss out on many interesting classes and activities, making his high school life full of stress and anxiety.
Closed Training: Loneliness and Frustration.
Liu Zhiyu spent the second semester of his senior year in the closed training of the national mathematics team, and this experience became a turning point in his life. He felt lonely in the training base, lacked socialization, and was unable to communicate with others. Despite winning medals again and again, Yoo Ji-woo gradually lost interest in mathematics and felt numb and bored.
His parents' complaints also did not go unnoticed enough. Liu Zhiyu said: "I also cried when I beat my parents, they will only scold me on the other side of the ** What do I cry when I am so old, sending you to train and spend money is not for you to find friends, but for you to train in mathematics well!."”
Dilemma: Mathematical brilliance disorients him.
Yoo Ji-woo's talent for mathematics made him unchallenging in his training, and he mechanically brushed up on questions and listened to lectures every day, causing him to feel numb and bored. He became passive about training and even expressed his desire to quit the national team. The teacher reported Yoo Ji-woo's situation to the principal, but even with the principal's persuasion, Yoo Ji-woo still behaved negatively and hoped to end the training.
Family conflict: sent from Peking University to become a monk.
Under the torture of family conflicts, Yoo Ji-woo's fate ushered in a huge change. Yoo Ji-woo's parents were outraged by his negative attitude and even got into a fight at the school gate. Yoo Ji Woo's mother cried loudly and tried to force Yoo Ji Woo to go home with death.
Despite facing strong opposition from his parents, Yoo Zhiyu decided to run away from home and become a monk at Longquan Temple. This decision completely broke Yoo Ji-woo's relationship with his parents, and there was no contact for nine years. He lived a peaceful and isolated life in the temple.
Indifferent retrospective: Parents still don't understand.
Nine years later, Yoo Ji-woo tried to get in touch with his parents and express to them that he really didn't want to study Xi math. However, his father still insists that everything he did for Yoo Ji Woo was right, blaming Yoo Ji Woo for being unproductive and not responsible.
This experience has triggered a deep reflection in society on the way family is educated. Do parents really take into account their child's wishes and personality when making decisions for their children?Is Liu Zhiyu's experience a warning that we should pay more attention to communication and understanding in the process of nurturing children?
Reflection on Education: Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
This embarrassing story brings us deep reflection. As children grow up, parents should listen more to their voices and respect their choices. Are parents' expectations for their children really good for their children?Yoo Ji-woo's example shows that blind expectations and excessive intervention can lead to rebellious psychology and eventually deviate from the original trajectory.
Do unto others as you would have them do to you. If we don't want others to impose our choices, then we should also follow this principle when educating our children. Respecting children's individuality and interests, and giving them more autonomy, may lead to a more independent, thinking next generation.
Liu Zhiyu's story, although full of ups and downs, also makes people think deeply about education. It is hoped that in the future, family education will pay more attention to the development of children's personality, break the shackles of tradition, and create a broader world, so that each child can find their own life path.
Liu Zhiyu's story is deeply touching, and his arduous journey in the interweaving of family and education has caused me to reflect deeply on China's education system and parents' education concepts.
First, the story highlights the problems of utilitarianism and excessive competition that are prevalent in the Chinese education system. Yoo Ji-woo's mathematical talent since he was a child was prematurely led into the whirlpool of competitions and medals by his parents. Parents do whatever it takes for his future, but ignore whether the child is really interested in it and whether he is willing to work hard for it. This utilitarian-oriented education method can easily make children lose themselves in the process of pursuing grades and lose their true love for knowledge. Liu Zhiyu once said: "I just want to be an ordinary student." This simple sentence contains a yearning for ordinary life and diverse interests, but it is difficult to achieve it in excessive competition.
Secondly, Liu Zhiyu's experience also reflects the excessive expectations of the traditional Chinese concept of parental education for the future of their children. Parents think that their decisions are for the good of their children, but they ignore their children's individual differences and ability to think independently. In the case of intensified family conflicts, the parents did not even listen to Yoo Ji-woo's voice, but adopted a tough attitude, which led to the breakdown of the family. This tension in the family relationship also exacerbated Yoo Ji-woo's inner conflict, which eventually led him to make the decision to become a monk. In this process, the parents' excessive control of Yoo Ji-woo and the lack of dialogue have become a profound lesson.
It is important to note that Yoo Ji-woo's story is not an isolated case. In China, there are many similar stories that reveal society's neglect of individual differences and pluralistic development. With the continuous development of society, the concept of family education also needs to be gradually updated, and more attention should be paid to cultivating children's creativity, independent thinking and diverse interests, rather than overemphasizing traditional utilitarian education.
On the whole, Liu Zhiyu's experience reflects some of the shortcomings of China's concept of education and family education, and calls for more attention to individual differences and independent development. When shaping the next generation, we need to give children more choices and encourage them to pursue the value of life according to their own interests and passions, rather than being overly confined to a utilitarian and competitive framework.
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