Generating emotional empathy in an accepted environment and confiding your story to others is very beneficial for personal growth. This means that a person's emotional experience is affirmed, and even the meaning of their existence is affirmed.
Sometimes, we focus on a specific behavioural change with the certainty that it will benefit the person we help. However, it was definitely the right choice to say yes to the other person from the start. It is important for a person to dare to change the status quo and to give them confidence. They must first understand themselves, recognize themselves, and more importantly, be recognized by others. When they feel the kindness of others, they will have more courage to try to change and experience new things.
If you want to help someone become strong, you need to show sympathy and approval to the other person, and plural their words. For example, if you say that it would be nice if the other person might become a little more extroverted, it will definitely backfire. The other person can become very unhappy, depressed, or even more introverted, a change called the "change paradox". We tend to resist change when we are under pressure because change only brings insecurity. A person's insecurity is accompanied by the manifestation of negative traits, which can lead to suspiciousness, stubbornness, refusal to change, and an effort to maintain old habits and self-perceptions. As Carr, the founder of analytical psychology, once said, "Until you really accept something, everything will be business as usual." ”
That's why identification, retelling, and empathy can be important and necessary foundational methods.
When you start using these methods, you may find that your reflexes become slower than before, and experimenting with new methods all the time can also make you more likely to get tired. But once you're proficient in them, you'll feel more confident in your conversations, which will lead to better conversations.
Making the conversation structured, paced and intermittent is especially beneficial for highly sensitive people. Not only will this prevent them from being overstimulated, but it will also allow them to keep the conversation moving.