Recently, "sister and brother love" has attracted much attention, Jin Sha and her boyfriend who is 19 years younger are in a variety show, although there seems to be no obvious sense of disobedience, but the huge age difference makes many people who eat melons sweat for them. Including a few days ago, it was reported that Lu Yu and Ayunga are together, if it is true, it is a proper pair of sisters and brothers. Spiritual civilization has progressed to this stage, and it stands to reason that sibling love is too normal to be discussed. But once we encounter the actual situation, we will still jump out of the world's vision, which may be the contradiction of human nature.
Jin Sha said that there will be more and more sibling love in the future, and her relationship has not hurt anyone, even if there is an age difference, she also wants to be a partner with a common frequency. I bless Jinsha in my heart, but the crisis of sister-brother love cannot be ignored.
The first is the difference in values brought about by the age gap. Because of the age gap, there are big differences in the growth background, experience and experience of the two. This leads to possible disagreements between the two on values, which leads to a series of problems. For example, in terms of consumption perception, the older party may be more focused on stability and saving, while the younger party may be more focused on enjoyment and consumption. This difference in values, if not communicated and coordinated in a timely manner, can easily lead to an emotional crisis. This is good for Jinsha, after all, the woman's economic strength is far stronger than that of the man, so she will definitely have a greater say in the material matter. As long as the younger brother knows how to please his sister, it is difficult to encounter conflicts at the level of values.
The two parties can regularly exchange each other's values, outlook on life, and worldview to understand each other's thoughts and needs. At the same time, we should respect each other's views and choices, don't try to change each other, and learn to seek common ground while reserving differences. Only in this way can the relationship be more stable and harmonious. Judging from the situation of variety shows, the pair of Jinsha should be fine.
The second is the pressure of social **, I believe that as a public figure, Jin Sha has a deep experience. As a "special" love relationship, sibling love is easy to attract the attention of society. Some may be skeptical and critical of this relationship, believing that it does not conform to traditional ethics. This kind of ** pressure will not only have an impact on the relationship of both parties, but also may have a negative impact on the career and life of both parties.
In fact, these concepts are one-sided, and love has nothing to do with age. Those lovers of the same age are too unhappy. At a time when the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, is it the proportion of sibling love that is high, or the proportion of so-called traditional marriages?Everyone knows it.
As long as the two have enough confidence and courage to face it, and at the same time believe in their choice. Learn to ignore unkind words and maintain peace of mind and firmness. Only by strengthening faith can the relationship be more tenacious.
Finally, there is the uncertainty of the future. Whether you admit it or not, the age difference will bring about a series of differences in life planning. Jin Sha has debuted for many years and has already seen the world, and her future focus is likely to be the stability of her family. That's right, she can accompany her brother to see the world again, but can she stay with her?Hardly. Her boyfriend has just graduated from college, just at the beginning of his career, he has not yet experienced the test of the outside world, and his current firmness in love may only be the limitation of his vision. In his future planning, it remains to be seen whether there is Jinsha or not.
Although Jinsha can help each other in his career, there is a huge gap, and the man will not have any pressure at all?And can he really accept it with peace of mind?These potential crises will gradually be revealed in the development of beautiful love, and that is when they will be tested.