Speaking is an art, what can be learned is the method, and what cannot be learned is art. "Keeping your mouth shut" is something that is very important for people in the workplace, but it is easy to overlook.
The so-called "keep your mouth shut" can be understood as saying things when you see people and talking about ghosts, or you can understand it as "talking less and doing more", and saying the right things at the right time.
There are some things that you can say to your colleagues but you can't say to your leaders, and some things you can say to your leaders but you can't talk about them with your colleagues. For example, you can't talk to your colleagues about your work ideas, and if you are plagiarized, you can only blame yourself for being stupid;You can't say bad things about the leader, it's likely that you said it in the front, and it reached the ears of the leader later, and it was you who was uncomfortable in the end.
It's the same with leaders, there are some things that can't be said to death. The reason why I can't tell the leader here is because the leader plays a key role in our professional life. Here are a few things to keep in mind.
No matter what others say about the leader, it has nothing to do with you, especially negative evaluations, whether you deny it, you can't tell the leader.
There will always be someone who will "make a small report" to the leader, but this person must not be you. Do you think other people's negative evaluations leaders don't know?Don't be clever and flatter the leader and talk about similar topics.
If it's true, the leader doesn't want his image to be negative in front of you, and you know that the image of the leader is destroyed;If it's fake, will the leader explain it to you?
The face of the leader needs to be maintained, not taken out and stepped on. You can say good, but don't say bad. You just know it, you don't need to break it, whoever breaks it, who suffers. Don't think that you can gain trust by "making small reports" with your leaders, which can only backfire.
There are always some "bad things" in the workplace, the leader can see it, and he is reluctant to say it, but you have to talk about and communicate these "bad things" with the leader, and the leader talks to you, and in hindsight, it is likely that the heart is broken, and the leader does not want to talk about it, but you said it, put things on the bright side, and make it difficult for the leader to do.
For example, the ambiguity between colleagues, is this kind of thing not clear to the leader?But should the leader take a stand, or not?Isn't this embarrassing to the leadership?If you have to say it, you can only be boring.
Of course, there are some things that have nothing to do with people, and small things related to work, before you have done it specifically, you will first report to the leader about the difficulties you may encounter. To know inIn the logic of leadership, the person who raises the problem but does not have a solution to it is the problem itself.
Many things are seen by the leader in his eyes and remembered in his heart, sometimes it is not that he does not solve it, but it is not yet the time to solve it, and then you bring up this kind of "broken thing", but there is no solution to it, how do you guess the leader will look at you?
Therefore, it is common to see those reasons in the workplace, where the problem is clearly there, but no one takes the initiative to raise it。If the matter itself is not important or urgent, if there is no way to solve it, choose to shut up.
There are many "confidential" things in the workplace, some involving people, some involving things, and some even involving a series of things. Even if you know this kind of thing in your heart, you will always "don't know", let alone talk about it with the leader.
There are many things in the workplace that everyone knows by heart, and there is no need to put them on the table. Just know it in your heart, if you have to talk to the leader, that is, dig the pit by yourself and jump by yourself.
For example, promotion, layoffs, investment, and raising primary school ......This kind of thing, you know it in your heart, as long as you talk about it with the leader, or reveal it, even if you don't leak it in the end, the leader will suspect you, some things can prove your innocence, but some things, there is no chance to explain.
The leader didn't know who knew this, but if you talked to the leader, then even if you didn't leak it, it was the object of suspicion, even if you explained, would the leader really believe it?It is very likely that the more you describe, the darker it becomes, and the more you explain it, the more unclear it becomes. Therefore, "don't know" is the best choice.
Leaders are also people, and they also have a gossip heart, sometimes the leader gossip heart is overflowing, and may ask you something, if you say "I don't know" seems too perfunctory, the leader may not necessarily believe it, but if you want to say, and afraid of bringing trouble to yourself.
The correct response is to say "facts" and not "tell the truth". For example, A and B have an ambiguous relationship. You can say, "The relationship between the two is really good. But you can't say, "I think it's ......."”
It is a "fact", a situation that everyone can see and objectively exists;The "truth" always has the judgment factor of personal feelings, whether it is true or false for the time being, but personal judgment may cause unnecessary trouble.
Facts cannot be changed, but there is an emotional element to the truth in the individual. Avoid making trouble for yourself, the leader asks, you can answer, but it is very important to grasp what is "facts" and what is "truth".
As a subordinate, your evaluation of the quality of your colleagues does not play any role at all, and the leader may ask, but it is also used as a reference, or even looking for a reason he wants.
For example, if you have a relationship to greet your colleagues, the leader will naturally arrange if you want to promote and reuse. If you are asked for your opinion, don't think that it is a trust in you, it is likely to use your mouth to say what the leader wants to say, especially negative comments.
Of course, the leader may also be a reason to find support, and you need to determine your own thoughts, at which time your negative evaluation may affect others, and then do you think the leader will give you the "blame", or will you "dump the blame"?
In the workplace, remember a principle, say bad things to your face, and good things to say behind your back, and gradually you will find that it will have unexpected effects.
When power beckons to you, excessive modesty will make you regret it. - The Road to Wealth FreedomWe have been taught from childhood that humility is a virtue, but if we are too modest, we may miss opportunities. If you're a leader, do you like the kind of person who is confident, or do you like the kind of person who will "deny" yourself?In the face of opportunity, to be overly modest is to deny "yourself" in an implicit way.
Although you are just polite, the leader will not guess what you think in your heart, but feel that you have no confidence. If you don't even have confidence in yourself, then the leader will naturally have even less confidence.
In the face of the opportunity, take it first and then think of a way, communicate more with the leader in the process, communicate more, since the leader chose you, if you can't take it, the leader has no face on his face, under the effect of the tilt of leadership resources, as long as things are done well, then who will care about the problems you encounter in the process.
Things are done well, the difficulties encountered will become inspirational stories, things are not done well, and there are objective situations, but in the face of the opportunity to "deny" their own things, never do it, and don't say it.
Walking in the workplace, don't think that "keep your mouth shut" is not to say, but "to control" is the core, when you should say, you have to show yourself, you should not say it to shut up, the timing is right, the proportion is well grasped, and "speaking" is a sharp weapon. If the content is not nutritious and the timing is not right, it is likely that the "mouth" messed things up, and it is not surprising. Therefore, while mastering the method, it is also necessary to cultivate the art of speaking.
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