The marital relationship is a complex and profound bond, and if it is too clearly divided, the tacit understanding between husband and wife will be lost. As mentioned in this article, if a husband insists on living with his wife on the AA system, he may end up ruining everything for each other. Whose responsibility is this?It is important to learn from this and not to fall into such a situation.
In general, husband and wife are in an inseparable and indistinguishable relationship. Because in this relationship, you have me, I have you, and we are a family. What is the mystery behind this statement?Let's do it together. On the night of the wedding, the husband proposed the AA system of lifestyle, and the wife gladly accepted it and expressed her five demands.
Ms. Li, 29 years old:
Originally, I was reluctant to make this public. Unexpectedly, my husband actually filed for divorce. Five days ago, I left my married family, not out of my will, but because my husband forced me to leave. 5 days ago, I got married to my boyfriend, who is now my husband. However, on the night of my wedding, I chose to flee back to my parents' home. And all because of my husband's persecution.
It happened 5 days ago and I hope to educate all couples through this incident. Whether it is a couple or a couple, they should not choose the lifestyle of the AA system. Doing so will only ruin your family. On the evening of the wedding day, 5 days ago, I got married to my husband and I was waiting for his arrival in my room. However, when he entered the room, he did not walk directly to me, but sat down at the table. It makes me wonder, after all, we're married, why don't you come and stay with me?
Maybe he's going to have some water or a bar?Before I could figure it out, my husband suddenly said that from today onwards he would be the head of the family, which meant that he would make the decisions of the family. At the time, I thought he might be drunk and couldn't speak, so I didn't care. However, because I ignored him, he started to hit me and slapped me on the head. I was very angry, I had never been treated like this since I was a child, and I was treated with such violence on the night of my wedding, how could I not be angry?
I tearfully asked my husband, why are you doing this to me?Are you drunk?He responded, Are you drunk?I'm not drunk. That's when I got a glimpse of his true side. He told me that since I was now his wife and part of the family, I had to listen to him from now on. He noted that his life was relatively difficult.
He proposes that we adopt an AA lifestyle in the future. He thinks it would be fairer. You keep the money you earn, and I will do the same. With such an arrangement, you can take better care of your parents without having to be influenced by my opinion.
I tried to communicate with him, reminding him that the AA system could ruin the relationship between the couple. I wish our relationship had been closer and not so distinct. But no matter how much I tried to persuade him, he insisted on the AA system. What made me even more painful was that he did it to me again. He was angry at me just because I didn't agree with him. Faced with such a situation, I told him that if he could meet my five conditions, I would be willing to accept his advice.
The first requirement、Since the AA system is going to be made,Let's divide it to the end。 After that, we slept in separate rooms.
Even though we had just become a couple today, I originally felt that we should have our own space. However, it is you who insist on the AA system. If you hadn't insisted on doing so, I had no intention of parting with you. But since you ask for it, I can only accept it.
We've just stepped into our first day of marriage, and even so, I think we should have our own space. If you want to separate, that's the choice for you. Since you've decided to be so explicit, let's be thorough. I don't want conflict or argument with you. You can choose to rest in this room, and I will choose the study or guest room.
Now that we have decided to rest separately, if you insist on coming to my room, then there is a corresponding fine. You need to pay 200,000 yuan for each entry, and 2 million if it is a monthly subscription. It's not that I'm going to do it, it's that you've chosen it that way. Since you insist on this, then we will do it like this.
Article 2Since we have a clear share, let's also be clear about having a child.
I can have a baby for you, but you have to compensate accordingly. It is very difficult for a woman to give birth to a child, and her life is in danger during childbirth. Therefore, you must compensate me appropriately. For each child born, you need to pay 500,000 RMB in compensation. I want RMB, and you have to give me all the money before you have a baby, you can't pay the money first and then deliver it.
Give me money now that you're pregnant, or give me money first when you borrow money. Otherwise, I wouldn't have had children, and I wouldn't have let you take advantage. During the confinement period, you will also have to make compensation accordingly. Confinement is very hard, and you have to take care of your children. During this time, you will need to provide a subsidy of 10,000 yuan per month.
If I didn't agree to these conditions, I wouldn't have children. Even if you say I'm asking for too much, I don't care. Since you insist on separating so clearly and feel like we're no longer related, then why should I care?Since we have been so clearly separated, let us be so clearly separated.
The third request、This house is mine。 If you want to live here, you have to pay 3,000 yuan in rent every month.
The house is mine and I charge rent normally. Although we are a family, we have an AA system and our economy is independent of each other. According to such a rule, you need to give me money every month. If you don't, get out of my room.
The monthly rent of 3,000 yuan is not much, and if you rent a house of the same size outside, it will cost at least five or six thousand yuan. Divide five or six thousand yuan into two parts, and each person is about 3,000 yuan. In addition to rent, utility bills need to be shared equally. If you don't want to split your utility bill evenly, you can install a separate meter or meter for us and pay for what you use.
I didn't want to do that, but you forced me to do it. It's all about making you a little more comfortable, right?Since you don't see me as a family anymore, then why should I let you enjoy it here for free?3,000 yuan a month to rent such a big house is already very cost-effective. This arrangement is already working in your favor.
The fourth request、Since you said that we live in the AA system, then I can take my parents and my brother over to them, right?
You mentioned earlier that I have the right to take care of my parents. Since this house is mine, I want my parents to move in, right?I'm just going to let them live in my room and not let them interfere with your life. This way, you can also ask your parents to come and live in, after all, you have already paid the rent.
The house is so big, it's a waste to be empty, it's better to leave the room to them to live in. It is pleasant and happy to live together as a family. You can even ask your parents and siblings to come along, I have no opinion, as long as it doesn't disturb my life. You pay the rent, then you can handle the other half of the house by yourself, you can live by yourself, you can rent it to others, you can even let strangers live in, I don't mind, after all, this house is rented to you, you can do whatever you want.
As long as it doesn't affect my life, as long as it doesn't cause damage, everything else is negotiable. Therefore, I want my parents to come over, which is not excessive, after all, this house is mine, and it shouldn't be a problem for me to allow them to come and live, right?I will take good care of my parents and younger brothers by myself. You made me do this, and I didn't want to.
The fifth request、I will not do anything in this house in the future。
Not to mention housework, I won't do anything. Why should I do something?At most, I take care of myself and never bother with anything else. I don't care about anything other than my own business. Even if you're my husband, I won't take care of your affairs, for example, if you want me to cook or do laundry, I will never fulfill it.
As long as it concerns me, I'll take care of my own affairs, but don't expect me to do anything else. You can also adopt this attitude, it doesn't matter if you don't do anything, it doesn't matter if you do it or not for me, as you said, we are AA life, we are all independent individuals. As long as it is such a way of life, there is no need for us to embarrass each other. Therefore, you don't need to embarrass me, and you don't need to ask me to do anything, as long as you live your life well. Not to mention other trifles.
It's enough for you to take care of your own business, and I won't stand in your way. We're going to be able to make ends meet, right?When the time comes, don't blame me for not giving you face, and don't blame me for not being able to take care of you and your family. I explained this in advance. If you want to blame yourself, after all, you insist that we live an AA life.
Before I could finish speaking, my husband suddenly started hitting me. I was already slapped in the face just now, and now I have been slapped again. I didn't cry anymore, but now I'm being beaten and crying by my husband again. My husband angrily told me that I was just proposing the AA system. But you want to part with me. I don't agree with that. But since we've decided to live in AA, you have to agree. If you don't agree, don't blame me. I cried and said to my husband that if you don't agree with my five demands, then I won't agree to live an AA life either.
And just like that, I was beaten by my husband again. That's how it was treated the first night. Do you want to continue to live in the future?I cried and went back to my parents' house. Unexpectedly, after five days, my husband not only did not apologize to me, but even insisted that I agree to the matter. Forget it, since we have to divide it so clearly, then let's divide it directly, divorce.
What do you think about this matter, if it were you, would you choose to divorce?I didn't want to get divorced because my husband forced me to do it. He insisted on being so clear with me, and he didn't agree to my request, which clearly didn't take me seriously. If I continue to talk to him, I feel like I will be bullied by him in the future. Forget it, it's a hundred, let's get a divorce. Husbands and wives really can't live AA system. If you divide it too clearly, it is not a husband and wife relationship, and it is precisely because of this that I chose to divorce.
For this matter, if it were me, I would also choose to divorce. There are two reasons, the first is that your husband is hitting you. On the first night of marriage, your husband reveals his true colors. If you don't choose to divorce and leave at this time, you will definitely be hurt again in the future. Women are meant to be loved, not beaten. Since your husband has done something to you, do you want to stay?Another reason is that your husband doesn't treat you as his own at all. If you really think of you as your own, you won't insist on the AA system.
Aren't the conditions you put forward just to hope that your husband will not insist on the AA system?But your husband insisted on going his own way and insisted on AA system. Faced with such a husband, the decision to choose divorce must be made. If you are soft-hearted and stay, you will definitely regret it in the future, because in your husband's heart, he doesn't take you seriously at all. Over time, not only will you regret it, but you may also get more harm. Therefore, it is better to make a wise choice to divorce. Once again, I would like to remind all couples or couples that they must not adhere to the AA system when they can choose. The AA system divides the relationship between two people too clearly, and if it is too clear, it is no longer an intimate relationship between two people. 100 help plan