My name is Lin Xiaomei, I am 46 years old, and I am the sales manager of a clothing company. Although the salary is only 8,600 yuan per month, with hard work and strength, my position in the company is quite good. However, my married life has long been in name only, and I am preparing to divorce my husband.
Just last week, I received a letter from my in-laws saying that the town orphanage had taken in a new 1-year-old baby boy, and they were very distressed and wanted us to adopt it. The in-laws said that they are almost 70 years old and will die in a few years, and they hope that we can adopt this child and pass it on to the next generation.
When I read the letter, my mind was in turmoil. My husband and I have been married for 20 years, and the relationship has long faded, and this time I really can't afford this responsibility. I have already given birth to two daughters, the eldest Lin Huan is 18 years old, and the younger Lin Jing is 16 years old.
Mom, did you see Grandma's letter?What age is it, and it makes you *** too inauthentic!One day at dinner, the eldest daughter Lin Huan said angrily.
yes, we don't agree either!The youngest daughter Lin Jing echoed.
I sighed: "I don't agree with it either, but I can understand my in-laws' thoughts." They are all in their 70s, and they really want to have a successor. ”
What kind of inheritance, they are too selfish!Lin Huan said dissatisfiedly, "Don't they consider you?"It's unrealistic that you've worked so hard and have to take on a 1-year-old child!”
I nodded helplessly: "I know, so I will definitely communicate with my in-laws properly about this matter." Don't worry about it. ”
Mom, you have to think about yourself. You've already given so much and shouldn't bear this anymore. Lin Jing said with concern.
Don't worry, I won't budge. I reached out and rubbed her hair.
After dinner, Lin Huan and Lin Jing went to study, and I sat alone in the living room in a daze. I know what my in-laws think, but I really can't take on the responsibility of a child anymore. My marriage with my husband is just a name, and the relationship has long been over. I don't have any hope for him, I just want to end this hypocritical relationship as soon as possible.
At this moment, my best friend Xiaofang called** and asked me to go out for a party on the weekend. I was busy saying okay, I needed to come out and relax.
On the weekend, I arranged all the chores at home and made an appointment with Xiaofang at the café.
I smiled wryly and shook my head:"It's so annoying, my in-laws want me to adopt it with wishful thinking, completely ignoring my feelings. "
Xiao Fang said sympathetically"They don't understand you so much, you have given so much and you shouldn't be forced anymore. "
yes, I really can't afford to have another child. "I sighed,"My husband and I have long since died in name only, and our relationship has completely broken down, and I am already thinking about divorce, which will make it more difficult for me. "
Divorce, you say? "Xiao Fang was surprised"Is the situation so serious?Then you must no longer be at the mercy of your in-laws, you should be decisive and think about your own happiness! "
I nodded:"Well, I decided to have a showdown with my husband, and if he still wants me to adopt, then I'll file for divorce! "
Thinking about this, my heavy heart was actually lightened.
When I got home, Lin Huan and Lin Jing both looked at me worriedly. I reassured them and said that I would talk to my husband about it.
In the evening, when my husband came back, I plucked up the courage to say to him:"You've seen the letter from your in-laws, right?They make our idea of *** too unrealistic. We're both at this age, we're all in emotional problems, and the kids are against it, so I really can't agree with that. "
The husband said unhappily"My mother is kind, don't be so absolute. This child is so pitiful, we adopt him to accumulate virtue! "
I said:"I understand your mother's good intentions, but we can't just decide on the spur of the moment. None of us can afford to do that, and we shouldn't force ourselves to do what we can't bear. This is not only unfair to us, but also irresponsible to children. "
The husband said impatiently"The child is to be adopted by my mother, it has nothing to do with you, you just have to take care of it! "
As soon as these words came out, my head "banged", and I secretly cried out in my heart. I held back my anger and said calmly"In that case, I don't think there's any need for us to stay together. I will start preparing for the divorce process. "
The husband was furious and hit the cup on the table to the ground and smashed it to pieces"Okay, you Lin Xiaomei, I've been worrying about you for all these years of marriage!If you want to leave, I don't bother to care about you! "
Hearing him lose his temper like this, my heart was like ashes. Filing for divorce really hurt him, but I know that this is the only way out.
After two days, I figured it out and decided to talk to my in-laws in person. I called ** in advance to say that I was going to visit, and my in-laws happily let me go on the weekend.
On the weekend, I came to my in-laws' house as promised and confessed to them all about *** and the idea of divorce. I thought my in-laws would be furious, but I didn't expect them to just sigh, and my father-in-law said:"Our old couple really didn't think it through, and they mixed up the feelings between you and Xiaonong. If you say divorce, it's inconvenient for us to stay. Let's think about it. And please don't mind our old foolish thoughts. "
When I heard my in-laws say this, the big stone in my heart also fell to the ground. I nodded:"Then I'm relieved. You two need to take care of your health, I will negotiate the divorce with Xiaonong. "
After dealing with the *** issue, I began to prepare for a divorce from my husband. Although there were some quarrels during the process, a divorce agreement acceptable to both parties was finally agreed.
I told Lin Huan and Lin Jing about it, and although they were a little sad, they were more happy for me. Lin Huan said: "Mom, you have really worked hard all these years, I understand that you want to divorce." You are responsible for your own life. ”
Lin Jing also said: "Mom, don't worry about moving out, my sister and I will take care of ourselves." You also want to start a new life happily. ”
Looking at my two cheerful and sensible daughters, I felt a warmth in my heart, and I was glad that they understood and supported me.
So, a month after the agreed divorce, I officially moved out of my new home. This 50 square meter bachelor apartment, although not big, is a long-lost relief and freedom for me.
On the first night, I was alone in a brand new big bed. The thought of no longer facing my husband's sleeping face makes me feel extremely relaxed. I can finally have a new life!
The next day at work, my refreshed state was noticed by my colleagues, who came to ask me how I was doing. I smiled and said, "I'm divorced and I feel relaxed now!".”
Some of my colleagues expressed their blessings, while others advised me to cherish my new life. I know they're all well-intentioned. Leaving the marriage that has bound me for a long time, I also firmly believe that a better life is coming.
Now I live at a pace I like, and every day after work, I go to the gym for an hourAfter dinner, I find time to read, or spend time with my daughtersOn weekends, I go out with friends to watch a movie and go shopping.
Occasionally, I would attend a party organized by my colleagues in the company and meet some new people. They found me to be cheerful and capable of working and welcomed me as a team.
I also regularly take my daughters out to dinner and shopping, and they are at an age where they need their mother's care. Every time I see their happy smiling faces, I feel how happy I am to be a mother.
After the divorce, I put more energy into my work and took the initiative to take on some difficult projects. I also pay more attention to the needs of my customers and find ways to improve their satisfaction. It didn't take long for my boss to notice the change and praise me in public at a company meeting.
I believe that as long as I am positive, I will be able to live the life I want. I am no longer affected by the unhappy marriages of the past and look forward to a bright future. That's exactly what I want to tell all people who are in a depressing environment – you too can work hard for your life again!
Half a year has passed in a flash. In the past six months, my life has changed a lot.
I put all my energy into my work, and my performance was booming, and I was promoted to sales manager by my boss. While I work hard, I also spend time with my daughters.
Lin Huan graduated from high school a few days ago, and she wanted to apply to study abroad. I fully supported her and provided the necessary funds to study abroad. Together, we review the information and help her prepare her application materials. Yesterday she successfully received the admission letter from the university of her choice, and our mother and daughter were so happy that they couldn't keep their mouths together.
Lin Jing also began to prepare for further study. I help her connect with various cram schools and check her progress at any time. I believe that through our joint efforts, she will be able to achieve good results.
My relationship with my ex-husband is gradually easing, and we no longer talk about divorce. Occasionally, I would take my children back to my hometown and sit down with the family for a meal and chat. I understand that no matter what happens, we are always family.
My friends are very happy to see that my life is getting better and better after my divorce. I also often meet up with friends for sports and travel, and my life is colorful.
One weekend, a few of our friends went camping in the mountains and forests in the countryside. In the evening we chatted around the campfire, and I talked about my divorce and my new life. Everyone said that my courage and positive attitude were admirable.
Xiaomei, you are a female role model in our minds. It's really not easy for you to fight bravely for your own happiness. ”
Yes, your experience will inspire more people who have fallen into unhappy marriages to regain their happiness. ”
I was deeply touched by the encouragement of my friends. I smiled and said, "I will continue to live a positive life, and I hope to help more people find their inner courage and strength." ”
It was a new, sunny morning, and the sun was shining through the curtains on my bedside. A new day begins. I feel so happy and satisfied. Looking back, I don't regret choosing to divorce because it gave me the opportunity to start anew. Looking to the future, I am full of hope and believe that a better life lies ahead.
I got out of bed and stretched out wide, smiling brightly at myself in the mirror. A new and beautiful life, I'm coming!
As time went on, I gradually reached a small peak in my career and life.
After my daughter Lin Huan successfully studied abroad, I also encouraged Lin Jing to work hard to apply for a prestigious foreign school. Lin Jing had excellent grades since she was a child, and she quickly passed the selection and got an admission letter from a famous British university.
I couldn't be prouder of my two daughters. They have an enterprising spirit and the courage to forge ahead, which is very gratifying for me as a mother. I will fully support them in achieving their dreams in life.
In two years, Lin Jing will also graduate from high school, and I will be a real "empty nester" at that time. But instead of feeling lonely or lost, I'm genuinely happy that my daughters are about to spread their wings.
After they leave me to live on their own, I plan to explore some new ways of living. I can sign up for a painting or craft arts class to learn a new skill;I'm still thinking about traveling abroad, to Europe or Southeast AsiaOf course, I will continue to work to create greater value for the company. In short, a rich and colorful life is waiting for me to explore!
Just a few days ago, my boss called me to his office and complimented me on my outstanding work during this time, so he decided to promote me to vice president. It was an unexpected surprise for me!
I excitedly hit ** to tell my daughters the good news. They were all very happy for me.
Mom, you're the best!We are so proud of you!”
Yes, Mom, it's not easy for you to get what you are doing today with your own strength!”
Hearing the sincere wishes of my daughters, I feel that this is one of the happiest moments of my life.
Ever since the day I got divorced, I've been thinking about the meaning of life. Now it seems that even if we have experienced a low point, as long as we maintain a positive and self-improvement attitude, we will definitely be able to move towards the light again.
I would like to say to all of you who are at a low point in your life, please don't give up or lose hope easily. Hold on, because you will be able to climb the peak again and feel the beauty of life again.
I will continue to do my best to work hard for my family and career. It will also encourage everyone around you who is in trouble to regain courage and confidence.
In the journey of life, there are infinite wonderful!I will continue to reap growth and happiness along the way.
I am extremely relieved and proud that my daughters have all successfully studied abroad. It is there that they will receive a good education and grow up to be independent people.
Today, I have adapted to living alone. Every day after work, I go to the gym for a while and then go home and cook some light dinners. In the evenings, I would visit the bookstore and buy some of my favorite magazines or bestsellers to read at home.
On weekends, I'll go out with a few friends, maybe we'll go to the coffee shop for a chat, go shopping, or go out into the countryside. With them, I feel full of positive energy.
My best friend Xiaofang often takes me to various parties and meet friends from different circles. I am no longer confined to my old circle of life, but open my heart and accept all kinds of new things.
Once, Xiaofang introduced me to a special friend, Xiao Li, the son of the company. As soon as we met, I thought he was very nice, and we talked very closely. Later, he began to take the initiative to ask me to go out to dinner, watch movies, and go on outings.
Xiaomei, this young man has a deep affection for you!Xiao Fang said with a grin.
I was a little embarrassed, and said with a smile: "It's only been a long time since we met, don't talk nonsense." ”
It's so obvious that people are chasing you, it's time for you to take a stand. Xiao Fang continued to tease me.
I thought about it and felt like she had a point. I've been on my own for so long and I can really think about new feelings. So, I plucked up the courage to confess my heart to Xiao Li in person, and he gladly accepted.
And just like that, we began a sweet love. Xiao Li treats me very well, will bring dinner when I am working overtime, and will take care of me when I am sick. He also respected my independence and never controlled me too much.
I will also take care of his feelings. Once, when he was depressed because of frustration at work, I spent time with him and encouraged him to keep up his efforts. In the end, he reaped the greatest business success of his life.
Baby, thank you for always being there for me. Xiao Li said movingly.
My heart is warm. In fact, in a relationship, supporting each other is more reassuring than simply pursuing excitement. Just like us, love built on understanding and trust lasts.
Now I have a fulfilling job, happy friendships, and stable relationships. I often wonder if my life would have been stagnant if I hadn't had the courage to choose divorceChoose to continue to wronged yourself, or choose to give yourself a chance to change, and the results can be imagined.
So I want to tell all those who have been hurt in their relationship that choosing to leave does not mean that they are weak. On the contrary, it takes a lot of courage. It is important to preserve one's dignity and fight for the right to a happy life. I believe that there will be many more people like me who will return to happiness. Everyone deserves good!
After dating Xiao Li for two years, he formally asked me to get married. I could see that he really loved me and had a lot of affection for him, so I gladly accepted it.
We had a warm and romantic seaside wedding, inviting relatives and friends from both sides to witness our love. My two daughters also returned to China to attend the wedding, and they are very fond of Xiao Li and are very happy that I have found such a good partner.
Mom, I wish you eternal happiness!The daughters' eyes filled with tears of joy.
I am also very touched and thank them for their understanding and blessings. I believe that our family has finally ushered in a once-in-a-lifetime happy time.
After I got married, I quit my job and concentrated on my husband and children. Xiao Li insisted that I live an idle life and no longer worry about tedious affairs. At first, I was a little uncomfortable, but I gradually enjoyed the comfort.
Every day I do some light chores, and then I have a lot of time to read, practice calligraphy, draw, exercise, and go on dates. Every day is full and meaningful.
We also started to prepare to have a child of our own. After several failures, I finally managed to get pregnant. Xiao Li's meticulous care during pregnancy made me feel like a little princess.
Finally, our long-awaited baby was born. We named him Li Tianze, which means happy little angel. I will take care of his healthy growth with all my love.
Nowadays, our family of three goes out on an outing every weekend. I'll prepare an exquisite picnic and then we'll drive to the countryside and spend a day in the lap of nature. Watching Tianze running happily around the grass, our smiling faces were also full of happiness.
Life is like an unfinished journey, and the scenery will always change in unexpected beauty. I used to think that I was going to live in the shadows forever, but I didn't expect to turn around and be the light.
I want to say to all people: welcome new possibilities, because happiness is everywhere. It may be hidden in a small decision, or it may be hidden in a chance encounter. Be brave enough to start anew, and you will be able to take control of your own happy life!
At this point, a new chapter has been opened. I look forward to feeling the warmth of family for the rest of my life and growing old with my lover. No matter what kind of sunshine or haze life throws, we will hold each other's hands and experience it together.
I believe that as long as you have gratitude in your heart, life will become more exciting. That's what I want to say to everyone – be grateful for what you have and love your life.