Tan Jing and Sun Zhijun, a couple, have no real love, so they can only barely maintain it.
Although Tan Jing and Nie Yusheng have ended their relationship for 7 years, when she meets Nie Yusheng again, those good memories of the past are still replaying in front of her eyes like a movie.
Tan Jing has never been able to forget Nie Yusheng, and she also can't let go of Nie Yusheng.
Tan Jing and Nie Yusheng used to be a sweet couple on campus, the two met when they were youngest, and they thought that kind of love was eternal, but they didn't expect that love could not resist the cruelty of reality in the end.
Due to the complicated grievances between the previous generation, Tan Jing could no longer face Nie Yusheng, and she could not love the enemy's son, so she vented all her resentment against the Nie family on Nie Yusheng.
Tan Jing coldly left Nie Yusheng and deceived Nie Yusheng, claiming that she had miscarried a 48-day-old fetus, which was between her and Nie Yusheng.
Nie Yusheng couldn't withstand such a blow, so he fell into a state of depression for many years. Nie Yusheng didn't know that Tan Jing did not give up on that child, but took his son to marry Sun Zhijun.
Due to Sun Zhijun's lack of educational background, he had to make a living through his own physical strengthTan Jing failed to finish her college studies, so she couldn't find a suitable job after dropping out of school, she worked as a cashier in a cake shop, and the couple's income was very limited, causing their lives to become very difficult.
Sun Ping, my son, has a congenital heart disease, he spent a lot of time and money seeking medical treatment and medicine**, and the cost of the operation was at least 100,000. When it comes to living on a budget, I can't afford to pay for all the costs of surgery.
While Tan Jing was taking care of her sick child, she was also busy sorting out the chaotic situation for Sun Zhijun. Sun Zhijun often indulged in alcohol, gambling, and fighting, and Tan Jing was bored with this and helped Sun Zhijun with follow-up affairs many times.
Sun Zhijun fell asleep directly after getting drunk, while Tan Jing carefully cleaned his hands and faceSun Zhijun was detained for violence, and Tan Jing went with fruit to apologize to him and beg for his forgiveness.
Under this lifestyle, Tan Jing felt too tired, and she said that she felt as if she had experienced a death and was not sure when she would see her life improve.
Despite all the difficulties she faces, she has always maintained a positive attitude, she has a tenacious and independent character, and hopes to change the fate of the whole family through her own effortsShe is optimistic and open-minded and confident in life. Sun Zhijun, in the past entanglement, has always wanted to ask the Nie family for compensation through the death of Tan Jing's father.
But the real difficulty lies in the lack of funds and evidence, and Sun Zhijun repeatedly asked Tan Jing for funds on the grounds of "asking someone to help".In pursuit of wealth, Sun decided to invest in high-risk projects. Tan Jing knew that this was a trap, and she thought that her son's surgery was used to save his life, so it was impossible to pay Sun Zhijun.
In order to prevent Sun Zhijun from using funds, Tan Jing would ask her friend Wang Yuling to help save every time she received her salary.
Tan Jing advised Sun Zhijun to move on, like other normal people, and stop dwelling on the pastNow you don't have to think about it anymore. Sun Zhijun asked rhetorically: You almost think that I should live like a real man.
Sun Zhijun found that "being like a man" was an inner pain that he did not dare to say easily.
When Sun Zhijun saw the beautiful women passing by on the construction site, he, like the other workers, stared at their slender legs. However, the worker taunted him and said, "What you are looking at is actually of no practical significance."
Sun Zhijun was stabbed and severely cracked down on his co-workersThe co-worker's spouse expressed the opinion that since what he said was true, we could not go on
Sun Zhijun's private affairs are so straightforwardly treated as a joke by everyone.
Sun Zhijun tried various home remedies many times for the disease, but failed to achieve the expected resultsHis wife had been waiting for him to see a doctor. Sun Zhijun "didn't do that well enough", and in fact his life was quite heavy.
Sun Zhijun and Tan Jing, a couple, although they have no love and no sexual relationship, have been married for 7 years and have quarreled for 7 years. Even the neighbors suggested that what is the benefit of Tan Jing marrying such a man, it is better to end the marriage as soon as possible.
Tan Jing expressed this opinion: What you see is only superficial, in fact, he is very kind to me.
Back then, Tan Jing became pregnant with Nie Yusheng's child and lost her home, but fortunately, Sun Zhijun generously took her in, provided her with a place to live, and cared about her daily life;In order to ensure that the child has a hukou, Sun Zhijun took the initiative to propose marriage to He Tanjing, so that the child can grow up in a healthy family environment.
Sun Zhijun gave up many things in pursuit of inner peace.
In the original work of "With You in This Life", Wang Yuling had a shared lease negotiation with Jing and his wife. Wang Yuling is very familiar with their newlywed life, and the book also describes a memory of Wang Yuling:
Sun Zhijun's attitude towards Tan Jing was quite good at first, especially during Tan Jing's confinement, Sun Zhijun not only had to be busy with work, but also had to take care of Tan Jing and her children. He often rushes to wash his diapers when he gets home, and then runs to the vegetable market to buy ingredients.
At that time, Tan Jing was unable to work, and Sun Zhijun's financial situation was not well-off. Wang Yuling had seen Sun Zhijun haggle hard and soft with a fishmer in the market to buy a cheaper live crucian carp and then go home to stew soup for Tanjing.
Wang Yuling believes from the bottom of her heart that Sun Zhijun of that era was actually a quite outstanding husband and father. He is a very honest man and very assertive. However, as time went on, he gradually indulged in drinking and playing cards, causing his otherwise peaceful days to become more and more unpleasant. "I'm a big drinker, I drink two or three drinks a day. ””
In the original work**, Sun Zhijun did not show symptoms of "sexual impotence", but took the initiative to sign a document called "Separation Agreement" in the process of marrying Tan Jing. Before the divorce, the parties also had a warm and romantic time. Sun Zhijun has a strong interest in Tan Jing, but no matter how "vague" he is, he has never "touched" Tan Jing.
Sun Zhijun's refusal to have a "** behavior with Tan Jing is the man's greatest show of kindness."
Sun Zhijun used to be a very enthusiastic and good man, and whenever there was a family in need of help, he would take the initiative to lend a hand. Because Tan Jing was seriously pregnant and unable to apply for a household registration, Sun Zhijun married Tan Jing and created a happy future for her.
When Tan Jing faced the biggest dilemma, Sun Zhijun was always by her side.
Because Tan Jing was bleeding seriously during the production process and had no funds to buy plasma, Sun Zhijun used his own 400cc blood to transfuse her. Tan Jing's child has been weak since birth, plus the medical expenses of the mother and child, totaling more than 20,000 yuan, all paid by Sun Zhijun.
Sun Zhijun gave almost everything to save Tan Jing's child, and for Tan Jing, Sun Zhijun was her benefactor.
With this deep "kindness", Tan Jing will never ignore Sun Zhijun's existence;Because she knew that she was going to hold up a sky for him. What Tan Jing is really willing to hide for Sun Zhijun is her sense of responsibility.
In the original work of "With You in This Life", Sun Zhijun's only contact with Tan Jing was because Tan Jing agreed to her son's subsidized surgery from CM, but Tan Jing did not discuss further with Sun Zhijun, but signed a consent form.
Tan Jing couldn't afford the cost of a normal surgery, so she had no choice but to risk her luck.
Sun Zhijun angrily criticized the high risks of CM surgery and questioned why you would agree. In this regard, Sun Zhijun gave Tan Jing a slap in the face, which is described in the original book:
Sun Zhijun gave her a slap that was both cruel and accurate, making her completely lose her mind. This slap also completely destroyed her heart. Even though he hadn't been kind to her before, he had never touched her, and even if he accidentally bumped into her sometimes because he was drunk, it was just an act of his unintentional behavior. ”
Sun Zhijun, who is known as "sexual repression", actually lives a rather distorted life.
On the one hand, he loves Sun Ping deeply and hopes to raise Sun Ping as his babyFrom another point of view, it is difficult for him to face Sun Ping, because he is the son of his rival after all.
Especially when Sun Zhijun found out that Nie Yusheng was Sun Ping's attending doctor, his psychological state became more and more unstable. "I feel like I'm just an ordinary person, but that's not all I have, more often than not, I'm moved to tears by him. When the names of Nie Yusheng and Sun Ping were juxtaposed, Sun Zhijun's mind was full of reverie.
Nie Yusheng is the only person Tan Jing has loved deeply in his life, and it is also Sun Zhijun's nightmare.
Sun Zhijun has been married to Nie Yusheng for 7 years, and he has always been in fear, afraid that Nie Yusheng's return and Tan Jing will leave him.
Nie Yusheng has deep feelings for Tan Jing, and Sun Zhijun is also the kind of man who is willing to give everything for Tan Jing.
Tan Jing held Nie Yusheng's token in his hand, so Sun Zhijun ridiculed her and said: If you look in the mirror and look at your current appearance, will he still want you?
Tan Jing is deeply in love with her son Sun Zhijun, who always thinks that she is missing Nie Yusheng, a history that he cannot defeat.
Sun Zhijun suppressed and satirized Tan Jing, and their disputes in married life could not get rid of the influence of the three words "Nie Yusheng".
When Tan Jing and Nie Yusheng met again, a dead ash could be rekindled at any time, and Sun Zhijun's emotions became more and more complicated, he deliberately went to the restaurant to eat on credit, looking forward to Tan Jing's payment;Whenever Tan Jing went to him, he always chose to enjoy all kinds of entertainment activities outside.
At first, I thought that Sun Zhijun was a scoundrel, but in the end, I found that Tan Jing was having a hard time, and Sun Zhijun was also very sad.
Sun Zhijun and Tan Jing have been married for 7 years, but he has never been able to get true love, and raising his son for love makes him feel more wronged than Tan Jing.
Tan Jing mistakenly thought that only genuine concern would cause mood swings, and she knew Sun Zhijun's inner depression. However, she dedicated all her love to Nie Yusheng, and since then she has lost her feelings for Sun Zhijun.
In the original work of "With You in This Life", after the Nie family learned that Sun Ping was the son of Nie Yusheng, they tried their best to fight for custody. Nie Yusheng's father gifted Sun Ping some of the company's shares, which put the company in a difficult situation, and Sun Ping's shares became particularly crucial.
The main competitor of the Nie family, bribed Sun Zhijun with money, hoping to get Sun Ping's shares. Sun Zhijun, because he had never seen so much wealth in his life, accepted this "benefit" on the spot.
Tan Jing resolutely opposed Sun Zhijun's misdeeds, and she proposed to give him a sum of money so that the two could divorce and the child would no longer have any contact with Sun Zhijun;Sun Zhijun showed an attitude of reluctance to divorce from the beginning, and he adopted a rogue posture, insisting on peaceful negotiations until the last moment.
However, what Tan Jing said completely changed Sun Zhijun's mind.
Tan Jing said to Brother Sun: "When I first met you, your personality was not what I imagined. You used to be so considerate and enthusiastic, and you were willing to lend a helping hand no matter what difficulties you encountered. That night, I passed out on the street, and it was you who took me to the hospital, and you paid for my medical bills and bought sugar water and eggs for me.
In the past, the villagers used to say that you are a kind person who will take the initiative to find you no matter what difficulties you encounter, because you are willing to lend a hand. Even when you go out to buy groceries, you will bring back some green onions for the lady next door with limited mobility. Why do you seem to have changed over the years, and why do you want to ruin the impression you left on me?Have you really changed as a person?”
Sun Zhijun was stunned for a long time.
His pre-marital self came to his mind, a sincere, benevolent, and self-motivated man;He remembered himself at school, gentle, thoughtful, considerate. He thought that if he could live with her, he would be happy!Now, the smell of wine and meat and the strong anger on his body have made him disgusted with himself, not to mention Tan Jing, who he has taken care of for for 7 years.
A marriage that lacks love can not only make women lose the sparkle in their eyes, but it can also make men lose their charm.
Tan Jing's feelings for Sun Zhijun are not deep, when Sun Zhijun returns home and sees his wife and children, he gradually feels warm, but at the same time he feels a little lost. "My wife and I are divorced!Sun Zhijun was unable to avoid his responsibility because of his behavior of "breaking the pot and breaking it".
The mutual attrition between Sun Zhijun and Tan Jing is a burden for both of them.
In the end, Sun Zhijun finally understood that he had spent nearly ten years without Tan Jing falling in love with him, so it was better to let it go like this, and both parties could end the relationship with dignity.
Sun Zhijun is a man of deep love rather than possession, he has the ability to control his desires, and is known as a "real man".
Sun Zhijun accepted the proposal for divorce, and Tan Jing prepared a sum of money for Sun Zhijun as compensation to express his gratitude for providing a home for their mother and son, but Sun Zhijun firmly refused to accept it, he said so
I didn't help you for the money. Moreover, you have not only taken care of me to eat and drink in recent years, but also helped me pay off many debts. It would be unmanly if I asked you for money again. ”
From the couple's final farewell, we can feel that they are both kind people. Tan Jing advised Sun Zhijun to cut back on alcohol consumption in the future, find a stable job, and spend the rest of his life with a good girl.
Sun Zhijun expressed his emotions: "I really like you, but my attitude towards you is not friendly, I am really a complete bastard!."I hope you can get along well with Dr. Nie, I'm leaving!”
After Sun Zhijun experienced a divorce, he unreservedly expressed his love for Tan Jing and understood his one-sided feelings for Tan Jing, which also made him understand why he kept delaying Tan Jing and was unwilling to divorce.
In the 7-year ruthless and unrighteous marriage, Sun Zhijun insisted on his unilateral affection, while Tan Jing paid more attention to responsibility and morality, believing that debts are easy to repay, but what is really difficult to repay is emotional debts.