When I wanted to marry my husband, my mother didn't agree.
The reason for disagreement is that he is a single-parent family, his father died early, and his mother relied on a few acres of thin land to pull him and his little sister to live, and the family conditions were very bad.
My mother was worried that if I married into such a family, I would suffer hardship.
Back then, I wanted to give my sister-in-law a suite to marry, but my mother didn't agree.
My mother thinks that it is the responsibility and obligation of parents to marry their daughter, and it has nothing to do with my sister-in-law.
But at that time, I thought that first of all, I had such financial strength, and secondly, my sister-in-law's father was gone, and my mother was old and had no money, so I felt that my eldest sister-in-law was like a mother, so I should take on this responsibility for my in-laws.
It turns out that ginger is still old and spicy.
My mom raised strong objections on two major events in my life, and when I look back many years later, her opinions are correct.
At the beginning of marrying my husband, our family can be described as having no tiles on the top and no inch on the bottom. Because my in-laws' family was so poor, when we got married, we didn't even buy a new item.
At that time, my mother's family was financially acceptable, but because my parents were against our marriage, my parents did not give me any dowry when I got married.
My husband and I are self-made. My husband and I rented a bungalow near our local hospital.
How basic is that house?First of all, the house only had windows and doors, and there was a roof and four walls, and there was nothing in the house, not a single bed or chair, let alone pots and pans. It's like a home.
On the wedding night, my husband and I spread a lot on the ground, and we picked up a paper shell from outside, as well as a plastic sheet, so we put the quilt and mattress on it and slept for a night.
Such a simple house was our wedding room back then, and our wedding night was spent in such a simple house that could no longer be simple.
Although the house was dilapidated and old, it was our first home and the starting point of our life.
On the second day of the wedding, I took my husband's hand and said that we should work together to make money and make our lives better and better.
The shabby house was on the street and close to the hospital, where the two of us made and sold wontons.
We accumulated our first pot of gold by selling wontons. Later, we opened a small supermarket, and our life became better and better, and then I expanded the supermarket business to wholesale and retail.
The turnover of our supermarket has gradually increased from tens of thousands of dollars a year, and then to millions of dollars. When we had the money, we bought a building. radically improved our living conditions.
My husband and I became more motivated, and I told him that my mother-in-law and my little sister still live in an old house in the countryside, and we need to find ways to improve their living conditions.
So my husband and I worked harder, getting up early and greedy for darkness, wearing stars and moons, and making money with all my might.
Three years later, we made a lot of money, and we used the money to buy a house for my mother-in-law in the city, and took my mother-in-law and my little sister to live in the city.
Two years later, sister-in-law Xiaomei talked about a boyfriend named Dalin, when the two young people were happy with each other, but the man's family strongly objected, feeling that the woman's conditions were not good and there was no good job, so they did not agree to this marriage.
Da Lin couldn't help but break up with Xiaomei at home. After Xiaomei broke up, she washed her face with tears all day long, and she didn't think about tea and dinner. I watched from the sidelines, and I was really worried about her.
I advise my sister-in-law to regain her strength, you are a good girl, you don't have to worry about not being able to marry a good mother-in-law, Dalin is not blessed. Xiaomei threw herself into my arms, howled and cried, and said to me, sister-in-law, I have recognized Dalin in my life, and he will not marry.
My mother-in-law also persuaded on the side, she said that such a family, not because of you as a person, but to see if you have the economic conditions, whether you can bring wealth to their family, if you have no money, they will not value you, such a family can not be married.
My husband also persuaded my little sister on the side, saying that in the future, my brother and sister-in-law will definitely help you find a better family and marry into an in-law family with better conditions than Dalin's family, so that Dalin will regret it.
The three of us took turns to persuade Xiaomei, and our mouths were worn out. But Xiaomei just couldn't listen, she had to marry Dalin in this life.
A few months later, Dalin couldn't let go of Xiaomei, and even secretly dated Xiaomei behind his parents' back, and Xiaomei also secretly went to see Dalin behind our backs.
In just three months, the two of them have become very haggard because they miss each other, Xiaomei's big eyes have lost their brilliance, and their eyes are full of melancholy when they look at Dalin.
Dalin also lost a lot of weight, and the youthful atmosphere of the past was gone, just like a little old man who had aged 10 years all of a sudden. The beard on his face is unshaven, and there is still eye feces in the corners of his eyes, because he can't see Xiaomei, he doesn't even have the mood to clean up and dress up.
Xiaomei told Dalin that she wanted him to take her to elope, away from this place, to live in a place where both parents could not find them.
Dalin bit his lip and hesitated for a long time, saying, My parents only have one son, and if we elope, my parents will not be able to stand it.
Dalin suggested that either we cook the raw rice and force my parents to agree to our marriage, and asked Xiaomei if she would like to do so
Xiaomei suddenly had no idea, she was extremely eager to marry Dalin, but now Dalin's parents strongly objected, and they had no choice.
The little sister finally got out of Dalin in a daze. Two months later, I found out I was pregnant.
The moment she found out that she was pregnant, Xiaomei was happy and afraid, and happily, because she was pregnant, her future in-laws might accept her for the sake of the child and agree to her marriage with Dalin.
What I'm afraid of is how to explain to my mother and sister-in-law, because Xiaomei's education since she was a child is both strict and conservative, and it is a very shameful thing to get pregnant before marriage.
My little sister suddenly became a godless master, and she came to my store to tell me something. I pulled her to a small room at the back of the store and asked her what the hell was going onShe told the truth about her pregnancy.
I was also stunned at the time, I wanted to scold her, how could she be so ignorant, how could she do such a shameful thing as being pregnant out of wedlock.
But after thinking about it, Xiaomei was also forced to be helpless, so she made this decision, and she was also innocent. Things have come to this point, scolding people and not solving any problems, hurry up and think about it for her, how to get married smoothly is the right way.
I asked Xiaomei to go to Dalin to have a showdown with her future in-laws to see what kind of attitude her future in-laws had, and then our mother's family would make plans.
However, my mother-in-law still insisted on opposing this marriage, and she asked Xiaomei to take advantage of the child's young age, take the child out as soon as possible, and find a new man who can truly accept her and love her to marry.
Xiaomei was in a dilemma, and after thinking about it for several days, she still insisted on marrying Da Lin, so she went to Da Lin to confess to her future in-laws.
I thought that Xiaomei's future in-laws would agree to their marriage for the sake of her pregnancy. Unexpectedly, Da Lin's mother still did not agree to their marriage. Dalin's father said that if he wants to get married, unless Xiaomei's mother's family can marry a house, there is no need to talk about it.
Xiaomei ran back to me crying and asked me what to doI was very angry at the time, and I said that it would be okay if such a person didn't marry. Xiaomei cried to death and lived, and she had to look for death and life.
Seeing that Xiaomei tortured herself so painfully, and thinking that she was still pregnant with a child in her belly, she was a pregnant woman and couldn't withstand such devastation.
My heart softened all of a sudden, but if I want my mother's family to marry another suite, my mother-in-law does not have the ability, and only my husband and I will pay for Xiaomei to buy a house.
Unfortunately, during that time, our business declined, and our income was not as good as before, and we couldn't come up with a lot of money at once.
Later, I thought that the house where my mother-in-law lived was bought by my husband and me, so I gave the house to Xiaomei as her dowry, so that she could get married smoothly.
But this created a new problem, my mother-in-law did not have a house to live in, she had to move to our house to live with us.
But for the sake of my sister-in-law's marriage, I couldn't care so much, so I told this plan and asked my husband and my mother-in-law for their opinions.
They couldn't stand it either, and Xiaomei was tortured so much that they acquiesced to my plan. In this way, my sister-in-law took the dowry I gave and married Dalin.
After 10 years, my mother-in-law was paralyzed in bed, and I was busy with business every day and had no time to take care of my mother-in-law.
In the end, I really had no choice, so I went to Xiaomei and asked her to take care of my mother-in-law, and I was willing to take living expenses and hardship expenses, but Xiaomei resolutely opposed my arrangement.
Because of taking care of my mother-in-law, there was a big conflict between me and Xiaomei, and the two of us stopped communicating from then on.
Back then, Xiaomei needed a suite as a dowry when she got married, and I offered to give the house we bought to Xiaomei, but my mother was resolutely against it, and now it seems that my mother's opposition is very correct.
There is no regret medicine sold in the world, and I will not have any regrets for what I have done before.