Xiaoyan expressed her feelings in the house, and she was deeply distressed because her husband not only refused to let her return to her in-laws' house, but also forced her to accept living with her ex-girlfriend, and openly declared that he wanted to have two women at the same time.
Xiao Yan said indignantly: "I have been living in the hotel for more than two months, which is simply an insult to me and has also caused great harm to my daughter. I asked him why he didn't let us go home, and he actually said that he would want both as long as I agreed to be with the woman. ”
She explained that he meant that he could have two wives if she agreed to let his ex-girlfriend in the door;If she doesn't agree, she never wants to go home. And the ex-girlfriend will never be kicked out;simply forced her to accept this mistress.
When asked about his wife, he replied without shame: "One is at home with a son, and the other is at her mother's house with a daughter." ”
What the hell is going on here?Xiaoyan's husband cheated, why can he force his wife to accept a third party so justifiably?What is this husband's ability to take it for granted that he has three wives and four concubines?
Xiaoyan and her husband Xiaojiang have been married for four years, and they have been shouldering their ex-girlfriend's children for these four yearsAfter getting pregnant last year, due to an argument with her mother-in-law, she angrily returned to her parents' house to give birth to her daughter.
However, what she never expected was that she would never be able to return to her in-laws' house after her daughter was born. It has been more than two months since I returned to my mother-in-law's house, and my husband has been arranging for her to live in a hotel. Xiaoyan has always suspected that her husband is deliberately hiding something, what happened to this family?
Xiaoyan revealed: "That woman is my husband's ex-girlfriend, she and my husband gave birth to a son and ran away with other men;Behind me was the one who took the kid with me all the time. When I came back this time, I heard from the neighbors that the woman had moved into my house. ”
In order to find out the truth, the mediator then accompanied Xiaoyan to her in-law's house, but found that the door was locked and there was silence. There was only one big wolfdog in the yard, but the yard was full of clothes for her husband, mother-in-law and children.
At this time, the mother-in-law suddenly rushed to the door of the house in a rage, undisguised her anger, and did not have any intention of letting her daughter-in-law enter the door.
Mother-in-law: From now on, don't want to set foot in my house again. Are you eligible?My son's stepmother actually said such ugly words, and dared to beat my grandson, saying that he had no one to educate him, and as a grandmother, I was really angry to hear it.
Immediately afterwards, the mother-in-law motioned for the mediator to enter through the side door, and Xiaoyan stood alone at the door of the house. Soon, the two of them disturbed again. At this time, Xiao Jiang, the husband of the family, finally came out, and the mother-in-law saw that the situation was wrong, so she grabbed her son and gave him a few slaps in public.
Xiaoyan: He's my husband, what does he do to me and what does it matter to you!?
Mother-in-law: Why is it none of my business?My son, I can fight as much as I want!
Mother-in-law: What property do you have in our house?Not a penny. In my house, you have no place at all. It doesn't matter how much debt you owe me.
Xiaoyan: You scolded me for being a vixen for three days and two days, and now you call me a vixen in front of your son. Your son and I are legally married, and it was his fault that he made it. I wanted a divorce but he wouldn't.
After the mediator's persuasion, the mother-in-law's emotions finally calmed down. She said that her son's ex-girlfriend only occasionally came back to see her little grandson, and she also lived with her when she came back. Now it is impossible to let Xiaoyan enter the house again, and leave everything to his son.
The mother-in-law said that her son was very useless and borrowed money everywhere, and now most of the village has become his creditor. owed two or three hundred thousand, and when he couldn't find his son, he came to collect the debt. Every day, people in the family came to collect debts, so the door was locked and hid at home and did not dare to come out, and a big wolf dog was raised to scare people.
Mediator: Do you owe a lot of debt?All this money has been spent?
Xiao Jiang: I owe two or three hundred thousand, basically all of them are usury, and they have all been spent. The main thing is to lose playing cards.
It turned out that Xiao Jiang had not been doing his job all these years, playing cards all day for a living, but his luck was rotten and he owed a lot of debts. But what is the deep hatred between Xiaoyan and her mother-in-law?Are there misunderstandings and contradictions in all this?
Xiaoyan: I've always considered myself a big sister and wanted to handle the relationship between the three of us well. But my husband and the girl are younger than me, and I want to be a good stepmother. But my mother-in-law thought that I was a third party, and that I had ruined the relationship between my husband and his ex-girlfriend and caused her to leave.
I didn't know my husband until the woman ran away from home. My mother-in-law didn't like me from the beginning. The next day, Xiao Yan and Xiao Jiang came to the Civil Affairs Bureau to prepare for a divorce, but at this time Xiao Yan's attitude changed. She stopped her husband from entering the Civil Affairs Bureau, saying that she didn't want to divorce yet, and she had to negotiate the custody of her daughter first. The husband felt troublesome and didn't pay attention to it at all, and this attitude directly angered Xiaoyan.
Xiao Jiang: This is the second time that the Civil Affairs Bureau has been troubled, and in any case, it must end today, and there is no need to talk about the rest.
Xiaoyan: As a man, do you always have such an attitude?I've begged you again and again to be accountable to me and my daughter, but what about you?
Xiao Jiang: What else do you expect from me?I don't want to waste any more time talking nonsense with you, saying more is an insult to me.
Xiaoyan: Your mother is still abusing me for being a junior, so that his grandson has no mother;Say I ruined your and her family, say I beat that woman and broke up your marriage;Why don't you make it clear to your mom that I didn't know you until you broke up.
Xiao Jiang faced his wife's questioning, and he stopped a motorcycle and planned to slip awayHowever, Xiaoyan's obstruction made him very helpless, so he had to sit on the side of the road and squat and play with his mobile phone, without saying a word.
Xiaoyan: You have never considered me from my point of view. I married from so far away, how much pressure I was under;My parents can still tell that my mind is still on you.
Xiao Jiang: Then you go and say sorry to my mother.
Xiaoyan: You say I'm wrong**?I'm not wrong, why do you have to make me confess my mistake to your mother again and again!?
It turned out that Xiaoyan didn't want to divorce yet, and she wanted to save the relationship with her husband through her own efforts. The younger sister on the side saw that her sister was still obsessed with it, and angrily persuaded her sister.
Sister Xiaoyan: Why didn't you leave the divorce you said?Haven't you been harmed enough by him?The whole family supports your divorce;You have to jump into the fire pit nowHe owes so much debt, can you help him pay it off?
Xiaoyan: At the beginning, I also said that I don't want to get divorced, I don't want my daughter to live in a single-parent familyIn the future, others will say that her parents are divorced, and people who don't know will also say that I am a junior and say that I am messing around outside;This has had a great impact on my daughter since then.
Sister Xiaoyan was angry and cried when she heard her sister say such words. Asking her husband to meet at the Civil Affairs Bureau was just an excuse for her;For the sake of her one-year-old daughter, she never thought about divorce. But what is the relationship between Xiaojiang and his ex-girlfriend now?!Can he give Xiao Yan an explanation before going home to apologize?
Xiao Jiang: I admit that I thought that three people could live together, but I found that she (ex-girlfriend) was still out and about with other men, which I couldn't accept. During this time, she looked for me and ignored me, and then she found my mother and said that she wanted to see the child, and I couldn't stop her if she wanted to see the child;Even if she wanted to get back together with me, I wouldn't get back together;I'm here today to say that it's absolutely impossible to get back together with her.
Later, the two made an appointment with Xiaoyan to apologize to her mother-in-law, and Xiaojiang explained to Xiaoyan the real reason why his ex-girlfriend left in the first place, and tried to get his parents to accept them again. Then the group returned to Xiaoyan's mother-in-law's house again.
However, this time, the mother-in-law still did not open the door to let Xiaoyan in. Xiaoyan's sister stood at the door and was upset for her sister, but this behavior angered her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law unceremoniously threw Xiaoyan's clothes down from the second floor, while Grandma Xiaojiang was holding a snakeskin bag downstairs and putting everything thrown into the bag one by one.
Xiaoyan's sister said indignantly: "Let me tell you, everything that is broken is my sister's, you can do it yourself, and if it is broken, you will have to pay according to the price!"”
A mediator stepped forward and said, "Auntie, don't be like this, even if the two of them want to divorce, they should get together and disperse, there is no need to make trouble like this." ”
As Xiaoyan's belongings and clothes flew down from the upper floor, the marriage also came to an end. The mother-in-law went downstairs and threw her clothes directly at the door of the house, and in the end, the two parties did not choose to separate decently, but chose to tear each other's faces.
Xiaoyan's sister blamed her brother-in-law: "Now that you're getting a divorce, don't you let me clean up my things?"Isn't it a shame to be kicked out of the house in your village?Okay now, my sister has become a junior, why should my sister be bullied like this by you?”
Xiao Yan said coldly: "Since your mother has done things so desperately, there is no need to be together. It's okay to divorce, but the daughter has to belong to me, and you have to pay me child support. ”
The mother-in-law pointed to her daughter-in-law and scolded: "I don't care if you live or die outside, I won't give you a penny for child support!."”
Xiao Yan asked rhetorically, "Did I tell you?"I'm telling your son, what does it matter to him how his daughter raises you?Do I want you to pay?Have you ever spent a penny on me?”
The mother-in-law said angrily: "Don't let me do the best, I can get 100,000 200,000, I just won't give it to you, whatever you want to fend for yourself outside." ”
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law kept accusing each other in their respective dialects, and the smell of gunpowder at the scene became stronger and stronger. Xiao Jiang hurriedly pulled her mother to stop talking, but her mother-in-law was angry, so she grabbed her son and beat her again.
The mother-in-law said loudly: "Don't follow me, without a son like you, you get out of here!."I've raised you for decades, but you've turned your elbow out, I've raised a white-eyed wolf!”
In the end, the two sides scuffled together, the scene got out of control for a while, and finally they had to call the police to deal with it. A few days later, the two sides met and came to the Civil Affairs Bureau. This time, Xiaoyan did not try to save her husband again, and after two hours of mediation, both parties were looking for each other's problems instead of looking for a solution to the problem.
Xiaoyan: In the future, the child will be raised by me, and you must pay child support.
Xiao Jiang: Why should the child be raised by you?If I raise a child, you don't have to pay a cent in child support. If you're going to raise a child, I won't pay a penny of child support!
According to the law, the man may not file for divorce within one year of the woman's childbirth. If the husband files for divorce, he must file a lawsuit with the people's court. During the lactation period, custody goes to the mother. In the end, the court ruled that the custody of the daughter belonged to the mother Xiaoyan.
Xiao Yan eventually chose to give up her right to claim child support. Significant education and medical expenses are shared between the two parties. The husband and wife have no joint property or debts, and the divorce agreement is signed by both parties, and the two have never been in contact again.
For Xiaoyan, this is not the end, and it may be a good choice for her to stop losses in time. I hope that she can find someone who knows how to love her in the future, and her life will be better after leaving her ex-husband.