The expectations and desires of both parents for their grandchildren often make them urge their children to have a second child. However, for young parents, raising a child is already a huge challenge, and the responsibility and stress of adding another child is even more overwhelming. Although they were unwilling, they finally chose to be obedient in the face of the birth of both parents. However, with it, comes the waylifeThe changes and troubles made them regret this decision.
When the expectations of both parents become a reality, and the second child befalls the family, the task of the two elderly people is rearranged: to take care of the children. Daughter Tongtong was raised by her grandmother, but with the birth of her younger brother, her world began to change. She became withdrawn and scared, stopped playing with other children, and was often emotionally unstable. This made the grandmother feel unbearable, and the responsibility of helping to take care of the children was transferred to the grandmother. However, her grandmother and grandmother also felt struggling, and in the face of the children who loved to hug and cry constantly, she could only sigh and silently bear the responsibility and exhaustion.
In the community, this family has become a unique landscape, with two elderly people carrying two children at all times. Tongtong had just turned two years old, and her world was shaken by the arrival of her younger brother, making her emotionally unstable and unwillingSocialize with people。Once, when everyone was watching her brother, Tongtong stood aside with an angry face, she looked older than her actual age. All this is a true portrayal of the change in her heart. And the parents of the children basically have no time to take care of the children, they can only watch the two old people work hard in the journey of the child's growth.
From morning to night, the grandmother was almost holding the child tightly. Little babiesThe chubby body shape is prohibitive, and even the other parents in the community can't bear that kind of weight. This made my grandmother feel sick and numb her arms and exhausted. But she could only reluctantly accept this fact, because there was no other choice. Not so long ago, when two old men were basking in the sun,Little babiesCrying incessantly, they are busy looking for the cause. And at this moment, Tongtong climbed into the car by herself, but she fell and knocked on her head, and she cried bitterly. These things made the two old men anxious and regretted their decision.
Nowadays, the standards and requirements for raising children have changed dramatically. Previously, raising a child only required the basicslifeNowadays, parents are looking for the child's all-round development, versatility and politeness. This makes it much more difficult to raise children, especially for elderly parents.
For children, they are most comfortable with their parents. Once the environment changes, they will not be so obedient and submissive. If the elderly do not dare to take care of the children, then the problem is even more serious. In the past, people thought that raising one, raising two or even several children was the same, and it was enough to give more food. But now, raising children has become a "1 1>2" model, and raising two children requires more effort and consideration, because the factors that affect each other between the two children also need to be taken into account. These are all issues that parents need to address.
When should I have a second child?This should be a decision made by young people themselves, not the result of being rushed. Young people should be psychologically and financially prepared to ensure that they are capable of caring for and raising two children. They must take into account all factors, not just the expectations of both parents.
It is important for parents to be less intrusive and meddler. When children reach adulthood, they should have their ownlifeand decision-making power. As parents, you should give them enough freedom and space to interfere in their affairs as little as possible. When you get older, your parents should focus on how to live the rest of your life. If their children need help, parents can offer to help, but they should also do so within their own capacity and not push themselves. At the same time, parents should also understand their children's difficulties and give them more understanding and support.
Don't hold the idea that "having a child is for the sake of this family inheritance", which is a backward ideological concept. Too much worry and worry is not good for both parents and children. Times are changing, and so are the purposes and methods of educating children. Therefore, the less parents have to worry about it, the better it will be for themselves and their children.
To sum up, as a stay-at-home mom, I hope that through some of my perspectives I can bring you some positive energy and solve your problems in realitylifeProblems encountered in . Refuse to passively accept the expectations of your parents, and learn to think and make decisions on your own. When making decisions, consider your abilities and circumstances and make the best choices for yourself and your child's future. At the same time, as parents, we should also try to minimize interference and interference in our children, and give them enough freedom and space so that they can grow up independently. Raising children is a difficult task, but with faith and patience, everything can be changed for the better.