InHomeschoolingIt is a common phenomenon for children to be yelled. But when children are yelled, their reactions vary widely. Some children choose to remain silent, shut up and dare not speak up;Some children will respond positively and retort. Different responses may reflect differences in children's personalities and the influence of the environment in which they were raised. This article will explain the reasons why children should shut up or talk back after being yelled, and how to guide children to express their emotions healthily and develop a positive personality.
When a child chooses to shut up after being yelled at, it is a sign that they may lack a sense of security and self-confidence. Such children often feel that they are not good enough and have doubts about themselves when faced with criticism or accusations. They may think that their parents' criticism is correct, and they may be afraid that they will be rejected or rejected by their parents after talking back. In this case, they usually suffer in silence, trying to win recognition and love by pleasing others.
In the case of Kobayashi, she is a child with a pleasing personality. Because she did not meet her parents' expectations in school Xi, her parents often lectured her and even questioned whether she was their biological daughter. Over time, Kobayashi began to doubt his own abilities and worth. Kobayashi, who was originally talking back, chose to shut up after experiencing many blows. In order to please her parents, she tried to do housework and Xi, but was bullied by her colleagues. Despite her acceptance of psycho**, the people-pleasing personality did not improve much.
Therefore, when a child is yelled at and shut up, parents should reflect on their own behavior and see if they are giving their child enough security and support. To help children build self-confidence, parents should encourage children to express their thoughts and feelings, and not let children hold their emotions to themselves.
Unlike children who keep their mouths shut, children who are yelled at and talk back show a positive, confident, and assertive personality. When parents put pressure on them, they are brave enough to express their inner thoughts and do not compromise easily. Such children are also able to actively solve problems when faced with difficulties, and will not be deterred by the strength of the other party, and stick to their own positions.
Take the little niece as an example, she is a "back-talking king". Whenever her sister angrily accuses her, she always responds unrelentingly, not afraid of her sister's deterrence. The little niece's backmouth shows her confident and strong side. Although her parents were skeptical about her parenting style, that didn't mean talking back was bad behavior. Instead, this positive response reflects the child's healthy personality traits and their confidence in themselves.
For parents, it is necessary to understand the reasons why their children are yelled at, not just to think that their children are disobedient or ignorant. During the education process, parents should pay attention to their words and behaviors and avoid excessive use of roars. At the same time, guide children to express their emotions correctly and help them learn to communicate and solve problems actively. Good character literacy is an important foundation for a child's future success.
By analyzing the different reactions of children who are yelled at and shut up or talk back, we can see the differences in children's personalities and the influence of their growth environment. Children who are yelled at and shut up often lack a sense of security and self-confidence, and they try to gain approval by pleasing others. Children who are yelled at show positive, confident and assertive personalities, and they are able to express their thoughts and emotions bravely.
As parents, we should be aware of the impact of our parenting style on our children and create a positive environment for growth. We need to give our children a sense of security and support and encourage them to express their inner world. At the same time, we should also guide children to express emotions correctly and establish good communication and problem-solving skills. Cultivate children's positive character qualities from an early age and lay a good foundation for their future success.