Over time, we entered the age of sixty and became parents. And our children are in their twenties and thirties, and they are about to start a family. Decisions made at a young age reveal two different outcomes: wisdom and merit. When parents don'tPension, three unfavorable situations in the family were also exposed, which made people deeply regret.
As parents, we don'tPension, which will be an obstacle to the marriage of children. There was once an elderly fan who was very emotional, he was born in the countryside and belonged to the post-60s generation. Years ago, families were very poor and had very limited contact with the outside world. Most of the marriages of young people are with local people, and whether they have parents or notPensionDidn't think much about it. The bride price and the house were the only important considerations, nothing else was taken into account. In other words, no matter who the girl marries, she still has to farm, there is not much difference.
However, in the next generation of the post-60s, the marriage situation of young people has changed a lot. The conditions of the original families of both parties have become an extremely important consideration for marriage. Whether the parents havePensionIt has become an issue that many young people must fully consider. On the surface, this is seen as a manifestation of compradorism, disliking the poor and loving the rich. But on a deeper level, there is some truth to this criterion for mate selection. On the one hand, in terms of the pressure of supporting their parents, many young couples have to take on the responsibility of raising four elderly people at the same time. If none of the four old people have itPensionlifeThe cost becomes unbeatable, and it can be a headache. On the other hand, inlifeIn terms of freedom, young couples need to be responsible for the daily expenses of the elderly, two generationslifeIt seems to be closely connected, and the relationship is intricately intertwined. Also, for those families with multiple children, parents do notPensionThis means that the children need to share the burdenRetirementExpenses. As for each small familyEconomyThe situation is different, and the children bear itRetirementThe will of the mission also varies, which inevitably leads to disputes and strife. Young people face such problems when forMarriageDoubts and uneasiness may arise. After all,MarriagePay attention to the "right door". If the parents havePension, which will undoubtedly make the family'sEconomyThe condition is slightly better. And the other party's parents did notPension, which may trigger in the minds of young people to think, "Am I having a burden?".Is this poverty alleviation?"Marriage is not just a matter between young people, it also involves the integration of two large families. The actual situation of the four old people will beMarriageMake a big impact.
A lot of people in their fifties and sixties will hit the nail on the head and say, "I don't."Pension, but I have savings, and in the future I can find a part-time job to support myself without my children having to worry about it. "Yes, that's a good idea, but the reality isn't.
One. 1. Parents do not have a pension, which will become an obstacle to the marriage of their children.
When we were young, we had a lot of physical strength and a lot of enthusiasm for our work. We are not afraid of difficulties, because we know that even if we fail, we can start all over again. However, as time goes on, we have entered our sixties and have become a generation of parents. At the same time, our children are in their twenties and thirties, and they are about to get married and have children. Decisions made in youth will manifest two different outcomes in old age: wisdom and disadvantage. If we as parents don'tPension, the three bad truths of the family will slowly emerge and make us deeply regret it.
First of all, parents don'tPensionIt can be an obstacle to the marriage of children. In the past, due to the poverty of households and the lack of contact with the outside world, young people often married locals without much regard for their parents' specific circumstances, including retirement. They are more concerned about the bride price and the house, and whether they have it for their parentsPensionThere weren't too many concerns. To put it simply, no matter who the girl marries, it is the same, farming and living. However, in the post-60 generation, the marriage situation of young people has become very complicated. The conditions of the original families of both parties have become one of the important indicators of marriage. For a lot of young people, parents havePensionis a question that needs to be fully considered. On the face of it, it isMoney worshipThe embodiment of the disgust of poverty and the favor of the rich. But on a deeper level, there is some truth to this. First of all, from the perspective of the pressure of supporting parents, many young couples have to take on the responsibility of raising four elderly people at the same time. If none of the four old people have itPensionlifeExpenses are going to get extremely heavy, which is undoubtedly a headache. Secondly, for young couples,lifeDegrees of freedom are also restricted. They need to bear the daily expenses of their parents, two generationslifeEnvironments are interconnected and the relationships are complex. Also, for families with multiple children, parents do notPensionIt means that the children need to share the burdenRetirementExpenses. And for every small familyEconomyThe situation is different, and the children bear itRetirementThe willingness of the mission also varies, which is likely to lead to disputes and strife. When young people are faced with such a problem, for:MarriageThere may be hesitation and uneasiness. After all,MarriageIt is the union of two families, and the actual situation of four elderly people will be rightMarriageMake a big impact.
A lot of people in their fifties and sixties will say bluntly, "I don't."Pension, but I have savings, so I can find a part-time job to support myself in the future, and I don't need my children to worry about it. "It's a really good idea. However, the reality is often not so simple. On the one hand, deposits often don't last long enough. While deposits can settle some in the short termlifefees, but in the long run, the interest on deposits cannot compete with inflation. Over time, the value of the deposit will also decrease and it will no longer be able to afford the long-term of the parentslifeExpenses. On the other hand, the physical health problems that come with age can make it difficult for parents to take up odd jobs. As the body ages, physical health problems begin to worsen, and the intensity and skill requirements of gig work gradually exceed the ability of parents. In addition, sixty-year-olds have already entered the stage of old age and do not have to worry about it anymorelifeStruggle. The position of parents in the hearts of their children is respectful, not dependent on the help of others to get by. Therefore, even if their parents have savings, young people do not want to see them work hard and want them to enjoy what they deserveRetirementWelfare.
Parents don'tPension, will bring to the familyEconomyon the haunting. Sixty-year-olds are exactlyYears of serviceend, a few years before retirement. Most parents earn from their jobs, and with retirement, their income decreases. At this point, if notPensionAs a supplement, it will make the family'sEconomyThe burden has become heavier. At this stage, some parents will choose to cut back on food and clothing to reduce the burden on the family. However,lifeThe need is not negligible, to maintain the basicslifeThe level requires measures. This can mean that family members need to cut back on spending, and more stress and conflict can arise. Children may need to pay more to support their parents, which is given to themlifeBurdensome. This burden can lead to tensions in family relationships and affect childrenlifeand development. In this case, the child's education and personal development may also be affected, and conflicts in the family will deepen.
In general, parents don'tPensionwill be married to children and familiesEconomyadversely affected. For young people, parents'PensionThe situation has become one of the considerations for marriage. For families, parents don'tPensionwill increase the burden of child support, triggeredFamily conflicts。Therefore, parents should be young for themselvesRetirementPlan well to reduce the burden on your children and protect yourselflifeQuality.