My name is Li Mei, I am 30 years old this year, and I have been in love with my husband Wang Qiang for 7 years and married for 3 years. Married life is dull, with occasional minor contradictions. My mom is not in good health and needs to be taken care of often. I am good-looking, gentle and considerate. Wang Qiang is tall and handsome, with a straightforward personality but sometimes a bit stubborn.
One day, when I was preparing dinner in the kitchen, Wang Qiang suddenly pulled me aside and whispered, "My mother proposed to me yesterday that she could give us a little living allowance every month, but I hope you can also take care of my mother." I didn't respond at the time, and I wanted to talk to you first. What do you think of this idea?”
I was a little surprised, hesitated for a moment and said, "This proposal is a bit sudden, your mother is okay?"We're a bit financially tight, so it's good if we can really help. But wouldn't it be too tiring to run back and forth between the two sides of the house?”
Wang Qiang scratched his head and said, "I also feel a little embarrassed for you, so I didn't agree immediately." But I understand my mother's intentions, she herself is old, and she is worried that there will be no one to take care of her in her old age. ”
I nodded and said, "We'd better give this idea to your mom and see what she means." ”
The mother-in-law took off her glasses and said, "I don't have any considerations, I just see that your life is a little poor, and I want to help you share some financial burden." My own children have also gone out, and it is not convenient for me to live alone when I am older, so I can kill two birds with one stone. You are also a filial person, and it would be best if you could take care of me in my old age. ”
I looked at my husband and said thoughtfully, "Mom, we understand the conditions you said, and money can really help a lot." But my own mother is not in good health, and I have to go back to take care of her often. Running back and forth on both sides, to be honest, it's a bit unbearable. ”
Wang Qiang said: "Mom, you also know that Meizi is very difficult, her own mother is sick and needs someone to take care of her." It's hard for us to put any more burden on her. ”
The mother-in-law sighed and said, "Also, I only thought about myself just now, and I didn't think about it thoroughly. Meizi, you can do what you can. If you can take care of me, come and sit once in a while, don't push yourself too hard. ”
I said, "Mom, I also hope you can understand my difficulties. I will try to take care of you and say whatever you need. ”
The mother-in-law nodded, and did not make that suggestion again. It's just that I can see that she still can't hide the disappointment on her face. I understand her intentions and the difficulties of being a mother. It's just that this suggestion is really too overloaded for me.
I struggled with this question for the next few days. I know that my in-laws have also helped us a lot, and now that we are older, we need someone to take care of us. My own mother's condition is very unstable, and I am really worried about living alone. I'd love to take care of them all, but I'm limited in my ability. My husband still hasn't said anything, and I guess he's also very entangled.
That's when an unexpected opportunity presented itself. One day, my husband suddenly said that his mother called ** and put forward his previous suggestion again, willing to provide more living expenses in exchange, hoping that I could often go back to my mother-in-law's house to take care of her.
I was a little embarrassed and said to my husband, "I understand your mother's advice, but you also know that I really struggle to run back and forth." Do you think this suggestion is feasible?”
My husband hesitated for a moment and said, "I understand my mother's thoughts, but I don't want to increase your burden because of this." Your own mother is also unstable, so let's put her first. ”
I am very touched that my husband is so considerate of me, and he didn't treat me because of my mother. I know he's having a hard time making a decision. I decided that I would take care of both families as much as I could, and do everything I could to make everyone happy.
After a few months, my physical strength and energy were on the verge of limiting. Once, I took care of my mother until late, and when I came home, I fell asleep on the subway and didn't wake up until the terminal. This frequent rush and prolonged insomnia made me sick several times. But I didn't dare to tell my mother-in-law, so I had to bear it silently.
In the middle of the night, my husband suddenly called **, and his voice was very serious: "Meizi, you have to take a break." If you go on like this, your body will really collapse. Mother-in-law, let it go, you take care of your mother with all your heart. ”
My husband sighed at the end of the **: "Here it is again, when will you stop thinking about taking care of everything?."You also have to learn to rely on me and share with me. ”
I was silent. Indeed, in the past six months, I have suppressed my inner fragility and taken on the heavy responsibility of taking care of my mother and mother-in-law alone. It dawned on me that I couldn't and shouldn't always carry everything by myself. Maybe this time, it's time for me to really need to stop, talk Xi and learn to ask for help.
The months my mother spent in the hospital were the hardest days of my life. I've spent countless all-nighters day and night. Mom needs all kinds of checkups and ** every day, and her sick look makes my heart like a knife. Fortunately, my husband often comes to visit and does his best to help me with my life, which makes me feel very warm.
Finally, after a long wait, my mother's illness began to slowly improve, and all indicators were improving. I was finally able to breathe a sigh of relief and begin to adjust to my tight life. I begged the doctor to transfer my mother to the general ward, and then contacted a few of my mother's best friends, and they began to take turns to give my mother ** massage.
After another half a year, my mother was finally able to be discharged from the hospital. I was so happy that I immediately prepared a sumptuous celebratory meal for her and her husband. Mom finally smiled, and changed the emaciation and emaciation during the hospitalization. I was finally able to stop running around and take a good rest.
After my mother was discharged from the hospital, I decided to let her stay at my house for a while to recuperate. Although my mother-in-law will be more disappointed, I know that my mother's health is the most important thing. Fortunately, my husband was very supportive of my decision, he drove my mother to our house, and went to buy many supplements and nutritional supplements himself.
After my mother moved in, I felt much more at ease and could watch her recovery with my own eyes. During the day, I would be with my mom and chat with her or watch TV. In the evening, when my husband comes home from work, he will accompany my mother to play sports or chess. I also cook a few of my mother's favorite dishes. Now the house is lively, and my mother's spirit is getting better day by day.
During this period, I will also call my mother-in-law from time to time to report her safety. Although she complained a little at first, she also understood my difficulties and told me to take care of my mother properly. I know it's hard for her to accept, but I don't have a better way for the time being.
After a month or two, my mother finally basically recovered her health. I saw that her face was finally a little bloody, and she was in good spirits, and I knew that it was time for her to live on her own. After discussing with my husband, we decided to buy a house for my mother, and I will take care of her directly at my mother's house in the future. In this way, her quality of life can also be ***, and I can work with confidence.
So my husband contacted several local agents, and we chose a community with a beautiful environment and convenient transportation, and quickly bought a beautiful two-bedroom house for my mother. The moment my mom moved into her new home, we were all very excited. This marks that the mother has truly stepped out of the shadow of hospitalization and illness and ushered in a healthy and happy new life. She was so happy that my husband and I must come to see her often.
After that, I would regularly go to my mother's new house for two or three days a week to buy groceries, cook, accompany her in activities, and take her out shopping or watching movies. Mom's mood has also become very good, and her body has become stronger day by day. I'm glad I made the right decision. Although this means that my mother-in-law will be neglected, my mother is the most important responsibility in my life.