Author |Mr. Nai (ID: renshengxiuxing).
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Someone asked, "How can a person achieve a career in this life?" ”
Su Shi replied: "Go to the east of the big river, the waves will be exhausted, and the people will be romantic through the ages." ”
Wang Yangming once said, "It is easy to break the mountain, but it is difficult to break the heart."
The reason why a person suffers is because of the turmoil in his heart. If you want to cultivate your self, you must first learn to cultivate your mind.
Only by removing anxiety, reducing desires, and letting go of hesitation can you achieve a career.
Guiguzi once said: "When you encounter rebellion, you will not be angry, you will not be surprised when you are changed, and you should be very slanderous and not argue, but you can do a great job." ”
The road of life, ups and downs, a person's reaction to a difficult situation, can reflect a person's ability.
Looking at heroes from all walks of life, we will find that some people are doomed to fail, and some people are doomed to succeed.
And those who want to achieve great things must get rid of three things on their bodies.
Break the anxiety
What exactly is anxiety?
The Anxiety Self-Help Handbook says that anxiety is fear. Both are the same.
Some friends are in the workplace, they will be afraid that they will not do a good job, afraid of being surpassed, afraid of being replaced, afraid...
Too much fear turned into his anxiety.
Of course, let's not rush to completely dismiss "fear" just yet.
In fact, in a way, being scared is also a good thing to make us feel secure and judgmental.
For example, a person who is afraid to cross the street will look left and right to make sure that there is no danger before crossing the street.
Everything, there are two sides, too much fear, nothing good for him.
What if this person is so frightened that he can't even walk out, then what's the deal? How do you live these days?
So, don't waste your time on things you don't get, spend time on things in front of you.
It is human nature that people have desires.
But if you dwell on the distant, false, and beautiful things and ignore the things that are in front of you and what already exists, then you will definitely feel pain.
If a person thinks that he has nothing, and sees that others have everything, then he feels envious, uneasy, and more distressed.
We are too greedy, greedy for what we can't get, thinking that everything we have is justified, and once we lose it, we will regret it, so why bother.
When we are able to eliminate anxiety, be happy every day, and have more energy, others will be more willing to get along with us, everything will be smooth, and even earning money will be easier.
Get rid of excessive desires
It is important to understand that there are high and low desires, as well as good and bad desires.
Positive desires can make people progress.
On the contrary, if it is a negative emotion, it will make people fall into a bottomless abyss and fall into an endless vicious circle.
There is such a line in the movie "Parasite":
"Money is the iron, it irons everything. ”
As we often say, money isn't everything, but money can solve most problems. Therefore, many people want to become rich all their lives.
However, even if some people have money, they may not be able to live a happy life.
Because in most cases, the emotion in our hearts is just an experience, and it has nothing to do with whether or not there is a substance.
Once the desire is out of control, it is like a black hole, and no amount of things can be satisfied.
As Epicurus said, "The essence of affluence is not to alleviate troubles, but to transform them." ”
Leo Tolstoy said, "The lesser the desire, the happier life." ”
This statement makes a lot of sense.
Since ancient times, I don't know how many greedy people have died under unsatisfying desires.
Greedy people will only make their lives harder, and when their desires are not satisfied, they will lose their way and indulge in petty profits.
In fact, the property that each of us owns, whether it is a house, a car, a ticket, etc., whether tangible or intangible, is not yours, these things are only temporarily entrusted to you, some are temporarily used by you, some are kept by you temporarily, and in the end, it is not known to whom they belong to.
Therefore, for smart people, everything is a floating cloud.
Stupid people often lose under their own greed, and in the end they can't bear it and suffer their own hardships.
Keep your mind refined
The world is impermanent, life is always up and down, and difficulties always appear inadvertently, hindering our progress.
However, once you realize that difficulties are just a normal phenomenon in life, then, you will understand: beyond the difficulties, the destination is at hand.
The real desperate situation is not the desperate situation itself, but the weak state of mind when facing the desperate situation.
The more desperate it is, the greater the test of mentality. Desperate situation is not only an ordeal, but also a kind of awakening and sublimation of life.
Being alone with yourself, talking to yourself, and thinking with yourself is a process of constantly refining and strengthening yourself.
And this process is undoubtedly a process of continuous self-purification, as well as a process of continuous dismantling, reorganizing and shaping.
Lao Tzu said: "If you don't see what you want, so that the people's hearts are not disturbed." ”
If a person does not have a stable heart, he will not be satisfied with any amount of fame and wealth he will give.
Japanese writer Haruki Murakami wrote in "What I Talk About When I Talk About Running":
I don't talk to anyone for an hour or two a day, whether it's running alone or writing articles, I don't get bored.
I'd rather be alone and quietly reading a book, or listening intently, than with other people. With just one person, I can think of a lot. ”
It's an invisible force.
In the process of polishing the mind, being alone, and pondering, the answers to unreasonable, unpleasant, and painful questions will gradually emerge.
It is precisely because of this that we can eliminate our worries, balance gains and losses, cultivate our minds from time to time, let our minds be at peace, let ourselves have a loving heart for everything, and let ourselves not be attached to it, but we will not give up easily.
When you solve all three of these problems, everything will be fine.
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About the author: Mr. Nai, a post-95 freelance writer, seeks to correct the three views than the facial features. Here you will feel that life is just a practice, and you must always maintain mindfulness, righteousness, and infect the people around you with positive energy. Here you will find the charm of words, and a heart full of sincerity. Here, you'll have a friend to talk to.