I am 27 years old, born in a rural area, and since I was a child, I have not been taken seriously by my grandparents and my parents.
In their eyes, it is a great blessing to be able to feed me and grow up, and of course this phenomenon is very common in our village.
Most of the little sisters in our village went out to work after graduating from junior high school, and if it weren't for the fact that they needed to read and write, their parents might not even want us to study in junior high school.
But I was an exception, I graduated from junior high school with the highest score in the township to attract the attention of the leaders of the county key middle school, they made a special trip to my house to do work, promised that I would not have to pay any tuition and miscellaneous fees for three years of high school, and also give me a living allowance, my parents reluctantly agreed.
But when I saw the other little sisters who had gone out to work and started sending money to their families, they lamented more than once that I shouldn't have been allowed to continue my education.
In the three years of high school, I studied hard and Xi, was admitted to 985, the school sent good news, the township beat gongs and drums to celebrate, the county and township sent condolence money, and applied for student loans for me.
In the four years of college, I worked and studied, and I didn't ask them for a penny, and I repaid the student loan myself, so they didn't say anything, but every time I went home for the New Year, they would grow up and talk: It's not easy for our family to provide for you, you have to be grateful.
After graduating from university, I stayed in the provincial capital to work, and when I first joined the work, the monthly salary was only 5,000 yuan, and I sent back 3,000 a month, leaving only 2,000, so that they had a little smile on their faces.
I share a small house with my classmates, and I can't wait to divide every penny into two halves, and I am never willing to buy cosmetics, and my clothes don't exceed 100 yuan.
But I'm already very satisfied, and I feel that my future is stronger than that of those sisters who work and marry.
The year I graduated from college, my brother got married, and I saved 6,000 yuan for work-study at that time, and I gave it all to my mother, but my mother said that the big red next door, my brother gave 50,000 yuan at one time when he got married.
I've just graduated from college, this is all my money, my parents and brothers have a feeling that I have lost money in my studies, and I don't know how much money I have saved when I work for a few years, and I don't have as much money as I work for this book.
I only worked hard, wanted to earn some money, and did two part-time jobs after work, not only sent home 3,000 a month, but also saved some money in my hand, and went home to my parents during the Chinese New Year, they would sigh a little and endure the sentence What is the use of reading.
Last week, my mother's birthday, I prepared a gift for her early - a gold bracelet of more than 30 grams, which cost me nearly 20,000 yuan, which is my part-time income for half a year.
On the day I went home, my relatives also came, I gave my mother a bracelet, she happily wore it in public, everyone praised her for raising a filial daughter, and my heart was also warm.
But my sister-in-law was not happy, she spent 200 yuan to buy a dress for my mother, and I compared it, she sat with her face pulled up, and saw that everyone was commenting on this gold bracelet, she finally couldn't help but speak: I didn't buy me a gold bracelet when I got married!
Hearing this, everyone was dumbfounded, the scene was embarrassing for a while, everyone didn't know what to say, my mother hurriedly pointed to the gold bracelet I gave and said to her: Silly boy, these will be yours in the future.
Everyone listened to it and hurriedly agreed: Yes, yes, yes, the things of the in-laws' family will be yours in the future.
My sister-in-law laughed at this, and I was stunned: it turned out that everything I did was in vain, everything in this house had nothing to do with me, and although I was not married, I was already destined to be an outsider.
Thinking of this, I looked at the inferior clothes on my body, the shoes I bought a few years ago, and the worn-out bag, and suddenly understood, in order to get that little smile from them, I desperately detained myself, and why?
Shouldn't I take care of myself first? I blindly neglect myself, humbly please my family, and all I get is neglect, so why don't I focus on myself?
Through this gold bracelet, I realized that humble love can never be exchanged for respect and recognition, and only to make yourself strong and live your life well is what you should do.