Homeschooling
In today's society, there is an increasing emphasis on children's education. From a parent's point of view, they want to raise a good, independent, and responsible next generation in the best possible way. However, in the process of pursuing excellence, sometimes parents may unintentionally use some inappropriate words to bring harm to their children's minds.
These three sentences mentioned by Mr. Yang Jiang play a special role in the parent-child relationship, let's dive into ** together to see how we can avoid the potential impact of these words on children.
"Why are you so useless".
This sentence seems to have become a common word in the mouths of some parents, and when parents say this sentence to their children, it may not be malicious, but the words contain a denial of the value of their children. This negative evaluation can lead to doubts about the child's own worth and even affect future self-confidence.
I remember a friend of mine who loved to draw when she was a kid, but once at a family gathering, her drawings were labeled "useless" by a relative. This assessment had a profound impact on her, giving her a negative perception of her own creativity. Parents should focus on discovering their children's unique potential and developing self-confidence through positive encouragement to help them better understand themselves. Every child is a unique individual with their own strengths and potentials, and our task is to discover and stimulate these potentials, not to stifle them with derogatory words.
"I'm all for your good".
This phrase is common in the mouths of parents, expressing concern and concern, but overuse can limit the space for children to express their true thoughts. As a result, your child may feel unable to express his or her true thoughts, leading to communication difficulties. While caring for our children, we need to give them more respect and autonomy and encourage them to think and make decisions independently.
One example is my high school classmate who dreamed of becoming a dancer. However, due to the strong expectations of her parents, she eventually chose a major that was contrary to her interests. This kind of education that interferes excessively for the good of children not only makes children feel constrained, but also may make them confused about their own lives. As parents, we should respect our children's choices and decisions and give them the freedom to explore their interests and dreams.
"You look at people, and then you look at you".
Comparison is often a double-edged sword, and it is easy for children to fall into feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. Every child has their own strengths and weaknesses, and by comparison, the importance of individual differences may be overlooked. Parents should embrace their children's uniqueness, pay attention to individual differences, encourage them to discover their own strengths, and guide them to focus on their own progress rather than comparing themselves to others.
I once heard of a child who developed an inferiority complex because he was often compared by his parents with other classmates. Even though he does a good job in some areas, he always feels inadequate because he compares to others. Such comparisons tend to only allow children to pursue so-called "excellence" and ignore the importance of individual differences. As parents, we should be appreciative and encouraging, and pay attention to our children's individual differences.
When talking about these three sentences, Mr. Yang Jiang mentioned that "I would rather rot in my stomach" and emphasized the importance of avoiding these words that may hurt children.
Impact on a child's self-esteem
Each of these three sentences can have a profound impact on a child's self-esteem. For the phrase "why are you so useless", it often makes children feel denied in the family, generating feelings of self-doubt and lack of self-confidence. The family is the cradle of children's growth, and if negative evaluations are heard in this cradle, children can easily form a bad perception of themselves.
Impact on the child's autonomy
I'm all for your good", while expressing the concerns of parents, often becomes the end of the conversation. Excessive use of this phrase may deprive children of their right to think and make decisions for themselves. Children need to feel respected and understood in the family, not overly controlled and intrusive.
Impact on the child's self-perception
You look at others, and then look at you", it is easy for children to fall into the trap of comparison. Every child is unique and has their own growth trajectory. Through comparison, children may pursue so-called "excellent" and ignore the importance of individual differences. Parents should embrace their children's uniqueness, pay attention to individual differences, and encourage them to discover their own strengths.
The importance of homeschooling
Finally, we would like to emphasize the importance of family education. Family is the first classroom for children's growth, and parents are the closest mentors for children. By teaching by example, we can lay a good foundation for our children's growth. In the process of educating children, parents need to keep learning and improve their own education level to better guide their children to maturity.