When I was a child, I naively thought that my father was like a mountain and my mother was a vast body of water. The mountains are tall and majestic, the water is deep and inclusive, and the two are interdependent, forming a beautiful natural picture. However, as I grew older and the responsibilities of life gradually weighed on my shoulders, I gradually realized that my parents' "omnipotence" was actually a profound struggle. As the ancient adage says: "Only when you are in charge of a family do you know that salt and rice are expensive, and only when you adopt a son can you know the kindness of your parents." "When I reach middle age and look at my parents' words and deeds, I can't help but feel heartache.
Father, always silently endured suffering without saying a word. Compared to his mother, his father was always silent. In the big and small affairs of the family, the father rarely spoke, and everything was left to the mother to decide. Even when the children quarreled, the father just watched silently, occasionally reprimanded, and then threw himself into his own work. The handsome and wealthy men portrayed in TV series and movies are almost non-existent in life. Most fathers, living an ordinary and hard life, do not even have the opportunity to betray the family. Throughout their lives, they worry about the house. Some fathers feel guilty that they are unable to provide better education for their children when they work construction sites all day. Benjamin Franklin famously said, "No animal is more industrious than the ant, yet it is the most taciturn." "Our father, as unknown as an ant, toiled on the construction site and carried the burden of life on his shoulders. They may have gone through many sad days, but they never communicate them to their children. After all, fathers also have face, and no matter how hard they are, they are still the pillars of the family. My father, who had lived in the countryside all his life, lacked professional skills. One acre and three points of land barely sustained the family's food and clothing, but there was no extra money to support the children's schooling. When I was admitted to the technical secondary school, my parents were worried about the tuition fee. During the summer vacation, my father went to the village forest farm, felling wood, carrying wood, building wooden bridges, and ......After a long day's toil, he walked home under the moonlight. His mother prepared a pot of hot water for him and massaged his red shoulders. The corners of my father's mouth curled slightly, and although it was painful, he didn't make a sound. When I was buying a house in the city, my father was upset that he couldn't help me. When I got the keys to the house, my father came from the countryside and offered to help with the small chores – picking sand and carrying cement. He said: "I can do small jobs, and by the way, I can also be an overseer." At this time, I finally understood: "It is difficult for a rich man to be a man without money." "Most fathers belong to the latter. The father's silence needs to be carefully interpreted, it is not "silence is golden", but it conveys two messages: humility and suffering are borne silently, not passed on to children.
Mothers, who are always too frugal, are willing to save every cent for their children. Human beings are born with an instinct to harm others and self-interest, but mothers are in the opposite nature – they are willing to save money for the sake of their children. The mother of Tao Kan, a famous general in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, was young and widowed and raised her children alone. On a snowy day, Tao Kan's friend Fan Kui came to spend the night, leaving no rice at home and no forage to feed the horses. Tao's mother resolutely sold her hair in exchange for food, and cut off half of the pillars in her home to use them as firewood for the fireHe even took a part of the straw mat out of the bed and fed it to the horses. Fan Kui was deeply moved and praised the reputation of the Tao family. After Tao Kan became the **, he inherited his mother's frugal quality and became extremely stingy. During the Su Jun Rebellion, the general Yu Liang defected to Tao Kan and was surprised by the Tao family's humble meals. Yu Liang left the shallot white when he ate and said, "These can be used as seeds to continue farming." Obviously, Tao Kan's concept of frugality has profoundly affected Yu Liang. Many years later, the Tao family once again emerged a famous general-Tao Yuanming. He lived a simple life, became impatient with the glitz and bureaucracy of officialdom, and eventually resigned from his official position. What's even more admirable is that Tao Yuanming's wife is also willing to accompany him to farm, living in a simple thatched hut, but always maintaining a neat appearance. From the story of the Tao family, we can associate with the reality of life at the moment. There are three reasons why mothers are too frugal: the family's low income forces mothers to adopt a door-to-door lifestyle in order to survive the difficulties of life. As a woman, marrying a man from an ordinary family means that you may face the reality of having a limited family income. How to maintain the family's livelihood has become a difficult problem for mothers to solve. His mother may have reproached him for his father's low income, but after the reprimand, his father was helpless. The mother can only find another way, and she can't choose to divorce just because the man makes less money. Moreover, not all women can marry a rich man. In fact, the mother's excessive frugality was a wise choice made in consideration of the family's lack of any financial margin. A mother's thrift and thrift are actually the best education for their children. When it comes to educating their children, mothers are thoughtful. When the mother falls into the situation of "it is difficult for a good woman to cook without rice", slamming the door is no longer a choice, but an inevitable way of life. In the face of increasing household expenses, mothers hope to teach their children to Xi a frugal life. The mother believed that an overly extravagant lifestyle would lead to a lot of debt in the family. While the family continues to prosper, mothers need to show their children through their own example that a hard and simple life is worth pursuing. The mother was excessively frugal with herself, but generous with her children and guests. Many mothers will save money for the sake of money, or even save a little meat and egg flour for their children. However, when there is a need for a guest or child, they will not hesitate to bring out the best ingredients. Such mothers appear generous in the eyes of their children, but in fact they silently endure all kinds of grievances behind their backs. Perhaps while the family and children are eating delicious food, the mother herself can only silently taste simple brine vegetables in the kitchen. When we enter middle age, there is a woman who knows how to be too frugal, which is a kind of happiness, and it is also the key to the family's surplus every year.
The ancients said: "What is the value of a thatched hut, you can't go to your parents' hometown." "Our parents' homes may be simple or remote, but we should not dislike them, but we should often go back to them. Your parents may not be able to buy you a house in the city, offer a well-paid job, or even be able to scrape together enough money for the bride price when you get married. But none of this matters, because what parents give far exceeds material needs. In the bits and pieces of life, we have cultivated our life Xi and given us wordless touch. When people reach middle age, they are old and young, but they are still alone;And the same was true of the parents back then.