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It should be a happy thing for two people to meet and fall in love, and finally walk on the red carpet.
As the writer Qian Zhongshu wrote in "The Siege of the City": Marriage is like a besieged city, people on the outside want to come in, and people on the inside want to go out.
The vast majority of people's married life is a trivial and smoky place. Two people who used to love each other have now become very incompatible.
But in fact, Dale Carnegie wrote a book called "The Weakness of Human Nature", which was well received by many netizens, and the Douban score was also very high.
This book devotes a whole chapter to telling you the three secrets of a happy married life, and I hope you can read this book well, apply the knowledge in the book to practice, and harvest a better marriage.
When you read The Weakness of Human Nature, you will be blown away by this passage from the book:
Chicago Judge Joseph Sabas has handled 40,000 matrimonial lawsuits and mediated 2,000 couples. "Most marital unhappiness is caused by trivialities," he said. When the husband is away, the wife's gentle goodbye can prevent divorce. ”
As the saying goes: a thousand-mile embankment is destroyed by an ant's nest.
When many couples are together for the first time, they care about the details and everything is perfect.
For example, always wondering what the other person is doingWhat do you eat for three meals a day?Are you happy enough?
But after marriage, many small things are overlooked.
We also often hear them say, "Old couple, no need. ”
So love is worn out little by little, and finally disappears.
Therefore, no matter how small it is, you should uphold the belief that you either don't do it or do it well.
If you take your lover seriously, your husband and wife will be happier.
Dale Carnegie asks people in his book:
Why would you wait until your wife is sick and hospitalized to buy her flowers?Why don't you buy a bouquet of roses and go home right away?Since you like novelty, use this as an opportunity to experiment and see how it develops.
Women care a lot about rituals, and if on some important holidays, a woman does not receive a gift from a man to express her love, she will be particularly angry.
Just like star Sun Yi once publicly ridiculed her ex-husband Dong Zijian on a variety show for not preparing any gifts for her on Valentine's Day and her birthday, which made her extremely disappointed.
In addition, husband and wife should not forget to thank each other for their hard work just because they are married.
The man dragged his tired body home after work, hoping that his gentle wife would comfort him;A woman, even if she stays at home full-time as a housewife, wants the man to thank her for making a good meal and keeping the house in order.
Husbands and wives live together and cannot turn a blind eye to each other's efforts. But there is a pair of eyes that are good at discovering, and often say these two words to each other:
I love you so much. And "Thank you, my dearest." ”
Expression is really important in a relationship, maybe you are not good at words, but if you want a better marriage, you can make appropriate changes.
Some people say: the needs of men and women in relationships are different, men want to be worshipped, women want to be loved.
But whether men or women, they want to be praised, not criticized, and this is a weakness of human nature.
If a woman buys a new dress or gets a new haircut, she wants to hear her husband say that she is beautiful.
If a man gets a promotion, a raise, or a new achievement, he wants to hear his wife tell him how great he is.
And those who are sincerely praised will go to the soup for those who appreciate him!