Dong Yuhui talked about his growth experience in a live broadcast.
When he was in college, he had extremely low self-esteem because of his poor family and shallow knowledge.
For a long time, he locked himself in the dormitory, but instead of being passive and decadent like other frustrated youths, he went to the library to borrow a large stack of books and buried himself in hard reading.
Looking at it, I didn't feel that most of the boredom dissipated, and my heart was much stronger.
More than ten years later, fortune has changed, and he has become a leader in the live broadcast industry with his knowledge and eloquence.
Someone once asked: "As an ordinary person, how do you deal with the ups and downs of fate?"”
Dong Yuhui replied: "Read more in times of adversity, and do more things in good times." ”
Life is a winding river, and when you cultivate a soft posture, you can easily bypass the ditch of life.
Read more in times of adversity
Yu Minhong received a very special guest in the "Old Yu Dialogue".
Compared with a group of business elites and academic tycoons, this person is not only not famous, but also has a disability.
He is Liu Daming, a typical representative of the "hard-working people" in this world.
Born in 1994, he suffers from a congenital rare disease, has undergone 9 fractures and 11 major surgeries.
shattered bones", he felt helpless more than once.
When I was in school, I was ridiculed as a monster by my classmates because of the steel needles on my body;I finally survived until graduation, and I couldn't make money to support myself.
Seeing that the road of life was blocked, by chance, Liu Daming read a sentence from Nietzsche
"What does not destroy me will make me strong."”
At that moment, he was struck by this sentence, and his spirit was lifted, and he began to think about what had happened to him.
Fate gave him a broken body, but it did not deprive him of his independent soul;His body did not allow him to go out and do things, but it did not hinder him from studying and studying.
*: Visual China.
Since then, he has stopped being pessimistic and devoted himself to reading.
Watching Yu Hua's "Alive", he knows that in this world, he is not the only one who suffers, and he is not alone;
Watching Zhang Ailing's "Half Life", he understands that colorful clouds are fleeting, fate is easy to disperse, and everything cannot be forced;
Reading Zhuangzi's "Autumn Water", he tried to think about the philosophy of life and had a more open-minded realm.
It turns out that even if you are not favored by fate, there is still a refuge in life.
Liu Daming wore a lumbar brace, supported his body with his arms, read hundreds of books on his stomach, and wrote an autobiography of 170,000 words.
Countless late-night hard reading, countless painful advances, finally made him live as "Iron Man".
During the conversation, Yu Minhong also talked about his broken moments.
He has also missed his studies due to tuberculosis, has been killed by gangsters for money, and has fallen into the abyss again and again.
But every time he couldn't hold on, he gave himself energy by reading.
Writer Zhang Hatshui said:"Where there are books to read, there is hope, and with books, the road will stretch under your feet. ”
Life is difficult for everyone, but as long as you are willing, there is always a book that can relieve you of life's suffering.
When you are restless, reading can soothe your mind;When you are helpless, books are the best guide.
Reading is the way to break the game in life.
Always remember: no books in the world can bring you good luck, but they can make you a better version of yourself.
Do more things in good times
There is a good saying: "There is no suffering that people cannot endure, only blessings that cannot be enjoyed." ”
We are all afraid of the water and hope that everything will go well.
But once we enter the good times of life, we are too easily corrupted by comfort and trapped by comfort.
Chen Huan, a business coach, has become a consultant for a well-known company from a small town with his own efforts.
In order to gain a firm foothold, he worked overtime all year round, every day, and finally became the youngest middle level in the company.
After that, he got a high salary and did things that he was familiar with, and his life can be said to have endured.
Before he knew it, he began to slack off, feeling bored in doing anything, and completely lost his enterprising spirit.
In just one year, he obviously felt that he couldn't keep up with the pace of others, couldn't come up with good plans, and lost a lot of customers.
One day, he asked a friend to meet an Internet celebrity, and he wanted to talk about cooperation, but he didn't admit it, but the other party said coldly: "Who are you?"Are there any good projects lately?”
This question suddenly made Chen Huan ashamed of himself, and he realized that he had long lost his competitiveness.
*: Visual China.
He learned from the pain and was determined to change.
In the first step, he quit his comfortable job, switched to business, and started his own business from scratch
In the second step, he paid close attention to learning and improving his skills, and took more than a dozen online and offline training courses
The third step is to put down your face, run the market like a newcomer, pull investment, and establish contacts.
He told himself that even if he lived a worry-free life, he could not let his guard down.
Eventually, he took his career to the next level and became a well-known career planner in the circle.
During the lecture, he reminded everyone many times: the better the situation, the more we must work harder.
I've seen a very incisive theory, called "good times management".
When people are particularly smooth, they must suppress their momentum, do not be public, do not be arrogant, otherwise it is easy to capsize in the gutter.
Kazuo Inamori also said that good times are greater tests than bad times.
In good times, we are too easily paralyzed by comfort and ignore the risks and crises in the shadows.
And if you do more things in good times, you can prevent problems before they happen and keep yourself invincible.
There is never a shortage of ** in life, no matter when, doing things calmly is the practice of smart people.
Life has its ups and downs, but you always have a way
A while ago, I watched an interview with the BBC and was once again moved by motivational speaker Lise Murray.
She came from a slum background, her parents were irresponsible "addicts", and friends and relatives never lent a helping hand.
Her entire childhood was marked by poverty, violence, loneliness, and bullying.
And she was not deeply involved in the world, but she also sank for a time and lived on the streets.
It wasn't until she was ordered to drop out of school as a problem girl that Lisi realized that if she didn't change, only a more miserable life awaited her.
In order to counterattack, she worked part-time while studying high school courses on her own, and then submitted an application for admission to a public welfare school.
Luckily, she passed the entrance exams without any problemsUnfortunately, upon entering the school gates, she found herself far behind.
But when she tasted the sweetness of reading, she was not discouraged.
In her spare time, when others fall in love and watch movies, she goes to the library
On weekends, when others go home to rest and relax, she skips classes and lectures.
Three years later, when she was admitted to Harvard University with excellent grades, everyone noticed that this girl who came out of the slums was so good.
The gears of fate were turned by reading in this way, and then Liz hung all the way.
*: Visual China.
Not only did she get a scholarship, but she also wrote her story into the best-selling book "Wind and Rain Harvard Road".
Then he appeared on the TV station, was praised by the talk show queen Oprah, and was personally received by Clinton.
She said goodbye to her bleak past and stepped into a prosperous environment full of flowers and applause.
But Liz was not paralyzed by honor and continued to actively devote herself to various causes.
Hold lectures, hold reading clubs, organize community activities, engage in public welfare fundraising, ......
She seems to have endless energy, and while counterattacking, she also helped many people.
Liz said, "No matter how you are teased by fate, you always have a way to fight it." ”
Yes, this is just like Dong Yuhui said, read more in adversity and do more things in good times.
Whether we are good or bad, we always have a way to find the right rhythm of life and take our own steps.
There's a good saying:
"Those who are willing, fate leads the way;Those who don't want to, fate drags on. ”
Life is a dual cultivation of mind and deed.
When no one cares, practice;When the stars hold the moon, cultivate the mind.
Dong Yuhui often mentions Su Shi, he said, if you are overwhelmed by life, just look at how Su Shi lived.
Su Shi has been up and down in the sea for 40 years, and his life is like a turbulent wave, with huge ups and downs.
When he was frustrated, he did not slump, he relied on reading and painting, meditating and meditating to stabilize his mind and hone his character;
When he was proud, he did not fly high, but built bridges and paved roads, opened libraries, set up medicine halls, and did things for the people.
No matter what the circumstances, he always has a taste for it.
Perhaps, you and I may not have Su Shi's great talent, but his attitude towards fate can be used by us.
As the old saying goes: "When the time stops, it stops, when it does, and when it moves, it is bright." ”
Life is a long way, and the tide rises and falls.
May we all be able to face it calmly, read when we should read, and do things when we can.
Encourage your friends.
Author: Jin Shanyue.